son dating someone older

I have a different point of view on this. I am extremely impressed by the way you have raised your son. How many young men of his age are as responsible as he is? Very few. You are lucky and so is he. Try to persuade him to remain with you until graduation, if you can. Tell him you will feel bad not to have him with you for these last few months. Also tell him that it's not right for him to just move in with this woman. If he really loves her, he should think about protecting her reputation and about both of them being good role models for the little boy. Let your son know that you want only his and her happiness, but that you want him to act, not just as a man, but as a moral and ethical man. Tell him that after graduation, he will be an official adult and you will back him up in any decision he makes. Don't say anything against the lady. Seven years is not really a big difference in age and it will get less so as they get older. Tell him if he really loves her and their love stands this test of time, they should think about marrying. Tell him he should be talking with her about goals in life, whether they want children together, what religion (if any) they will raise the children in, how they will discipline, further education for either of them, and all the important questions people should talk about before marrying. Warn him that he will change a great deal in the next five years; will he still be the same man who wants to be with this lady when he reaches full adulthood? Tell him how proud of him you are. Then, step back and be supportive. He'll do fine.

Really these things are useless first of all we must stop dating, there is no use in this, try to make your understand the problems in dating and bring him back to his normal life, so it spoils his golden life. First elders must and shoudl follow some rules and regulations then only it wont affect the youngsters, youngsters are spoiling due to their elders, if elders path is good it automatically comes to their followers if their way is bad it obviously spread to their youngers. Try to explain the loss to your son and let him to enjoy the normal and happy life without dating and all these things.

what are the specific reasons why you don't want this woman for your son (aside from the age)? have you tried to talk to him about these (other) reasons? if so, what did he have to say?

Well he is 17, if he moves in with her can you file statutory rape charges?

How much older is she? Do you think he is doing this to rebel against you? If so, odds are that if you fully accept her he will no longer want to be with her since the act of defiance will be gone.