Do you fight fair?
By robert19ph
@robert19ph (4577)
Philippines
April 28, 2007 4:48am CST
When you are into a fight with your wife/husband and/or friends. Do you fight fair? Do your fights devolve into name calling and yelling? Are you bringing up past issues? During an argument, you main objective is to make your point and you only see things your way? If you answer yes to these questions you are not fighting fairly.
I do this most of the time and the fight linger. I was advise to fight fair, to remember to not fight to win, but to fight for your relationship. Do not yell. Do not scream. Do not talk in threatening tone. It's hard to fight fairly but if done correctly, conflict can strengthen marriage and friendship. Do you agree? So do you fight fair?
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@tonyxxx (693)
• India
8 May 07
Well whenever I fight with my wife our fight mostly results in shouting and yelling.I just loose my temper and start shouting as if I am not a human being.I do all the things as mentioned by you like screaming, threatening ,etc.I always regret my behaviour after the fight when I have cooled down but it does leaves a dent in our relationship though for some time only.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 May 07
i happen to be the loser always when it comes to fights with my husband. when he raises his voice and threatens to hurt me or hurtle bad words like curses and swearings, this immediately puts me in extreme rage, i must keep mum if i do not want the fight become worse.
when i bring up some issues, i always mean to have his opinion. never can i remember an instance when we had resolved and issue by having a sensible talk. he always insists on his views as the ones which are right and proper to pursue.
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
4 May 07
That is sad. I never also do this with my wife when he bring out some issue and I raised my voice instantly. She also fight back and I realized nothing is going to happen if we both raised our voices and I back out and let her do the talking. When we are in good mood she brought out those items to me and I realized I'm hurting her. I don't want to lost here so we make up.
@laltu86 (1249)
• India
10 May 07
Not much , if with my girl friend (lol).
Not that we literally fight , but when we have argument she is the one who gets the bashing frm me as she is a quite and submile kind of a person and has a weak voice, thats the reason that we have a fight only once in a blue moon.but if its a real fight then surely i try not to be the starter , but stilll if it has to happen i will fight as necessary as we say every thing is fair in love and war .
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I don't really fight with someone....If i hate someone already, i just avoid him/her. i don't argue with him. I just keep quiet and try not to talked with him again. Or as time passes by, it just comes naturally that we are ok again without telling sorry...
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