My best friend and his girlfriend (the problem).

I would love to say just do what you want and if she is jealous then that is her problem but if it was happening to me it could be so hurtful. You don't really know if she has had something happen to her that makes it so hard for her to trust people. I would say just keep seeing your friend as you would and when you phone the house say hi to her and try and chat to her and maybe she will warm to you. Maybe you could throw an underwear or tupperwear party for some girlfriends and ask her to attend. You give her some responsibilty so she has no option but to get involved and maybe that way she will see that you are not trying to steal her man. I think though outing it all and talking about it all the time to her will make her even more on the defence and she may think is you trying to cover her tracks. I have a male friend and we have often spoke about how people always interprate us as having something going on. Maybe this girl just has really low self esteem and sees a confidence or something in you that she admires.

She must be so jealous with you. And she must be crazy, you already have a boy friend and she still jealous with you and don't trust your best friend. Tell your best friend that something wrong with her, she totally don't trust your best friend. I like to make a friend with my bf's best friend. And try to now them as well as my bf know them. Jsut ignore her, she is a weird person i think

I saw your best response and I am surprised at the suggestion. will you breakup with your boyfriend for your best friend's sake. I was in a similar situation and what I did was I started telling my friend (he was married) he has to bring his wife along whenever he is coming to see me. I invited them both to after wedding party and I used to just go and chat with his wife too when he was not there and even offered to help her if she needs me. We bonded well and she respected our friendship too,her initial misgivings gave away as she realised we are friends and nothing more than that.

If ya'll have been good friends for that long she should be alright with it. If you friend doesn't want you to step off then I wouldn't. Try and have a talk with her and explain to her that ya'll are nothing more than just friends. Hopefully she will realize that and start coming around to you.

wow talk about the jealousy factor, well as far was what you can do i say nothing.It's still not your relationship its your best friends.He has to be the one to make the decision on if he wants to be with this girl or he's eventually going to go ahead and break up with her because he values your frienship alot more.Besides seeing how you two have been friends for over 20 years he might even think of you as family and knowing most people especially if the relationship isn't that serious he will pick family over her.

Nothing. It's her problem so let her solve it on her own. You didn't do anything wrong.

well i think she is jealous and like you said intimidated by you. Probably she views your closeness to him as something she would want to have with him but couldnt probably due to her over-bearing tendencies which would definately have an effect on her relationship. I just think you should invite only her out on a couple of occasions or when your friend comes around to see your boyfriend, you could make a trip to her place just to have a one-on-one chat with her. Tell her about the relationship (closeness) of her boyfriend to you, letting her know she should come out of her blindness and accept this in a subtle way, try allay her fears that you are just a normal friend and if you were in her shoes you would feel the same way also until you are reassured by the people involved. I tell you she would change when you get to reassure her that she might be presuming things that might not be there. You could also send her some tips on how she could up her self-esteem.

I can totally understand this situation. thing is my bf has a best friend for 15 years too (but hes a guy too). Even then i feel jealous of the time they spend together. Its just because of the history they have - I sometimes feel that since he knows his friend for more years his priorities would immediately lie there first. Its just that Im afraid of - hes explained it to me that its silly but I guess thats how humans are. What your friend needs to do is assure his gf that you guys are just friends and never give you more undue importance in front of her than is necessary.

Well by what seems here, the problem is not with your friend ship, but its their relationship.I mean if she cant trust him, why bother to be with him or love him?? as you have said, that you are wanting to cool off things and give his girlfriend some relief , but he wouldnt listen, so she should rather stop him from talking to you. actually why should you leave afriendship like that? either he should convince her to trust him or just keep her happy and leave your friendship, thats his girl friend and his problem so i really think they should clean things up between them, but i guess you are caught up ..........

I think she's a person who doesn't trust anyone.So i think he should dump her,because he can't go to some other places where a girl is.She's just jealous,but say to jealous.How can you ever be happy with someone like that.She cannot come between a friendship and if she doens't want to come to your place then it's her own mistake and she shows that she's jealous.

I was in a similar situation. but I was not in ur shoes, I was in ur frnd's gf's shoes.It took a while for me to accept her as a friends, but she was just a colleague at my n my bf's workplace. I doubted my bf cause everytime we had a fight, he would call her n give her all details of the fight, as though she was a family member or some very close friend he knew for years, when he knew her for only 4 months.I got really angry on her cause he claimed to be my good friend , n then hid the fact that she had spoken to my bf about our fight. it eventually became such a big issue, thanks to my short tempered bf, that he created a big scene at work, n made me feel even more embarrassed.I was in the process of just breaking up with him, when he finally realised his mistake n thn came back to me.Now we r good friends with Payal, (the girl who my bf spoke to), n everthibng is fine. She left the company, n joined another one, jst near ours , so she meets us occasionally.But unfortunately, whenever I see her, I remember the bad times we had to go thru in the past....

i think that when guy best friend girl n girl best friend is guy na so, they are no friends they in love. what ever u think i dont know. if u want to solve that types problems u have to do what ever u r heart tell. i think u have to breck up with u r friend becoz its u r friend home problem. what ever u want to do u do.

oke, i had also felt the matter that like that, but we also must understand about them, that we did not have anything, that i commented, have a nice weekend and bye bye zeppelin from indonesia

sometimes guy-girl bestfriend scenarios are so complicated. it is inevitable that the guy's girlfriend would be uncomfy and all. but it's pretty weird that after all the assurance everyone's been giving her, she still acts that way. it's so considerate of you to decide to step off considering your many many years of friendhip with the guy.. are you friends with his girlfriend too? maybe you should try talking to her...

Your best friend and his girlfriend are the ones who are going to have to deal with this issue. After all, the problem is her problem with you, not your problem with her or his problem with anyone. It is up to them to fix this, and not you. Just keep being there for your friend, and being supportive.