why i feel jealous to my hubby's female friend??
By brand4less
@brand4less (1061)
Indonesia
April 27, 2007 8:37am CST
i know this subject is sound silly, but it's lil bit disturbing me today so i think i just want to know if there is anyone in mylot ever feel the same way. well, it started today when my hubby wanted to go to some place that he's not familiar with the situation. i couldn't go w/him bcoz i must to do something. then my hubby called me and said that he will go with one of his friend, which is female to show him the road.i said yes. but when i hang up the phone i couldn't help the jealous sensation inside myheart! it's sooo stupid but imagining my hubby together with another woman..i don't like it ! do u guyz think i'm an over reacting and over jealous woman?pls feel free to critized me!!
2 people like this
3 responses
@wildflower0921 (181)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I believe jealousy among any relationship is normal. It only became over when you have no reason to be jealous. I believe that it's in our nature. However, we must learn to control it. Sometimes jealousy may lead us to wrong accusation or assumptions. We must first learn to understand our partners. Learn to trust him/her so that whenever he goes out you're sure that he wouldn't betray you in any way. Moreover, what you feel right now is a creation of your mind. So what I can suggest to you is try to think that your husband will not in anyway do something in the end the he would regret. Trust your love for each other. Love has a greater power to destroy evil.
@brand4less (1061)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 07
that's y i come2my lot just to ask what people opinion about this stupid jealousy and i thankfull for ur comment and others :) trust is the key
@winky73 (1404)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I think it's perfectly normal.....it's just your instincts kicking in.Anytime that we are in a realtionship and we think that someone from the outside is getting to close for comfort....we start to get jealous....which is absolutely okay.
How you deal with those feelings is what makes the difference.If you can trust your husband and you know that he won't do anything to hurt you....than you might want to try to ignore those feelings just a bit.If you think this friend of his can't be trusted...than you need to talk to your husband about how you feel and expalin to him why it makes you uncomfortable for him to spent time with her.
There is a fine line between a healthy dose of jealousy and being over jealous.
@brand4less (1061)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 07
thanks4ur comment :) it makes me fell that i'm not completely insane. i tried2ignore it by thinking that i trust my hubby completely. i'll try to tell him that i feel uncomfy about what happened even there's nothing happened :)) better spit it than keep it.. thanks again!
@Allieloopy (84)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I would feel the same way. Another woman is spending time alone with your husband. It's only natural. I wouldn't worry unless he starts doing it often.
Besides he told you what is going on so I think you are just fine.
But still I would have to fight down that green eyed monster too!
@brand4less (1061)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 07
thank u for feeling the same way :) yes he did told me that's y i felt guilty about this jealous feeling :) thanks4ur comment!