Why do married couple need to divorce???

I think that now in society it is the trend to divorce after a year or so of marriage. Take a look at Britney Spears, Drew Barrymore, ect. They think of divorce as a fashion accessory. I also think that people don't take their vows to seriously. Marriage is extremely hard work and a lot of people want to give up because it isn't their fairy tale marriage. My husband and myself are odd in our circle of friends. My best friend divorced her husband after like two or three years of marriage. My brother-in-law's wife is filing for divorce. We have an uncle that split with his wife. We have many friends who have divorced their wives and we are just sitting there looking like a circus sideshow. I married my high school sweetheart and have been with him going on seventeen years and married twelve. We have had our serious problems and started questioning if this marriage is going to continue to work but we stuck through it. No one said marriage was easy. Who ever thinks that is destined for divorce. Like I said, in today's society, divorce is the now acessory. It is more socially accpetable that those couples who are together for a long time. I guess we are looked at like we are stupid. I don't know and personally I don't care.

I also share that same observation and it is really sad. . like why couples cannot keep their wedding vows, etc. Could be that you're right. . people should get to know each other well before tying the knot. Also, while married, perhaps when there are misunderstandings, couples no longer want to talk and do things the hard way, like sacrificing. They need instant solutions for their troubles, and one easy way is divorce. However, I think there are really those who strive to make their marriage work, see a marriage counselor, and go through the trouble of talking to people who they think can help. After exhausting all possibilities, that is the time that they finally realize that their marriage won't simply work and the only solution is a divorce. Of course, reasons like psychological incapacity, infidelity, negligence, withdrawal of support, vices, etc., could come in the way to an otherwise happy union. Oh, did I not mention that the children are also victims here?

Well... do you think if you're the ONLY one who is struggling to make the marriage work for a very long time... the vows still worth fighting for? Do you want to raise your kids... thinking that marriage should be like that...A one way street? Would you still value yourself as "wife"? And would you still feel thankful to have the guy who cant love you and respect your right as a wife? Do you still GOD happy...seeing you living in hell... in a marriage that love should be the center? Marriage is the most wonderful status that lovers would enter... but it should have to be filled with LOVE, RESPECT, SELF WORTH, and TRUST. There ae imes that marriage instead of a loving bond that ties family... sometimes becme a "cage"... and dont you think that in situation like that... you can hide the pain and the problems in the eyes of your children? Sometimes... when you've given the BEST of what you have to make things work... but nothing happens... then letting go is the best remedy... to see yourself and your partner with respect. Love is a TWO WAY street... it takes two to make things work...

woah!!! keep it up girl!!! what a spirit!!!... I wish I have that same attitude. willing to be humble??... even if he cheats???.... that is hard... too hard. but somehow I agree that marriage should be sacred, I will never get involve in marriage if I know that someday I will regret it... that just doesn't make any sense doing vows and will not be able to maintain it.

its because expectations were not met..and simply the two parties are not willing to compromise...and when one thinks of being taken advantaged to, then that's where misunderstanding starts...and eventually yelling and insulting each other comes out.... its not how long you have known the other person but how willing you are to know the person and accept the persons inperfection and helping each other bring out the best in each other... well, that's just an opinion, i don't know what it will be if my turn comes, never been married yet but i guess what i have mentioned is really important in any relationship one makes...