Do you think you know through "Responses" and "Discussions" some users of Mylot?
By samrat16
@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 29, 2007 12:31pm CST
I think we get to know person little bit after reading her response or discussion. If we read carefully what is written in between the lines we can usually "see" the real person. I mean look at me,I'm honest and right to the point,some may think I'm rude but you know where you're at with me. (I also admit that I'm not 100% honest as this is a public forum.)
There is that human thing where we start thinking everyone is family, and then just like that, we don't get answers we anticipate, or one contributor or another wigs out in an incomprehensible way or someone feels snubbed, and next thing, pouting to oneself begins, contemplating not to return. The consolation for me is that ultimately we're reaching out to visit and learn and having fun.
Last thing I want to add to my discussion is I have some good friends on mylot and I think I know them just as I go through their responses and discussions. What about you? Do you think you can understand somebody on mylot because of his/her responses? Do you want to meet somebody from mylot in real life? (I want to meet two people from mylot as I find them real good first one is queenie and second one is jeweledbluerose.)
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39 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
29 Apr 07
Not all, but some. For one, you don't know how much truth the other person is telling. For two, you are piecing together information given by this person - so that's subjective. :P
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
30 Apr 07
There she goes again. Stole my toy truck and lying through her pearlie whites. *hmph*
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
29 Apr 07
Hi Sam, yes well this is very true that we do get to know our friends and members who give a response to our discussions, which is great I can see your point with this discussion but I have never read anywhere where you have been rude to me in any of your discussions or responses. This is very true that it is great to learn from others and have fun as well, yes I get to know what my friends and members are like by reading their discussions which is really important to me as I love to learn about my new friends so that we can become more closer to them and to understand their likes and dislikes. Yes I have plans to meet some of mylot friends for real.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I think most of my friends know alot about me by my discussions. I also have learned alot about some of my very close friends. I could probably describe them pretty accurately. So the answer is yes. I would also like to met someone in real life. maybe even a few people. Have a big get together or something. That would be cool.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
I've been here for 3 months now and somehow, I'm grateful for having the opportunity to have virtual friends. Like what you said, I can easily read their minds without seeing their face. Some of their feelings and thoughts are so transparent that you can easily detect if a user is lying or stating the truth.
I have to admit that I'm particularly choosy with the threads I'm responding. Some topics I deemed sensitive and its difficult for me to respond. I don't know what you learned from me, samrat. I don't exactly put my real thoughts out. I guess you can only think of me as a little bunny, LOL!
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
29 Apr 07
Hello,samrat,I think everyone will have their personalities reflect on their replies and there is nothing wrong not to be 100% honest here.
Through the responses,at least I can know their experiences and understand them more, sometimes memebrs will reply with their own stories which are good time for other to know him/her more.
Although I really like some of the members,but I think I am happy to communicate with them here as I have not had any experience to meet any friends on the net.
I also want to meet you.lol.
@touchnshine (2821)
• India
29 Apr 07
Yes .. we can know a person little bit just by reading their response or discussion.. but can't agree with -- we can see the real person .. yeah that's true that we can know their nature through this. I can understand a person's nature here on mylot by just reading their response and going through their profile. I won't comment on the last part -- of about meeting somebody from mylot in real life :)
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@limcyjain (3516)
• India
29 Apr 07
Yes i feel that looking at the discussions started and responses given one can build a picture of the nature of the person who has put up the messages. Infact i use this to understand the persons before accepting anybody as my friend.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
30 Apr 07
Well....this is the million dollar question. No i dont think we can know a lot of people through just reading their responses or discussions. We may get an insight into some people but I feel a lot of people just answer or post discussions that they feel would be the popular answer and not what they truly feel.
But one thing is there..I have posted a couple of discussions asking for true advice and I have never been disappointed. Whenever you feel as if things are getting too heavy and need unbiased advice, nothing like Mylot. Kudos to all its users for caring about other's feelings.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
29 Apr 07
hello samrat,I do know a lot of my friends and i know them well enough to know what they do,how many children they have,and some of them even know their childrens names.......It is good to know about your friends and i have many good friends on here,and i have been able to read between the lines enough to find out their personalities.I do not know you real well because we have not been friends that long,but i will get to knowing you better as we discuss and answer.I have many friends and they are all different but i have not found any that i do not like...I would like to meet people on mylot yes but i live in Texas and so many are from far away.i have met some good friends on here to and also online.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I think there are people here that I have gotten to "know" pretty well... and certainly a few I'd have lunch or a coffee with, if I happened to be visiting their town, or vice-versa. I think I have a better sense of the people who ask questions about "life" and interactively discuss them with responders... than, for example, someone who just asks "Do you like your cell phone" or something like that. So my answer is "it depends."
Ultimately, I think people let us see whatever parts of them they WANT others to see. But that's not exclusive to the online environment-- people do the same thing at the office, or organizations we belong to... there's a "public presentation," and it doesn't tend to include the innermost parts of a person until you take the time to get to know them REALLY well.
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@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Yes, Samrat, I think I do get to know some of the people on Mylot by the discussions that they give and what they say in their discussions. Maybe one day I will actually meet some of them but I have not had private discussions with them to learn more about them yet.
I have some honest and open daughters and sometimes I construe their discussions as rude and hard. But when I cool down I realize that they meant no disrespect and only spoke to me out of pure love.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I do feel there is some connection made between users. There are very few people that I look for their discussions and responses. I will not name names as I do not wish to offend anyone. They know who they are. They are people that I respect and share values with. I love being able to learn new things from people and try to do my best to put myself out there in many of my responses. I am always truthful and speak my mind to a fault. I do think you can tell a lot about a person from their responses. Not to the "What color nail polish do you use" questions, but when they post or respond to more profound discussions, you get a sense of their core values, their way of thinking, etc. I wouldn't trade some of the people I have met here for a lot of people in my daily life.
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@charlestchan (1415)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 07
yep. .i do go through some responses and discussion some users of mylot.. i think we can get to know more about a person through the way the response.. like me.. i don't admit i'm honest too.. i know at times i purposely make my response longer.. so i can earn more.. but who doesn't want to earn more? that's the purpose of being here right? i really thank my friends for replying to my discussion.. i think they're great... especially when they help me to solve my daily problems.. i don't simply open a discussion.. i only discuss something that i think it's a problem that i can't solve.. i really hope to meet them in real life.. i know they're great person
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@samrat16 (2442)
• India
30 Apr 07
Yes, Even I understand some friends on mylot through their responses. There is a user who has two daughters and she talks about them mostly in her discussions and responses. She loves them a lot and really worried about their future. She even talks about daily problems of her and I'm glad to have her in friends list. Even same about you.
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@krisrael24 (62)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
i think by reading the responses and siscussions, we can see right thru it who and what kind of person or personality the individual has. because thru it they're discussing and sharing what they think is right and wrong and they even share their own point of view.
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@jaiganeshe2007 (134)
• India
30 Apr 07
That's really great thing to hear from mylotters. This type of responses and discussions will make more persons get together with good creativities and fun making occassions and it makes other users to get more interactive in the discussions. I also love to see some of the mylotters who really deserves.
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I was watching a show on Tv, that said that 92% of things people say online or not true. That's huge! ..... I don't believe everyone, it takes a long time before I feel I know someone, if I do at all.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Over the course of time you have to get to know someone. Even though you only see their typing their feeling often are reflected. Many of the people ask or share personal experiences and that makes for an even closer bond.
The internet opens so many doors for people it is hard to not make friends. Sometimes the friendship boat rocks a little bit when someone doesn't react the way you want them too, but I have always told people that typing is not an accurate medium to judge a persons actions. And many times a bad choice of words can create a dischord that was not intended. I always ask questions when I am not totally sure I am on the same page with someone.
Asking questions is a lot better than getting angry and a lot easier on the emotional stability. There are many I would like to meet and maybe someday it will come to pass.
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
30 Apr 07
As you said, it is correct.It needs time also, one should understand what the other guy try to say, and reply accordingly, otherwise it is not discussion.
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@RookRocks (381)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Some users just stand out really well with the quality of their replies (poor or excellent), or the topic they started. And when they stand out, you tend to remember what they said. And you sort of already made a mental image of the person you are dealing with. Some people I replied to in MyLot I tend to go back to, or when I see that they posted another topic then I take the time to look into it. I noticed that they are either family-oriented, politically, or even religiously oriented in their topics and discussions.
@rainqueen21 (338)
• United States
2 May 07
i would say yes some people you do get to know really well, and when i say well i mean well enough you're still a stranger looking in but but with a little insight on the person, i would say some people in my friends list i know a little about them especially since i'm good at reading between lines and dicovering the type of personality they may have.
