What would you do?
@Strawberry_one (243)
United States
April 29, 2007 1:23am CST
Me and Billiejoe had been dating since before christmas. Well I went up there over spring break and we had a great time. We hadn't had any real problems with out long distance relationship till a month ago. I go to college and he works. Well I went up there over my spring break over a month ago. Well we had a great time, or atleast he acted like he did. Well he talked to me every day the week after I got back home and then he said he was working 12 hour days all the time. Well It made me think ok ya know he's got different priorities right now then I do. So no biggie well two weeks went by and he hadn't returned my messages or anything. I figured you know he's tired he's sleeping it's ok. Well three weeks went by then four and after talking to my friends about it I decided from my end it was pretty much over. Because I was unsure what to do...well it's been a little over four weeks and I'm still unsure if what I did was right. I mean I feel that it was right in some aspects..
What do you guys think I should have done? What would you have done?
Please don't bash long distance relationships.
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7 responses
@sunburn_tomato (14)
• United States
29 Apr 07
You did the right thing. You gave him the benifit of the doubt and plenty of time to respond and he didn't show you the same respect. But give him the chance to explain himself should he return, ok?
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@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I would give him a chance to explain hisself under the circumstances. I'm too forgiving you know that Sunburn :(
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@TeddyT (32)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Hey strawberry , I think ur right and got the picture. When we don't return calls and don't answer. its beacuse we don't want to talk or deal with u. Its not that we worked hard or we are tired. its he we are busy with other people doing better things. (i use "we" in general for men.) i won't bash the LDR but i think most of the times they don't work. remeber men have 2 heads and sometimes on over powers the other. Temptation is alway's around the corner, and its harder to avoid when being distant.
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@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
29 Apr 07
You know after a while I wasn't so worried about it but other issues have come up and I feel that I need to talk to him at any cost but I can't ya know? Even if he doesn't want to be with me and what not he needs to talk to me.
And he lied he promised me that he would never do that kind of s*** to me, but what can I say he's a guy and it seems that in todays times they are almost all the same.
Thanks for responding.
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I am so sorry to hear that! I have been in many long distance relationships and eventually we just grew apart. I would rather be in a relationship where I can see the other person at least once a week. I have actually grown leary of relationships with men who always act like they are so extremely busy that they don't have time to pick up the phone for even a short message. That kind of relationship ends up hurting us. I know you are having mixed feelings about this but in the long run you will feel better for what you did. You can now go on with your life and possibly meet someone who is better suited for you.
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@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Well we talked every day whether it be on the computer or on the phone we talked every day untill that happened. I don't know, but I do know it is that kind of stuff that hurts us!
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@sunshinedap (615)
• United States
3 May 07
Ain't it funny how guys just can't seem to come out and say it? They think you are supposed to read their minds. But you can't hint to them! Oh No! You have to bounce them on the freakin head to get anything through to them. Well, not all guys. Please, I am NOT man-bashing. Just that you seem like such a great person and he doesn't realize yet that nice girls are just as hard to find. Grab a book and a bubble bath and pamper yourself. Keep remembering you deserve good things.
Don't worry about it, there are a million more out there just like him. Comforting, ain't it?
@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Heh, I really don't want another one like him. I want one that is true and honest and will be there and not only there on their own time. Thanks though hehe, and man-bashing isn't always bad....they bash women all the time....
@leanette (3002)
• India
28 May 07
Am sorry to hear about that. I've been where you had been, and well but I just gave mine more time, or maybe made up more excuses for my careless bf. We had been together for a year and after graduation he went back to Australia and we still kept in touch for about 8 months. Then there were excuses for not calling back and after that there was no sign of him, my mails were not responded and my calls never returned. I gave him time - one whole month1 I just decided to forget him for the better.
I guess you did the right thing. I've learned not to wait on anybody no more. Its a waste of time.
@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
12 Jun 07
It is a waste of time to wait on someone. If they do not come back to you then they are not worth it to start with I guess.
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
30 Apr 07
If i wear in your shoes i will try to go to his place as soon as i can. Talking to the person face to face is a different thing. There are many things that you can not say on the webcam, over the phone, etc. Isn't it better if he will say i love you in your face, rather than over the phone.Because you can feel him. You can see right through his eyes. Of course you communicate everyday, but you are feeling something that bothers you, you have to talk heart to heart, and his eyes will speak to you his presence will make you understand. I'm not telling you what should be done, it's just what i will do no matter how far he is. Your heart knows what to do.
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@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
30 Apr 07
It's not just that easy to pick up and go up there. And I already did once and after I did he pretty much did everything but say it's over. He blocked me out, he will never call he never gets online anymore. Nothing! My heart says it's time to say that it's over. Thanks though.
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
1 May 07
Oh I am sorry this guy did this too you. And with no explainaiton! That makes it even harder to bear. I think if he ever tries to contact you again he better have a real good excuse before you let him back into your life. Of course what you did was right. You ended the realtionship because he blew YOU off first!
@Strawberry_one (243)
• United States
2 May 07
Thanks, and it's a shame when a guy like that ruins it for nice girls. And after a while of not talking it wasn't really all that hard to bear because I had given up. It's a shame that things had to end like that. Thanks for responding.
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