Fidelity: How do YOU define it?

Thank you for the kindness! =D I find your discussions interesting and fun to participate in! Can't wait for more to come :)

You are welcome:-), I am happy that your rating is steadily going up. Efforts proved to be fruitful:-)

I glad and honored LilyoftheThorns! that you decided to participate in my discussion:-) I agree with your view that it is loyalty and complete trust in every aspect of a couple's life, I appreciate.

Thanks, Aphroditei_5279! I am glad that you participated in my discussions:-) Your views are appreciated:-) I think I share your vision and agree with that. Thanks for your wish and same to you.

You are welcome Aphroditei_5279! and Thanks for wishes, same to you:-)

Thank you for the BR mark Kamran! I really didn't expected it and I'm glad we share the same views. More blessings! (^^,)

I can understand your reasoning, sarahruthbeth22, and it's interesting! Thanks for sharing your views here:-)

Hello Buchi_bulla!:-) You have a very respectable and refined view of this concept. I really appreciate and liked when you say that it's not only physical but mental too. I have come to know that possessiveness is not very well appreciated here and is considered a sign of bondage or slavery but perhaps it's totally different than how we see it. To me it is a very satisfying gift in a relationship. The feeling to posses and be possessd is something that makes a person free, and the relationship, stronger, in my humble opinion. Thanks for sharing your views here:-)

Hello youless!:-) I think you have very well refined and clearly defined notion of fidelity in each aspect of life. Brief but comprehensive, I appreciate your response:-)

Hello gregory_burnz! I can relate to much of what you said. Thanks for your views and sharing them with us:-)

I have difficulty with that as well. I have been cheated on before, and I know it doesn't feel good, which is why I would never ever cheat on a partner. However, I have done things other people would think of as cheating, completely within the accepted boundaries of my relationship. Which is why I state things the way I do: I think the most important thing in any relationship is that you and your partner are happy with the relationship, and not what others outside say about it.

I am not sure lecanis, if i got your point. sometimes our definitions are not perfect. similarly it's not necessary that what others are saying is right. To me, every physical action not only has both physical and spiritual effects but it should also have both these aspects, in harmony, in intention/motivation. Unlike many people, I don't see them in conflict, though i place priority to spiritual aspect. I don't care about physical pain in achieving spiritual benefit, but i do care about spiritual benefit in physical pleasure. A physical pleasure void of spiritual benefit is useless for me. When I approach my wife and vice versa our intentions are a combination of physical and spiritual pleasure, in harmony, which allows us to have spiritual bliss alongside physical satisfaction. You know, both of us were told about our son to be born 6 months before his conception. We were asked to be spiritually prepared and We were even told of the name to be given to him and what role he will play afterwards. It will be helpful, probably, for us to meditate and self examine if each of our action benefit us or not, both physically and spiritually. You don't need to tell me or anyone for that matter, the results of this examination, but if you feel something needs correction on my part or if you want to share your vision, i am all ears:-). Disagreement is your right and is well respected:-) Best of luck.

Thanks for your participation and sharing your views lecanis! I am honored:-) I appreciate your view that it's about following each boundary defined within a relationship and sticking to it. I have respect for people who have certain standards and follow them honestly, no matter how different they are from my own. I do have difficulty, however, with people who either have no standards defined or if defined, don't follow it honestly.

Thanks matrixx! for saring your views. I do think that It is not just physical but emotional as well or me be spiritual too:-).

You are welcome! but how do you define spiritual fidelity?

This is a bit difficult to explain but i'll try. In this physical world where we have physical and emotional relationships, there is another higher level of relationship, that is spiritual which may exist independent of space and time as well as physical enitities. being honest and adhering to this relationship would be spiritual fidelity:-) but chances of error in this type of relationship are much higher compared to other type of relationships which makes it more complex than others. I hope that this is helpful.

I am glad that you participated in my discussion, jessemt35! We do share almost common view, being fidel is a personal issue and in that one should remain fidel no matter what come may:-)