Parents as role models

I'm not a parent now, nor do I plan to be a parent in the near future, but I've thought about this many, many times. I'm not going to raise my children the way that I was brought up. My children aren't going to have that kind of life, they aren't going to see the things that my sister and I saw. My children will have the best life that I can provide them without all of the violence.

I told my parents that I was never going to marry. My parents said, probably thinking - oh, she's only 4 - said fine. Guess what, I'm 53 &, gee!, I never married! Know why I never married? I took one look at my brand new baby sister & said "Nope, not going to have one of those!" Then I thought - remember I'm only 4 here - takes a mommy & a daddy to make a baby. I'd be the mommy & have to take care of the baby & I don't want to do it, so if I stay away from daddies I'd never have one.... (I've added the word potental now you understand.) My addition was that 1+1=3 when you were talking mommies & daddies. Pretty good for a 4 yr old!

My mom taught me to treat people right and don't stoop down to their level if they treat you wrong. She also taught me to have a smile on my face no matter what is going on in my life. I had seen her doing this and it really impressed me. I carry that through with me today. Also that if a cashier gives you too much money back always call it to their attention. It is never right to take money that doesn't belong to you. She had a saying that she always used. Honesty is the best policy.

My mom and dad, taught me so many things. Especially on how to treat others the way you want others to treat you. To be honest on what you feel especially when you are in a distress situation. And all I learned from them I try to teach it to my daughter. And I can see the result as well. It's quite amazing sometimes. Have a great day Winterose! (^^,)

My parents thaught me to believe in me, to respect others, to pursuit my goals and happiness, so many things... i'm really lucky to have the parents i have, that support me, that are my friends! :)

parents are our greatest role models ever.. no body can have an everlasting iimpression than ur parents. i learnt lot form my parents, if not for them i wud not be as sucessful as i am today,,

I've taught my daughter the value of money, and to look after her things, as not everyone is as fortunate, plus I can't afford to replace items that are lost or damaged on a regular basis. My mom instilled this in me. She also taught me how to cook and bake at quite a young age, and I've done the same with my daughter. As a result, she loves to be creative in the kitchen, and has become very good at it. She may even pursue something in this area, as a career one day, and is seriously considering it.

Certainly. It goes without saying that parents are the first example set for our kids' life. Whatever you do and say, however you behave influence your children all their life. I can find the shadows of my hubby and me in my daughter. She also shares the temper and personalities of her parents'. So I'm always alert to what I say and do before my daughter.

That is so true. I believe children do the things they see not always what they hear. my mom use to always say to me do as i say not as i hear. that saying went in one ear and out the other ear. so parents should watch their actions around their kids.

So true. My parents taught me how to be thankful for every blessing that I receive. I teach my kids now the same thing. I always remind them to appreciate everything and be grateful to others. That's why I teach them to say "Thank you" for every good deed others have done for them. Funny because sometimes I am the one who forgets to say Thanks and they remind me what to say. There is one time I asked my daughter to hand me the bath soap because I am going to give her little brother a bath. After giving me the soap I immediately went to the bathroom. But then she followed me and said " Mommy, you're forgetting something.." I asked, "What is it?" She said, "What will you say?" And then I got it! I forgot to say "thanks!"

My parents taught me to respect your elders and to say yes sir, no sir and yes mam,no mam. They also taught me that money doesnt buy happiness and to always keep a promise to someone. I believe kids have no respect for the older generation and that the more money you have the happier you will be. I have four kids and they are being taught to show respect to other people and to be kind to everybody and above all not to judge a book by its cover.

i quite agree with what you said.parents are first models of their children.my friend and her husband also have a bad habit,they also say something with unploite words,so does their little girl.she is only 7 years old. when you met her,she never says hello to you.if their parents invite you to dinner ,she will be angry ,she will cry to let you go ,but if you invite them to dinner,she will be very happy,but she thinks you should do like this.all of her parents' friend talk about her with her parents,but they slways say she is too young to understand .now,if she wants to play in her neightbours' house ,they all refuse to let her in,they found something lost after her leaving.frankly,her parents are not bad ones,everyone has faults, they shouldnt spoil the little girl.

It still echoes at the far corners of my mind. I heard it from my father a lot of times. "I do not expect you to be the best in class, but always remember that we are not that rich. I cannot give you any inheritance of any value - the only thing i can provide for you is a good education. It's a treasure no one can steal from you, and you can use that to make your lot better" I did best in my class, but i'm not the studious, nerdy type. i'm more of a lucky-go-lucky guy who doesn't care about planning. my dad saw this as if i'm not taking education seriously, so he always reminded me of the value of education. That quote of his came from his father. I guess i'll be passing that to my son too.

When I was young, maybe six years old my father left at home because he lost money. Then he back after 6 years. I'm angry for what he done to my family.I can't understand why? What do you think he is a good father? I can say my mother is a good model of being a mother because she dedicate her life for my family. My mother teach me a lot about a good manner to become successful, stronger, and healthy.

I don't have childern yet but i am responding this discussion by putting my self a children . ya i aggree to you parents are role first models and teachers the second what i feel my parents too taught many a things somethings i follows happily somethings not during my chilhood. but now a days still they try to taught me but many a times i start opposing theirs views as my subconcious rejects their ideas and i think we should change ourself our thinking woith the time if we don't want to lack behind ,i will i will lack behind i world if i will follow them because there is a huge change all aroung the world and their ideas who had worked good at their time may not work as goog as now a days

well my parents did not teach me much they were not the best role modles. but ur right money aint everythink u can be poor and be happy dont need to be rich to be happy i belive that to much money can cause problems.