I am so heartbroken. I just don't know how to deal with this.
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
April 27, 2007 5:15pm CST
I am so heartbroken, I feel so helpless. My brother and i are very close but he has chosen to go down the wrong path. On Tuesday he will be going to court, he is looking at a 6 month mandatory sentence plus possibly more time for other charges. You see, he is heavily addicted to drugs and alcohol. He recently got pulled over in a car that was completely illegal, he was out buying pills, he ran the cops long enough for everyone in the car to take all the pills so they didn't get drug charges. Then he lied to them and gave them a false name, so he got falsification charges as well as failing to yield, running red lights, going down a one way street, driving on a suspended license for a DUI, improper registration, and no insurance. Well, he went to court for pre trial which was continued and then he didn't appear for sentencing. 2 weeks after that his girlfriend and him bought a new car off of someone, it wasn't even legal yet aand they decided to go and get drunk. They got into a fight and he took off in the car drunk and ended up putting it through a garage and into a house. So then he got driving on suspended second, DUI, no insurance, and property damage. Now like I said he will be sentenced on Tuesday but only for the wreck which carries a 6 month mandatory sentence. I am so close to him, I can't stand the thought of him being locked up. Maybe it's for the best. What do you think?
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Hi dedicated Im sorry to hear this. But in my oppion I think your brother needs this for him to straighten out his life. He is a total mess. Whey havent your parents done anything about this? You know he could of killed someone. Then what? Your brother needs to grow up and be taught a lesson. He is only thinking of one person himself. He doesnt care about you or anyone else. He is a looser. Just forget about him because your not going to see him anyway for a long long time. And Im glad.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I used to be but eventually reality smacked me in the face and I've changed my life. I wanted to be a better person, that was not the life for me. I wasn't quite as bad as he is though. I have been clean and sober for 3 and a half years. I've tried to use my life as an example but he still doesn't understand, he just says you have to make your own mistakes to learn from them, but that's just the thing though he doesn't seem to learn from them.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Wow congradultions I think thats great that you turned your life around. And you must have really wanted that because you are the only one who can do that. You cant worry so much about your brother right now and I know that sounds cruel but its the only way. Continue on the right path and soon he will follow. Take care
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am sorry that your brother has disapointed you in this way. I think it is for the best. Maybe he will take advantage of the programs offered in prison to help him with his addictions. God works in mysterious ways and this may be His way of helping your brother before he kills someon or his self with his recklessness. Thankfully he hasn't hurt somebody else already or he could be much much longer than 6 months. I hope he gets help behind the walls.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Yes, God does work in mysterious ways. This must be part of his plan. I just hope it works out in the end. Thanks:)
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@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
28 Apr 07
Be there for him... let him know you always will be... hopefully he will smarten up and straighten out but the only thing you can do is be there
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I'll always be there for him. Thanks:)
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@marenda (41)
• United States
29 Apr 07
it is a blessing your brother is alive and well and that he didn't get longer than 6 months. while i will not say him doing 6 months is for the best...it certainly will give him time to consider his life's direction...coming across this discussion at this moment is interesting because i just received and finished reading a letter from my cousin who is doing a life sentence without parole...
The best thing that you can do for your brother is be supportive and loving. if you can send him some uplifting material to read that would be great This may be a life changing experience for the better...so hope for expect and believe that good things will happen. try not stress or worry.
My prayers are with your brother.
God bless
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
2 May 07
I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. Life without parole has got to be hard on you for sure, this kinda makes my problem insignificant.. May I ask why?
@iszo07 (472)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 07
I am sorry to hear that. But to be honest it's better now than when it's become too late. It's a wake up call. And I believe it's a blessing in disguise. He is lucky because he just get to serve for 6 months.
You can save his live. You should guide him to follow the right way. You should tell him to learn from this mistake and not to do it again in the future.
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Well, it may be more than six months,we know the one charge is a mandatory six month sentence but we are unsure about the rest of the charges. Thanks:)
