My parents were very strict when I was young.

Hello,auguatta,my parents are not strict and I have 100 % freedom, I can do whatever i can, even when i was studyign at high school, they did not ask me too much if i went out at the night time, they only told me to take care of myself,they knew I could be independent and solve by problem by myself.They did not ask me to come back home before particulat time.

My parents were not stict with me as a child, i know that they were very strict with my brother. I know that i did ask them how come they treated each one of us so different, and they said that they tried a few ways to educate me when i was a chuld and that each child has his own unique way that fits him or her. When they tried at first to be strict with me as a little girl, i never listned to them and never did what they said. They told me that most of the time i played with them and did the opposite, which did not bring no good to any of the sides, so they just had to find a way that i could cope with. Both of them are working in education, so they are very aware of finding a different way of doing things according to the child personalitty. I never had time that i needed to be back at home, but i set my own time, because i knew they were worried, and that sort of things. They guessed right about my personalitty, i never got along with things that i did not think were right for me, that includes a regular school with a regural strict progrem , i just came to them and told them that this program does not work for me and i went to an open program school. I learned that in life from a very early age we are the ones that decide for ourself what fits us and what does not, and we can always choose the right way to us, if we know we have a choice. I am happy that this is the way they educated me. Not a simple one, but atleast it was my way. :))

Well i can say that my parents were a combination of .they were not so leniant as to do anything i like.Also they were very friendly also.They have given me completee freedom in doing what i wanted.They trusted me very much & i have also never let them down.actually they have given me a sense of value by which i had an idea what is good & what is not.They brought me up very well.

well my parents have always set standards too. they have never really threatened me with money , but i know that if i do something against their wishes theyll get hurt a lot. but i am happy this way. its for my own good.

I am strict with my kids, in terms that I expect a certain level of behavior from them and if they let me down they hear about it. They also have more chores and regs than their friends, which they think is unfair. On the other hand, we talk about and do things than many of their friends are allowed. I also know a heck of a lot more about what is going on inmy kids lives than their friends parents do, so I think we have struck the right balance. I am sure I learned this method from my own parents.

I think your right about this , my childhood was very happy my parents had 100% trust in my and I never had interdictions . I really didn't need rules because I knew that I have to respect my parents so I never caused problem to them. I had some parents discussions in which they told me how to behave and that I shouldn't stay out late but I never did anything wrong to be punished in this situations . Don't get my wrong I had never been an model child it's just that my parents didn't stress my with rules.

my mom was too strict when I was young. I didn't see any of the strictness helped me being what I am now, I wouldn't do the same to my children either. It was my best friend, my brothers and my father who influenced me more. Then I came here and my husband has bigger influence on me now. I think strictness is OK but what my mom did wasn't strictness, it was obsession and pride which I can't understand nor tolerate. I'm glad I set my mind up to learn from my brothers, best friend, dad in my early years.

isnt it funny the older we get the smarter our parents seem ???LOL I fthey were strict it is because they love you and want only your safety this world is a dangerous place today!

oh yeah my parents were very stric too. Yes I am happy the way I am because I have never got into trouble with the law or anything. I feel that I brought up my daughter the same way my parents did and she turned out just fine.

Hi Augustta. I also think that being strict to the children by their parents is a good thing at times but the parents should not control too much so that they kill their child's dream. Instead they can guide their child in a way that what are ill effects can cause if they do not listen to their parents (e.g) can teach what will happen to their teeth if they do not brush properly or consuming lots of chocolates.. I am happy with my parents, the way they treated me. I realized that all they advised me is for good cause..

My parents were very strict and like you I hated it as a kid, but realized when I got older that they did it because they loved and cared about me. I had to be home at a certain time and if I was late even by one minute I was grounded for a week. Every weekend I had chores and I couldn't go anywhere until they were done. I started doing my own laundry, and after supper I would have to load and unload the dishwasher at 8 years old. I always felt like my brother was the lucky one because he never had a curfiew, he could stay out as late as he wanted to. My mom told me it was because he was a boy and I was a girl. That made me madder then hell to double standard me like that. Then a bunch of other stupid rules came up so I was always in trouble. Then I moved out in my late teens because I couldn't take it anymore. I have been on my own ever since, my family and I worked out the problems we had, and we are now really close.

Yeah, my parents were sooo strict. I wasn't allowed to go out with my friends until college and the first time I slept over with a friend was also in college. There are times that I appreciate their strictness because I know they're only looking out for me and they love me but there are times when it's just too much. But I believe that their strictness has helped me grow into a very mature and responsible person so it's all good.

My parents were divorced and I didn't like my mothers strict rules so I went to live with my father. My father let me basically get away with anything I wanted. I had no curfew, I cut class all the time. It wasn't until I was older that I realized that the rules my mother was trying to enforce were what would have been best for me.

erm.. my grandparents were strict when i was young.. but not my mother.. my mother is very understanding..and i think she's really a good mother.. because she understand how to talk to her child in a proper way.. i think parents shouldn't be strict to their children.. they have to explain why they're strict.. if their children choose to lie to them.. then it's their fate.. don't you think so?i believe every human has the ability to think on their own right? we just can try our best to stop them from doing bad things.. making the wrong move.. but we can't control their moves.. i hope you get what i mean here =)

Not so strict at all. But they put some frames to me and i didnt go beyond them so often.I had enough money for my daily charges, i was allowed to go anywhere if they just know where and with whoom. They i strict to me now...when i am a mature person.May be because i am not this model of daugher they really want to have.

Hi Augustta talk about being strict my parents were the strickest.LOL But is was for my own good. I think thats the problem today the parents are not as strict as they use to be. Im thankful for my parents being so strict when I was younger.

My parents were strict on me when I was young, I didn't mind. It got to be a problem when I was 19 (still at home) and had a curfew of 10pm. I was numerous humiliated in front of friends if I was even 5 mins late. I seperated from my partner when I was 25 and my parents said I could move back in with them. Believe it or not I would rather live on the streets (I've done it before) than move back in with them. This kind of behabiour has scarred me for life and I am currently getting therapy to better my relationship with them.

My parents were strict and i have to agree with you that as you get older you realise its because they care about you and they want to you be succesful in life. They would let me go out to parties but they would also tell me to come home before 12am.

Well strictness is ok .. but it should be in a limit.. I have seen some parents are really very strict .. they even don't allow the child to watch television .. it actually stops the growth of a child in a normal manner

Yeah, they strict for our own sake because when we was young we are innocent for many things and we dont know if its right or wrong. In my case my parents is not strict compare to others when I was high school I separate to them to study in Manila. I have a twin cousin their are my classmate too they said i'm lucky because i can do what i want but i said i'm not lucky to separate them because when i was ill nobody care for me, sleep and monitor.