Would u date outside your race?
By kynni204
@kynni204 (2031)
United States
April 27, 2007 7:15pm CST
Is this prohibited in your culture. Would you be sentenced to death. Have you ever been attracted to someone outside your race. What would your parents say? Would your family disown you, never speak to you again? Would you respect their beliefs?
I have heard of situations where family members would kill their sister or daughter for this. What's your ideals and experiences.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I'm very lucky because I wouldn't have a problem with it even if I date guys that are not from the same race that I am, which is Asian. I believe that the world is more open now to inter-racial marriages which has broken the issues on color and culture. People are more open minded and educated and are willing to welcome the beauty that comes from diversity. We're so lucky we live in this time and generation.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
28 Apr 07
My mom was upset knowing that I would marry a Caucasian. She said that I don't like my own people so I ended up with a Caucasian. In a way I think she is right, I always like Caucasian men, I don't know why. Of course there are handsome and ugly men in any race, but I always fall for Caucasian men for some reason.
My father used to work for foreigners so for him it doesn't matter who I marry as long as I am happy. My brothers only worry because due to our culture, my marriage means I have to live here in Canada or wherever my husband lives, they don't know if I would like it here where as my culture would forbid me living elsewhere without my husband.
Those who belong to my generation might look at me as gold digger or arrogant, not dating my own race. Older generation would more likely think like my mom. But marrying him is the best decision I've made, our 6 yrs and going strong relationship have proven that time and time again. So now my family seems to agree with my choice.
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 07
At Bulgaria the race is not so important-almost all of us are Caucasian. Here we have ethnical groups. So if we speak about the groups -well...i have never had so closed contacts with men from another ethnos and dont know how my family will react.May be they will be tolerant and respect my choice. But i will be carefull indeed because most of theese groups have really different culture, traditions what are not allways compatible with my own.
@jmcafam (2890)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am with a very wonderful man that is not of the same race as myself. We have been with one another for over ten years. Both sides of our families have one or two people who don't really care for the others race which will be interesting when we finally do decide to get married to each other. I believe that race should not matter when you are in love. It is sad that it does get in the way of some peoples feelings.
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@thrwbckjay67 (2870)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I'm multi-racial, and still managed to date someone outside of my race...
my family wasn't torn about or upset, but you could tell they had a preference... they usually worked out, I mean... I had a few bad experiences but overall I think it wasn't a problem. My family is very enlightened and they really don't care as long as I am happy with the people I am with.
Of course, when I finally found the woman of my dreams, she was the same race as I am, at least one of them... it wasn't race that did it... it was our compatibility, but I know that my parents and family were a bit more satisfied with my choice. They would have been supported with anyone I was with, though...
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I dated a man fron outside my race for about ten years. My family wasnt thrilled I have to admit,but they didnt disown me. I wanted to be married,but he didnt so we eventually drifted apart.
@cikedo (3483)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I was raised in a very open family and don't look at race as a barrier. My family wouldn't disown me, but my step-dad might not be too pleased. He grew up in the south and is a bit closed minded. My mother on the other hand wouldn't care all that much.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I'm Puerto Rican & Italian, since the age of 14 or 15 I have been doing just that. I guess it's true what they say, once you go black you never go back:-) ... I have only been with two women in my life that were not black. My Italian side of the family would luv for me to find a nice "Italian Princess" ..... Hell 2 the no! I'm fine with my Ebony Queen, and they have to respect it because it's not going to change. Don't get me wrong. I respect all women, but just like anyone else I have my preference. (Black is where it's at for me:-)
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
28 Apr 07
Yes. i would. I do not have any problem with this, and i can not understand people that have problems with that.
I think people are sometimes putting their energy on the wrong things, i see this alote in countries that surround my country, they are actually murdering women there if they marry someone from a different race. crazy thing.
@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
28 Apr 07
Many years ago, where I live, the majority of parents would have objected to their offspring dating someone of a different race. It's partly also due to the fact that most marriages then were arranged marriages. People did not choose their own spouse.
I heard of cases whereby some who married people who were not approved by their families being disowned by their families.
But in this modern day and age, it's becoming more and more acceptable. These days, less parents would object to their offspring dating someone of a different race. Sometimes, they may have some reservations initially but they usually get over it in time.
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I guess Id date outside my race considering I married outside of my race. I have been married now almsot 6 years to a black man and dont regret it once. While my family wasnt really into this and for it, I didnt care at all. My father feels that tou dont mix races and thats how he was raised. He told my husband and me that he knew I was grown and would make my own decisions about my life.
If my kids date outside of their race, it wont be a big deal to me as long as that person is a quality person instead of just looking at them as a certain race.
Alot of my friends couldnt ever bring home a different race man because their family would flip and probaly disown them.
@Dana5881 (609)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I am no longer dating since I am married but I never dated outside my race but really don't have a problem with it and probably would have if I would have found someone that I had good chemistry with. I don't think my parents would have a problem with it as they are pretty open minded. I think they would be happy as long as I am happy.
@Stiletto (4579)
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28 Apr 07
Of course - in fact I have done on a couple of occasions in the past. I was too old for my family to have any say in the matter anyway so if they did have negative opinions about it they kept them to themselves. Occasionally we did encounter comments from other people but not that often I have to say and it didn't bother me anyway. I can give as good as I get!
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I don't think it can be prohibited in any culture. I wouldn't mind to date anyone as long as I am in love with someone. I may be wrong but it is not about race...it is more about personality. My family would accept anyone....
@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I think that dating people outside your race is simply broadening your horizon with people. Learning how they think and having a great conversation is not such a bad thing.
In the Filipino culture, history has exposed us to a number of cultures that we were forced to get along with. Needless to say that we have become adept to learning and picking up from other races. Thus, making us really cultured and knowing. :)
@mememama (3076)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I've dated men outside my race before I met my husband and am married to a man that's a mix of everything-he's one of those guys that you have to look at and think what the heck he is lol. I mostly have had problems with my exes parents, they didn't like him dating outside his race. He ignored them, but things didn't work out for other reasons. My parents don't care, as long as I'm happy they are fine.
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I would never date outside my race just because I would rather stick with my own. I don't have a problem with inter-racial dating but it's something I wouldn't do. My family also completely does not like that and if I were to do it then they would not speak to me. It's against what they believe.
@janeff (19)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
kynni204, i like to believe that not all culture and race would disallow mixed marriages or dating, to the extents that you have mentioned...we are presently living in a more conventional society so these primitive/medieval traditions may not at all, be as prescriptive now, as you have known them...i myself come from a country where my people are products of mixed or what you call inter-racial marriages, from my forefathers down to more coming generations...though we are known for our conservative values, we have given allowances to modern practices...so your question would definitely be answerable positively, by me and any of my people from the philippines...:-)
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