Is It My Place??
By LoLoSLoT
@LoLoSLoT (22)
United States
April 29, 2007 8:52pm CST
Okay my nephew will be three in July. His mother, my sister, who is single at that has ways of raising him that I don't agree with. It's nothing that could harm him or endanger him or anything like that it's just a few small things that I don't agree with. It is her only child and she is alone raising him so I was wondering would my insgiht ge helpful or rude. Like if I was to confront her about some of these things would it be wrong. I know when your a parent you can get easily ticked off about issues that have to do with your children. But she usually is pretty open minded, and I dont thin it would be a big deal. I do have him alot though usually around 3-4 nights a week because like I said she is a single mother and works alot. I just don't want her to get mad at me or think that I am butting in. What do you think?
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5 responses
@uniquenorthern (932)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I think that if you approach her with an open mind and don't try to confront her openly it might go ok. That is a really touchy subject and could go either way really. I would just be really careful and just approach her as giving advice not trying to tell her what to do. Maybe that would help.
@mrsturner (518)
• Canada
1 May 07
Mothers are very sensitive about anyone - even a cherished sister - telling them that they are doing something wrong. If she asks for your opinion then you have an opening to bring something up. Don't bring everything up at once. That could be disasterous. The only other thing I can think of is that you could ask her why she does something? There could be a very good reason for it since all children are different.
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
1 May 07
I think that, if she is open-minded as you say, she will hear you out. If it's just an issue of parenting style differences, you have the right to express your beliefs-but she has the right to raise her child in the way she chooses to as long as it isn't harmful to him or others. If you really feel that it's an important issue, then by all means you should bring it up. But be prepared to be disagreed with, and maybe even told to "butt out".
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
1 May 07
I think the best thing for you to do is to come at your sister with love and concern... I don't think there is nothing wrong with you giving a little imput out of love... I think the problem comes in when you approach things in a damading why (do this and do that and oh your doing this wrong) then I can see her getting mad... but you should know your sister very well learn how to approach her... you should know what make her mad in that event you should be ok... always offer your help and if they refuse then just know you were there and alway will be when she needs you
