Husbands - They Lord It Over Their Wives.

I feel saddened by the fact that some men still have this mentality. I believe these men grew up in homes that do not respect the rights of women. But for me, that's not a reason for them to treat their wives like this. They might have seen their fathers, uncles, brothers and so forth, treat their wives as if they were slaves but they should not apply it to themselves when they already have a family of their own. Women, especially wives are generally, even by the Bible, taught to be submissive. But I think there is a huge difference between being a wife and being a laborer.

I am very lucky because my husband is not like this. My husband is very thoughtful and treats me as an equal. I also think that if you love your spouse you do not belittle them in any way. I have been very lucky because we have a great relationship and have been together for over twenty years. If you are with a man or a woman that puts you down or thinks they are better than you then this is not a healthy relationship and maybe you should get out. I alway say look deep before you leap.

Ah, but whilst this may be true, there are also some women who like to, and do, control their husbands, so no, we shouldn't give up gender-equality as a lost cause, the simple reason being that these kind of people like to control, or lord it over just about everybody they come across, not just their spouses. Brightest Blessings.

Yes, there are some husbands like this, many in fact. Why women out up with this "s... I don't know? It's better to be single, rather than married to put with this rubbish from certain men. No way should we give up gender equality as a lost cause. Just don't cooperate with men like this.

Great discussion here! + Now, in my house, my husband's an avid Torah reader (first 5 books of the bible) as well as the rest. In it, there's instructions on how a woman should act and how men should act. Trouble I've seen is that it's harsher on the female than it is to the males. Treat her as IF she is the weaker vessel. That's what the bible says. Some men thinks this is a go-ahead to treat their women like spit. Lately, my hubby tries to act funny for the boys and will tell me, "Shake a leg woman and cook me some food!" He got that from "Meet the Fockers" movie, but he fails to remember what Robert's character said next, "Never talk to your wife like that...treat her with respect." Sarah called her husband "lord", but he loved and treated her with the utmost respect. Respect...that's a word that seems distant in today's society. Hopefully, you've heard of Alex Baldwin's rant to his daughter. Well, the similar situation happened with us. I was away from the cell phone, skateboarding with my younger son. My hubby calls and my daughter answers it. When she told him that I wasn't available, he cops attitude and thus, ruined our beautiful day. This isn't something I can say, "Hey honey, if I'm not available to talk to you, then don't give Scrat such a hard time. Just accept the fact and talk nicely to her." He would give me such an earful and he's NEVER wrong...NEVER EVER EVER. Me, on the other hand, I'm wrong 110% because I'm just a female and I don't know any better. Really, sometimes I'd like to give my husband the biggest reality check slap in the face and let him know that I have feelings too...and that I can be right about many things. His rabbi would tell him that women know how men are like, but men are so stubborn they don't listen. If only they did.

Not all husbands do like this .. but yes there are many who lord it over their wives .. I found them totally disgusting and found them not much educated. I really hate these type of mans .. but though I have found many here in India

Gender equality is not a lost cause, and we can't let men think it is. A friend of mine and I were talking about that exact thing the other day, and we both concluded that men act like that because their mothers spoil them. As a result of that, some men expect their wives to treat them the way their mothers have. We need to treat children equally, and let them know that the world isn't going to protect you like your family does. Kids need to be prepared to face the real world.

no man has ever controlled me or any woman in my family so I really do not know what you are talking about. In North America we do look at husband's controlling their wifes, of course like anywhere else there will always be some but thank goodness woman here are smarter than that in general.

My husband doesn't do that. If he wants something he asks me very politely. I would hate to be in a marriage where there was that little respect but I know there probably a lot of people that are.

We should never give up on gender equality. Husbands controlling their wifes is a form of abuse. They need help to overcome their controlling ways. If the husband does not do this the wife needs to leave the husband and no longer be controlled.

I won't be that kind of husband to my wife. We have mutual respect for each other. We don't need that kind of behavior :)

Any person that has to lord it over others has a very big insecurity complex. They are not sure enough of their own masculine being to show the world, so in stead to prove then selves they become control freaks and bully's and abusive. Which makes them even more of a joke in everyones eyes. Sad pathetic men that have to do this, too much pride and not enough back bone. PITY

no husband and wives must good together

It is true that some husbands do try to control their wives. The male ego would not let a man have a wife who is more successful than him. In the same manner, a dominant woman would be less likely to be attracted to a less dominant man. There is a fine line between being dominant in a relationship and being abusive. Having a strong character is admirable. But when this dominance is accompanied by harsh and demeaning remarks, then it's an entirely different story. Nobody should be in a relationship like that, man or woman. Every individual deserves respect.