have you fallen in love with a friend?
@felinegoddess (39)
Philippines
April 30, 2007 6:28am CST
"the problem with being a woman is we can never be just friends with a man" -- How To Make An American Quilt
when i was younger, i've often watched stories about friends, having one falling in love with the other. it usually involves a lot of heartache, because more often than not, it is a case of unrequited love.. i nver believed it would happen to me.. but it did. and yep, it was hurtful. glad it's over for me.
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@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
30 Apr 07
The word 'fall' is itself tell us, this going to be in troubled waters. If you love somebody you marry and be settled, but changing from nest to nest is not good, it may spoil one & only life.If you want only enjoy, it up to you shipwreck & drown in the sea of Life. Even if you want to come back, it will be a very difficult situation
Think before you leap.
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@prettylady9143 (238)
• Philippines
2 May 07
yeah i fell in love with my bestfriend of years. the story of how it happened was relly romantic and very memorable that until i still remember how i felt like i was heaven in that day and that its like i was floating in the air lol. its undescribable. if i'll tell the story..oh! it would be a book lol. though we broke up..my care will always be here for him forever and he will always own a special place in my heart. takecare
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@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
2 May 07
i can tell from the way you talk about it that it had been really nice with your friend.. = ) well, this experience can really be wonderful.. especially with the memories. it's great that even though you guys parted ways, you remain to be fon of him and he is still a very nice memory to you..
when i think about my friend, it's also really wonderful. but i can appreciate it better now that i have gotten over the whole thing..
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@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
2 May 07
good thing you were able to do that.. i wasn't able to control it at the time. but it didn't matter coz he didn't feel the same anyway. but that's over now.
but, yeah, you're right. i guess sometimes, when this happens, it's better to just like push it away especially if you have a really really good bondin gwith the guy. cause it might distort things, you know. considering we girls can do some real crazy stuff when we're in love. haha. i almost lost the friend i fell in love with a number of times because of my crazy antics. = )
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@vikki_p (256)
• Philippines
1 May 07
yes! i fell in love with my guy bestfriend and we are still together now ;) it was unexpected, but just a moment there that we realized that we love each other.. i think he liked me first then we kind of hooked up then fell in love.. its a nice feeling but then ofcourse there are a lot of trials that came our way until now.. but we are doing our best to be strong! ;)
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
1 May 07
that's great.. = ) im glad it turned out all well for you guys. yep. trials are inevitable in a realtionship and it's a good thing that you both commit to making things work. after all, you have the advantages of friendship to understand each other and get through everything. i wish you guys all the best!
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@shak143 (1280)
• India
30 Apr 07
What do you mean?Can't friends should love each other?Whats wrong in it?You saw a guy and meat him twice it leads to meat regularly and in the mean while you became close friends and after that anyone of them may realise that they can leave happily each other.This thought is nothing but love.
You people told we want to know the person whom we are going to marry if it is so marrying a know person how come it will be wrong?
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@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
1 May 07
of course there isn't anything wrong with falling in love with a friend.. it can be a really great experience.. although sometimes, it can lead to heartache. i have heard a lot of stories about girls who fell in love with their friends. unfortunately, the friend does not feel the same way & can only offer nothing more than friendship. but there are also success stories when friends fall in love with each other & start a really nice romantic relationship...
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@banban (601)
• China
30 Apr 07
I have fallen in love with one of my friends.Now he is my boyfriend.We go on well,though sometimes we feel angry with each other.
He loves me so much,but he is so busy that can't stay with me for long.
I once wanted to break up with him,but at last I gave up.
Being a friend,it's hard to say 'goodbye' to him.
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@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Yes. That happens when friends become lovers. There is always the risk of losing the frinedship, because before you became lovers, you were friends.
I feel for you. it can be really hard when your partner is busy. you won't get as much time to spend with him as you used to. eniweis, good luck & i wishthe best to your relationship.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
2 May 07
My first sincere relationship was with my best friend back way before. Its easy to fall in love with a friend because in my case she had been my advisor whenever I had problem. I entrusted her my deepest secret in life and shared to her my thoughts, plans, and dreams.
After about 8 years of friendship(she had to turn me down 3 times) we finally became lovers, it was the happiest moment in my life I can say. But chances were not that good to us, after about a year we had to separate our ways and that was the worst thing happened in my life. And now we just can't go back to be friends anymore. Things changed and my heart still feel the pain.
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
2 May 07
yes, that's true. it's easy to fall in love with a friend coz you get to spend so much with them, doing fun things and stuff you both enjoy. you get to be yourself and not strive to impress the person.
unfortunately. it is also true that the biggest risk is to lose the friendship when love is lost. they say friends can be lovers but lovers can't be friends. well, maybe they could be... but it will take a very long time for the pain to heal...
@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
6 May 07
I do and i would say that it is not easy because you should have to think of many things, like what would happen if ever i tend to tell my friend that i love him what would be his reaction? What will happen with our friendship if ever i confess to him? These are some of the questions you should consider if you were in love with your friend. In my situation at first its really difficult but i am glad that when i confess my feelings for him nothing was change towards our friendship. We are the same as we are before.
@patricia24 (568)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I have fallen in love with a friend, he is my closest friend, i share to him my secrets, if have no one to go with me at the mall, he is the one that i approach to go with me, until he tell me that he is falling in love to me. At first my reaction is to be angry at him, i dont talk to him for months, then i saw him with other girl. I feel really jealous so i text him a quote letting him know that i forgive him and asking if he still wants to be my close friend. He replied yes, then were back with being friend and more closer than before, he said that the girl he used to be with is just his classmate. He said to me that he loves me and he wants me to be her girlfriend so i say yes, we had a two years relationship. And now we are having our one year wedding anniversary on June 10. That is my experience on falling in love with a friend.
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
wow... that was touching. = ) it's so nice to hear that you had a great experience in an often times hurtful situation. you're lucky because most of teh time, these things don't work. congratulations!
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