I feel bad. I started to delete some people.

I have not and am glad I still am one friend. I had a housefire and have not been on alot. I hope you are patient with me and we continue to share great discussions. Take care!!

Nope- Most of my friends are active. I check them out all the time. If thy weren’t active- I don’t think I would delete them. Only because what difference does it make? I’m not getting e-mail notification about them because they aren’t starting new discussions. I guess if I had tons of friends I might delete the inactive ones. Don’t feel bad though-- they aren’t active anymore and if they do become active again they can ask you again.

I am kind of like you. I did take off a few that obviously have not been on in awhile, but then quit doing that. Now I only remove the mean ones, and the ones that do not do anything except post links and referrals. I do not feel guilty about them.

I've deleted one or 2 before, but haven't felt bad. They've been ones that haven't been around for ages or have known spammers on their friends list. Or it's becuase they've started discussions that I just don't feel right seeing here. Nothing to feel bad about unless it was a friend you didn't want to delete. You could always do another friends request and tell them that you accidentally deleted them.

I have waited for months to cut down my list. I finally deleted a few because I couldn't really remeber them or hadn't heard from them. I have no idea if they are still active or have been booted off he site for some reason. I don't feel bad about the process. If i should somehow find them active again, I can always add them back on.

I used to feel bad in the beginning but not anymore.The way I look at it is this,it's not right to accept or request someone's freindship then ignore them. I do have quite a few friends now and I can't always respond on a daily basis but I do the best I can. What I have decided to do is the last day of every month,I will go through my friends and clean house.Not only will I get rid of the ones who are ignoring me but I am can spend more time answering those who do.

Honey, sure glad you did not delete me. I just have not been really active on here anymore, but, I'm around almost daily for a little while. I don't get guilt when I clean out. Some people that asked to be my friend, never respond to my posts, or reply to the ones that I responed too. There is no communication at all ever, not even once in a while. So, I delete them. Have a great day my friend. How is the job situation? Huggers.

I don't like doing it but when I find someone who has less than 100 ranking or have not posted anything in over three months then I delete them. May I suggest that you not feel guilty as you can always request to be their friend again at a later date. +

You shouldn't feel bad doing that dear. You need to do that every now and then to clean it up and get those out that either have things that don't interest you or that just lost interest it seems in mylot I have done once or twice before...and like how I get my list managable so I can get to know everyone in a more personal level.

I know exactly how you feel. When everyone else was talking about it, I went to my list and started looking for the ones that had not logged in in awhile. But I could not bring myself to hit the delete button. Its a good thing I didn't because two of them reappeared after not being here for two months. Then yesterday, I found out that a friend had deleted me and it actually upset me. So after that, I won't be deleting anyone unless they send me bad things.

I feel the same way. I do not like to delete friends from my list, but sometimes it is necessary. I am on a monthly download limit and usually run out in about three weeks. My usual practice is to respond via the "discussions my friends started" and if I have to open page after page of discussions I cannot contribute to, I am using more download than I need to. I would never delete someone whose discussions I regularly respond to, but I need to keep my list as short as possible. If I need to delete one I usually pm them first, to explain the reason.

I do deletd some people off my friends list every month. I don't feel the least bit guilty becaus when I deleted them it because they have not responsed to any of my discussions, posted the type of discussions that I would respond to and if they have not signed on in a month. I am 100% sure they will not even notice I have deleted them as they have obviously forgotten about me.

When i first do it I do but then it's out of site (scuse the pun) out of mind. As you say, many of them haven't logged in or are not posting. I rarely post these days. If I come up with something newsy, I get no responses and if I come up with something off the top of my head, it's already been done a squillion times. A couple of my friends I simply cannot respond to their posts, one such person has done dozens of posts over the last couple of days and I can't respond to any of them. He's a bit of an egotist, always praising himself, tries to sound friendly but has a bossy attitude and is a fan of cricket. He'll be going next. Should I contact him first and tell him or should I just do it and hope he won't notice. I haven't deleted anyone for ages choosing to just leave my list as it is. If people aren't posting, I don't need to mange them. :)

I HAVE done this recently. When a poster has not signed in for 2 months, I figure they probably aren't coming back. And I want to give special attention to people who are really trying on MyLot. Since I don't want to have list of friends that I don't even recognize, I cut a few 'friends' off my list. Another person I removed because of some very alarming thoughts and language used in a post they created. It wasn't something I wanted to be associated with, so I deleted them as well. It has allowed me to add new friends to my list that are trying to be productive here on MyLot.

Elusive do not worry about I will be having a clear out again soon as it just seems that they are active for a while and then disappear I think it needs to be done now and again Yes I feel guilty but if we do not want to overload then we have to do it

I know how you feel i can't bring myself to delete them and i have no idea why. I don't even really know anybody here except through discussions. I even have a person on my friends list the starts nonsense posts all the time but the most i could do with this person was to turn notify off that way my inbox is not full of posts i wouldn't answer anyway.

I did this very same discussion and this was your response to mine.... I had to share it... ElusiveButterfly (5551) 1 month ago You are a gutsy lady! I have tried to pare down my list, without much success. I really need to get to it. You give me encouragement that I can do it too. I have stopped adding friends to my list unless they really have some points of interest to me. I feel guilty about that too. Huggers to you. Rated! matlgal (675) 1 month ago new name for me? The Gutsy-Guilty Lady" hmmm I like it... it has a nice ring to it. LOL. THanks for the hugs- I feel the same way about you! I always try to get to some of yours, your so ambitious it's hard to keep up with you! ElusiveButterfly (5551) 1 month ago Wow, ambitious, never been called that before. I like it! So do it and move forward. I have tried very hard to keep from accepting many more new friends. I am changing some things around so that I am better aligned with my intersts and people that are active and current. THe ones that haven't responded or haven't logged on for weeks? well obviously they have little time or interest, So.... I had tao take them off.

Don't feel bad- sometimes you just need to clean house! I've done it and don't feel bad. Especially if it's been 4 or more weeks since a friend has logged in. Obviosuly they aren't contributing to your discvussions and aren't posting and new ones, so what is the point of keeping them? I find a smaller Friends list to be much more manageable and I try to keep mine at around 30.

I'm tempted to delete those with no avatars to make my page look better but I can't get myself to do it... as I cannot turn down a friend request. Will they know if they got deleted from your list?

Yea, you horrible, horrible. :P Here's a suggestion. If you have email notification on for them, switch it to off. You don't need to take them off your list. Then again, if they are not posting anymore, why bother? :PP