is it okay to have a relationship with a man 20-30 years older with you?

my boyfriend is 16 years older than me, many times i feel like thats enough because of the generational gap there but love knows no numbers i think like 40 or 50 years is getting gross because that is kind of like dating grandpa. if you really love somebody you love them and love them for who they are so numbers shouldn't matter

i guess it is ok as long as shes not a minor :).. im open minded and i believe that age doesnt matter as long as both of them are equally matured enough to have a relationship and be able to handle the critisism of other people.. we know that there are still a lot who are not open minded with some things, and others may even raise their eyebrows seeing an older man and a young woman.. but that is their choice and we should respect them, especially if they truly love each other.. ;)

MAybe I'm being nosy here, but "a friend is having a relationship with an older man who is way too old for HIM?" Is this a homosexual relationship? Just curious. It doesn't matter, because what I am about to say applies to all relationships. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 61. We know what we are doing, and we are in total agreement. Our relationship works for us, and the rest of the world can go climb a tree, for all we care. We are happy, and that's all that should really matter. There is no wrong age, it's up to the individuals.

i dont think so thats just weird.the max age diferance is 10 years i would say.over that its like dating your parents or something

Love is blind. And it is true that sometimes oldre men are far far better than the younger men. Thye are better in everything. They have more experience and they can make a girl feel really as she deserves. So if I fall in love with somebody that is so older than me I will try to keep this relationship no matter the age. But on the other hand some girls marry rich and old men in order to take their money. It is pointless. I can't live my life when I am dependent on somebody's money. I want independence and I am able to do what is necessary for it.

Marifel1986 hello! Maybe the reason why you asked this is because you have also been very observant on why most Filipinas would be finding the love of their lives from dating sites, whose members would be compose of older western/eastern folks, looking for their loves like them; and most likely you also find these couples together in our country, when the guy meets the girl here. Ain't that true? Well no matter, what you saw and want to find out, love may not choose really. The saying that love is blind still applies or maybe also that practical minds would choose not to go hungry in these times. I am sure you know what am trying to point out here. Let me add too that there can be no wrong reason for having relationships or marriages where anyone of the couple would be many, years older, for so long as they find happiness with themselves together and can find the relationship doing well for them. True enough, older men would mostly likely pamper their angel loves or that they tend to be more understanding on the sudden tantrums or whims of these ladies, they love. Also, the ladies may get around with these actions, but they would also have to give their fair share and deal in the relationship with older men. The vast experiences, wide knowledge and stability on finances of the older men would indeed be a good bearing for the younger ladies since they have a good need to be steered and guided properly in their ages. Now should the marriage fail, it would not at all be a bad indication, then say it happened because the guy is much older or that the lady is too young a partner, since neither one could be singly pinpointed directly as the guilty party. I would believe both would have contributed greatly, to make the marriage unsuccessful.

It is no longer unusual these days. As long as the two persons love each other and able to mend their differences it is just fine to be in a relationship or to be with someone who is more years younger or older, whatever the case maybe. You may both have the ideal age as partners but then you are not happy so better to settle to someone who could really make you happy.

I don't see there is any problem as long as they love each other. Personally I don't mind either if I fell in love with someone who is 20-30 years older than me. Especially I would feel more secure to be with the mature and experienced man.

i dont know. age does not matter in love, but that age difference is just unbelievable fr me. but if there would really be two people who would fall in love and have that big age difference then i wouldnt argue or make a fuss about it. when love strikes, there is no if or buts and nothing is impossible. that is how love play its game.:) happy and free. but who knows, even if i say it is not for me, i might end up love struck to somebody who is way older than me, like 15 years older. that wouldnt be impossible and i am not closing my doors but as of the moment am happy with the realtionship i have with somebody who is two years older than me. happy and lovely. i miss my boyfriend!:)