What should i do .......please help me
By rahul_dbest
@rahul_dbest (75)
India
April 27, 2007 2:07am CST
I am a college student, and have been in love with a girl from my school for the past five years. when i told her that i love her, she promissed to weight for me and assured me that she will reject all the proposals that would come her way.
but now she has agreed to marry the boy her parents have choosen,
What should i do if she marries that boy.......
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8 responses
@mystery5 (350)
• India
27 Apr 07
Ok you love her. But what about her? Does she love you? Is she traumatised that she has chosen to marry someone else?
A lot of girls find it difficult to fight against their parents, but if she wasn't truly interest in you in the first place, then she wouldn't have much to worry about. She might just have said yes to you because she might not have known how else to react, and might not have wanted to break your heart at that time.
But these things are all speculations. Try to talk to her gently, and tell her you're hurt and that you thought she loved you. Ask her to be frank with you and tell her and you won't feel hurt even if she says that she doesn't love you. Atleast you'll get the real story from her. If she really loves you, try to convince her that she can fight her parents, and see if anything positive happens. otherwise, there is no point, let her just go ahead
@envyash (85)
• India
28 Apr 07
If she has agreed to marry the boy, there are only two possibilities - either she does not love you, or she was not able to resist the pressure from her parents.
Talk to her and see if you can find out exactly what the problem is. If she does not love you, just forget her and start a new life
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
27 Apr 07
This is a very vague description of the situation, but I will try to give you some advice. Things change over the course of time. You have been absent from her life because you are in college and away. That saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is not necesarrily true. Sometimes it makes the heart forget. So, she is agreeing to marry a man who her parents have chosen. Is this her choice? Have you asked her? If she has chosen this as her life, then you must wish her the best and move on to something new. Maybe she is not the person that is meant for you. People who I thought I should have spent the rest of my life with, turned out not to be the person I should have been with in the beginning. So, I moved on through the heart break and now I am very happy with my life now. I hope this helps you, and I wish you luck.
@patricia24 (568)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I think if you really love her, fight for your love. But first ask her if she still love you, what is your stand in your relationship? Talk to her first before doing anything, it might clear the situation your up to. I think sha have a big reason why she will do that.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
There are really things in our life, that fail us no matter how we want it. Im sure, she is obeying her parents decision. Dont blame or ever get mad at her because you never know what will tomorrow bring. If you really love her, why dont you try to talk to her parents as a man. Tell them how you feel for their daughter. Have faith ans hope in your heart. There is no bad in trying. Goodluck!
