At what age do you start treating your kids as matured individuals?
By daisyveteran
@daisyveteran (90)
India
April 29, 2007 11:28am CST
I have two kids.I was shocked when i saw my neghibour treating her 19 year old boy like a kid asking him to eat on time, do things in the right manner,respect the elders etc,etc....Have you come across any such bizarre situation like this?According to me a parent must stop looking at the child as a kid at the age of 12.Here is when the child is getting into the adolocent stage and requires warmth and not the guidance.I am certainly not saying that a 12 year old child can survive without any guidance but atleast the way my neighbour was guiding her boy is not required.What are you comments?
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I think as soon as they start acting responsible for thier actions we as parents need to start let them make some decisions with quidance and that could be between 10 to 14 years old. Every child matures differently. My 13 year old daughter is very mature for her age but her dad treats her like she is five.
@daisyveteran (90)
• India
29 Apr 07
What you have mentioned is very true.I do agree with the point that different child matures differently but the situation with my neighbour is different.The boy is an adult with alot of matured thoughts just that my neghbour thinks that what she does is the right way of parenting which is pissing even her child sometimes.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I guess it is very hard for some parents to let go and they take it to an extreme that it should not be taken to. This parents needs to take a step back and let her child learn from his own mistakes and become an adult.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
29 Apr 07
Yes you are correctand what your neighbour doing with her is not at all fine and she need to be trained how to behave with grownup kids and this is common,i too saw like this cases before and i was totally shocked and even i told that this is not the way but they think their kids are too small and they stiil need guidence in every thing like for the simple things also. Guiding is good but it is fine to certain age and should be in serious matters which change their life like in term of their studies,job or profession,marriage............ so what i think is the age b/w 12 to15yrs is the wright age for themwhere we can treate them as an free individual.
