If you are bored in your relationship....
By Backpack30
@Backpack30 (924)
United States
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@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
29 Apr 07
When I've found myself 'bored' with my marriage I try to find ways to spice it up. Spontaneous things that my husband isn't expecting. It's easy for me to sit back and expect him to do the work but sometimes we have to take the first step. I'm sure the other person is just as bored.
With that said, some examples of doing spontaneous things - I will research little hidden places locally or within an hour of our home that we can do on our day off that do not cost more than a tank of gas and a meal. I'll make sure that he doesn't have something else planned for that day like cutting the grass or whatever and then the day before I'll tell him my plans. Just a day for the two of us (or sometimes including my son too). Last year we took a day and went to a little hidden area that we had never been to that is famous for their apple orchards and farms. Lots of little quaint shops and things to see. Window shopping etc. We found a little BBQ place that had an outdoor area in a wooded section and we had lunch there. It was alot of fun.
Other times I'll take advantage of nights when my son is staying with his friends and I'll make his favorite meal and get intimate with him knowing we have the house to ourselves.
Sometimes I'll pack up a picnic lunch and suggest we go to our community lake so he can go fishing while I watch. Doing this makes him so happy because it shows that I'm interested in the things he's interested in. He would love nothing more than to have an excuse to go to the lake and he always wants me to go with him but I prefer to stay home. So once in awhile I'll surprise him and he loves it.
Basically just finding little things that are slighly off the beaten path that we don't normally do - and then making them happen - builds our relationship bonds and gets us reconnected to each other.
It really is the small things that matter.
I'm not sure if this is what you mean but when I'm bored, I try to take action so that we can be reminded of why we fell in love in the first place.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Thank you so much for taking the time to write that, Heaven!
(I've found that all your posts are always so thoughtful and informative)
It sounds like you and your husband are very happy and I think it's great that you take the initiative at times....I really need to do that more.
I tend to leave all the romance up to him because I guess I have this thought in my head saying "He's the man, he's supposed to woo me!" LOL
But I can do things too ;)
The things you described sound exactly like the kind of things my husband and I like doing! We LOVE to go camping (any excuse to make a fire) and sitting out under the stars....we haven't done that in a while, hmmm.... :)
Also, I think the reason I feel bored right now is because we each got sick, very bad flus AND colds, one after the other.
We've had 3 weeks now of doing absolutely nothing.
One of us has taken care of the other who's sick, and we greatly appreciate each other, but it hasn't been exactly FUN because we feel so terrible!
We're both getting over it now, but not well enough get out in public and do things, so we're just sort of floating around the house.
But I love your idea of heading out somewhere we haven't been before like the apple orchard you went to!
When we're 100% again, we're outta here!
