How long have you been with your partner?

@nica269 (1395)
United States
April 28, 2007 8:03pm CST
I've been with my husband for 9 years. I love him more today than i did they day we got married. Sounds weird, but it's true.
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• United States
29 Apr 07
I've been with my hubby for a little over 5 years. We've been married for 3.5 years. Its been a hard relationship since my ex likes to really butt in but in the long run our love for each other has grown more. When we fight we always say love is never the issue its everything else!!
• United States
1 May 07
Well, I'm glad we are not the only ones that are going through this. Hopefully thing will smooth out between us too. Thanks for letting me know so I don't feel so alone!!
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
The first 3 or 4 years were pretty hard for us too, but i think once we hit the 5th year, things just kinda smoothed out for us. And just like you, Love was never the issue, just other things around us.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
I can guarantee you you're not the only ones going thru a rough patch. Everyone i've spoken to in regards to the first years of marriage have said the same thing, the first few years were pretty tough. Good luck and keep strong.
@amydawn11 (906)
• Canada
29 Apr 07
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now but it feels like much longer, thats what he says anyways..lol
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I've been with my dh for 9 years and sometimes it feels like a life time - in a good way, and at the same time it feels like only yesterday we started dating. I guess that's a good thing too, since the 'fire' hasn't left our relationship.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
I completely agree that's it's a good thing.
• Canada
1 May 07
yes thats a very good thing :)
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
30 Apr 07
We have been together for 1 year and 2 months but i am planning on much longer. I love him more each day. he is the sun in my life. I just know that I have found the man of my life.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Isn't a great feeling to know you have the man of your life. My dh is my everything, even my stress machine! lol
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Edit: my stress maker, not my stress machine. lol
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
1 May 07
We've been together for 6 years. Actually it will "officially" be 6 years on May 13th but we tend to count the 2-3 months leading up to that because we had gotten to be very close friends during that time and knew we both had feeling for each other but didn't think it would be right to act on them. He WAS my (ex)husband's friend but after we separated I still stayed close to him and even lived with him for about a week while my ex moved his belongings out of our house. It's been a long 6 years though and I'm not sure if I love him MORE. I love him differently but it isn't the same and things haven't been looking very good for us lately.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
1 May 07
Thanks so much! Today was actually a good day. I know there's hope because I can't imagine life without him, I'm just struggling with "the life with him". But we both came into this with a lot of baggage and this is the longest relationship for both of us (well one of his was longer but by just a couple months now) so we're in unfamiliar territory and waiting for "the other shoe to drop" like it has in our pasts. I've heard that the best things in life are worth working hard for so I just keep telling myself that all this work is a good thing.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
I'm sorry that things aren't going too well lately. Hopefully they will get better. I never thought marriage would be so much work. People told me that it wouldn't be easy, but didn't think it would be so challenging. I wish you and your dh the bes and hope all works out - don't give up
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 May 07
I been with him for about 13 yrs. And still have ups and down but we become stronger and stronger and we make sure to fight together what ever trials came to us.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
We still have our ups and down too, and I think every relationship does at some point or another. If it all were 'pink roses' it would get boring quickly, don't you think?
@reese27 (57)
• Philippines
1 May 07
we've known each other since childhood days.. he was 7 and i was 5 years old then... my playmate, my bestfriend.. he courted me when i was 16, and he has been my boyfriend for almost 5 years... now were getting married...
@fawcey (926)
• Australia
1 May 07
After reading this my answer in your disscussion about whether you should fight for your loved one is now even more true. I think you have found your soul mate and should let nothing stand in your way. All the best reese27.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
It does sound like you have found your soul mate. I wish you all he luck in the world in your relationship with your childhood friend.
@fawcey (926)
• Australia
1 May 07
My husband and I have been together 9 years and married for six of them. (it is our sixth wedding anniversary next in July.) I love him more everyday as well and we are happy and still have lots of fun together. We never go to sleep cross or upset with one another, we always talk and sort things out. I would do anything for him and I know it is the same for him. He helped me see that life really was worth living and has always made me feel good about who I am. He makes me laugh and can put a smile on my face 99.9% of the time. We are there for one another and take it turns being the strong one for the other to lean on. I always let me husband know how much I love and appreciate him and he does the same for me. We still leave little love notes around the house fo each other ( like in the sugar bowl, or in the cutlery draw.) We are one anothers life support. I am happy that you love your husband still and even more than the day you married him, it is a wonderful thing and I don't think it is at all weird. If people find it weird I expect they are jealous.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
Well, we've gone to bed bad at each other, and it's not the best thing to do. We now try to settle things before we go to sleep, and it's still a work in progress, but it's getting there. It's so great to hear when other couples are still leaving love notes for one another, or still do the 'courting' part of the early relationship, because we loose that sometimes, and that's what keeps the marriage alive and never boring. Best of luck to you and your dh!
@MJJ1011 (107)
• United States
1 May 07
My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years and have been married for almost 3 years. Wow, how time flies!
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
1 May 07
Time does fly! It doesn't seem like it's been 9 years since we've gotten together. May you have another 99 years together!!
@SatoNa (247)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 07
I've been married yet. But I have a boyfriend. Can it be called partner too? I've been with him almost 2 years. My friends didn't believe it. and I did neither. Because we are in long distance relationship. We chat only with SMS, phone, video call, or game online. And we've ever met only once! I love him very much. Maybe it's also because I've already been together with him about 2 years.. And I hope I will be in his side as soon as possible.. ^^
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I've never had a long distance relationship, but if things are working for you two, congratulations. I couldn't see myself in a long distance relationship, especailly if you've only seen him once. Wish you the best.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
29 Apr 07
I know what you mean. I have been with my husband 19 years, married 18. Every day I grow to love him more. I can't imagine life without him.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I can't imagine my life without him either, and to tell you the truth, i don't want to. He's my everything.
• United States
30 Apr 07
We've been married for almost 3 years and together for 3 1/2.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Congratulations, and I wish you and your husband many years full of love for one another.
• Melbourne, Australia
29 Apr 07
I have been with my husband for almost 11 years. Met and married withing a month. WE are happpier now than we have ever been but then we have always been happy. Part of the secret was that we only started living together 2 years ago.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Now how did that happen? Was he or you in the service? If you don't mind, please expand on your being married for 11 years, but only living together for the last 2.
@marylie (11)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
that's what we call the magic of love. sounds weird when we say that we love them more today than yesterday, but it's just the same, that's true love. loving one person beyond expectation, beyond everything else in this world. feeling contented with what we have is one of the most wonderful feeling that a person could experience. hold on to that love that you feel for your husband and cherish every moment you spend with him and your family. God bless you.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I do cherish our moments together and i have to admit that it is true love. he is my inspiration, my beacon, my everything. I don't know where I would be without him today. I love spending time with him just doing nothing, and that's something special. Thanks for your comment.
• United States
29 Apr 07
Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on 3 years. Will be 3 years June 24th. It seems like we haven't been together that long! I guess time flies when you're having fun!
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Time does fly when you're having fun. I've been with my dh for 9 years and it doesn't seem that long either, but at times it seems much more than only 9 years.
• Canada
29 Apr 07
My fiance and I have been together for just over 2 years. We're getting married in August.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Congratulations! Time is getting near,how exciting!
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
As a married couple, we are on our 10th year. But we were boyfriend and girlfriend for almost 7 years befor we got married. So 17 years..all together.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Wow, so you dated 7 years before getting married! We dated 7 months before getting married...crazy!
@mememama (3076)
• United States
29 Apr 07
It's almost been 6 years since we met, we fell in love right away and he moved into my house in within two weeks-and our friends said it would never last lol.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
LOL WOW! within two weeks, now that's pretty intense. We were married within 7 months of getting together. Friends and family said the same thing to us, it will never work. But we proved them wrong, we've been together for 9 years and going strong. Although, we did have our share of issues in the begining, but we're way over them now and right on track.
@thess0312 (442)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I have never been with another man other than my husband, he was my first love, my sweetheart, and I love him very much! We have 4 kids and we have been married for 16 years now.
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
It's so great that you found your true love with the man you married. And obviously things are going great, since you've been married for 16 yrs and have 4 kids. Congrats!
@snovamp (55)
• Kabul, Afghanistan
29 Apr 07
Let's see... when I was 25.. I met this nice guy.. Found out he was 18.. We were a couple for 2 1/2 years.. We ended up breaking off the relationship.. Then life happened and 18 years later I happened to be in a downtown Hartford spanish market and lo and behold.. heard the nickname he always called me.. I turned and there he was.. 40 yrs old.. We've been together now for the last 7 years.. I can't fathom my life without him in it.. He's my heart..
@nica269 (1395)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Talk about meant to be. That is such a great story. Congratulations.