My friends hate Indians and my sister just doesn't like them
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
April 27, 2007 9:58pm CST
This is a very sensitive topic and the reason why I am posting this is because I want to know the reaction of Indians out there and how true or justified could be the feelings of some friends of mine. I have some friends working in Dubai and 2 of them have been very expressive when they talked about their work and the only thing that mar thier experience are the Indians they work with whom they found to be very rude and so lacking in manners. My friend also find them so judgmental and opinionated and doesn't even know how to say please, thanky you or know any polite words. They said that they find most Indians so arrogant and so full of themselves in terms of intelligence and attraction. My sister feels the same too since she chat a lot and encounter lots of Indians in the internet and find them so undesirable.
I have met some Indians here and I have found them to my liking. I find them intelligent and creative. However, I have met A LOT too who who are so full of themselves, rude, impolite and very offensive but they are not limited to Indians but they also come from other nationalities and even some Filipinos. The only thing that I could say is that we notice them over the internet because there are just so many of them. India is one of the most populous country in the world and one could find them everywhere plus they are no.1 in terms of IT outsourcing. I may sometimes find it offensive the way some Indians speak but it's a cultural thing and one that I have come to understand and accept. I also understand that the same could be happening in reverse and find me rude without actually meaning to as what one Indian I have chatted with told me. What I want to say is that we should not be hasty in judging others or much better not judge them at all. Each of us is different, that is given. What we could do is understand each other's culture and try to bridge more gaps.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I don't think that other countries hate India my friend and hate is a very strong word to use nor appropriate to describe how a whole coutry feels about India. I think it is even the opposite since India has become one of the leading players in business outsourcing and countries such as the U.S won't transact with them if they really hate India. They just plainly love doing business with them and that says a lot for India and its people. It is just that they get misunderstood most of the time or that they get are not understood at all by most people who has different culture than them. Again, its a matter of building bridges.
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@lilyoungfella (1196)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I do have indian friends. They are very kind to me. I see no problem with them.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I have made some Indian friends here in mylot and I find them very good people, brilliant and kind. Just received one reply from an Indian in one of my discussions and he said very beautiful and profound things about women. I guess that like any culture and country, India also have some 'rotten tomatoes' among its people that tends to spoil the even good ones.
@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Hi, cd! It's been a long while. Well, of course you know that I'm also a Filipino and not an Indian, but I just want to relate to you a similar experience my sister had here in the States. She's a scientist at the Ivy League university here in Philly (UPenn). She had a fight with an Indian colleague (a guy). She said she just couldn't take the rudeness, tactlessness, and lack of manners of the guy. Also, he's so full of himself, as if he's the only one who's educated in the place. I'm also sorry about this, and I won't generalize but that experience of hers is very similar to your relatives' experience. I believe you're right, we should not be hasty to judge. It's cultural difference working here. I also feel that every race feels proud to represent their country in another country, and since multicultural environments are common nowadays, a clash couldn't be avoided. Happy myLotting!
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
My friend who is in Dubai almost resigned in her job because of her Indian colleagues. She told me that it isn't too much to ask to be treated accordingly or professionally and not like a complete moron who doesnt have any feelings. She also cant take the blatant stare that she gets as if she is being literally stripped since she has very fair skin and not used being ogled by her Indian colleagues who happens to like fair skinned women. I laughed when she told me that because she was really felt so strongly about it and was very vehement. I guess it was just like having some good looking foreigners here in our country who stand out like a sore thumb that we cant help but ogle at them too. One every educated Indian friend of mine told me that he understands how others feel about some of this countrymen because it is a cultural thing and one can't really blame them since they didn't know any better and was brought up that way. That Indian friend for mine by the way was also the epitome of politeness and courtesy and never said any rude or offensive words. I agree that we should not generalize and each person is really different no matter where they come from.
@yasaran (788)
• India
29 Apr 07
Well I am an Indian, and I just dont know what to comment on this. But in my experience Whenever we have foriengners in our country, I feel a bit uncomfortable dealing with them. Maybe it is just psychology. Maybe those whom you have met or interracter might have been rude. Hope you get better friends from all countries.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
I know how you feel because I sometimes I feel the same with some foreigners who comes to our country. Some foreigners think that most women here are out for money or are uneducated and can be treated according to their whim. The basis of their judgment or how they see some our women is because of their past experiences also with some of our 'not so desirable characters'. How I wish that people are less judgmental or prejudiced. Each country is different. I do have a lot of experiences in dealing with very undesirable characters with different people from different countries.
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@raja316ram (279)
• India
1 May 07
I guess that there might be some who behave rudely in certain situations. Almost most of these happen due to the cultural differences. It can happen sometimes that when you see people not belonging to your community, there can be a sense of insecurity in their minds.
And also interesting point raised regarding "saying please". I had been to UK recently. I did observe that "please" and "thank you" are magic words that are used almost everytime when you talk with someone.
Whenever i used to go to any shop, the shopkeeper used to greet me everytime. I guess that kind of thing doesnt happen in most places in India. I think the primary reason for this might be due to the fact that India is very highly populated and most shopkeepers dont have the time for such greeting.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Yes I noticed that most Indians doesn't use the words 'please' or 'thank you' that it would appear discourteous, rude & too demanding to some who come from a culture that is politeness in itself. My friend is so hang up to the point of being funny that she keeps repeating to me the way her Indian colleagues say things to her. She said that they would just say...'give me! give me! give me!' several times instead of saying 'please give me'. Even those that I get to chat over the internet and want to view my webcam would only say...'invite me', instead of saying 'please invite me'. Thanks for responding!
