Victims

No, I don't know how to play the victim, but I do have some family members who love to play this role to gain sympathy and manipulate or guilting others into helping them. Me myself I give them suggestion on how to do it themselves and that I will not be helping them in no other, if they don't take the suggestion I don't care. Because I love them is why I don't encourage it.

There are way too many people in this world that do just that assume the role of a victum either to justify feeling sorry for themselves and to elicit that response from other people. I have a saying on my desktop from George Bernard Shaw that reads: People are always balming circumstances for what they are. I do not believe in circumstances. The people that get on in this world are the people that get up and look for the circumstances that they want, and if they cant find them, They make them.

I think that most people that play victim are just stuck in that mind set because it is all they know. Most people naturally fear change, and to change from being a victim to something else can be quite terrifying if that is all you know. They become comfortable with the idea that they are always the victim. So comfortable in fact, that the idea of taking charge of their lives and becoming a happier person actually scares them. Since we're doing quotes, here's one of my favorites from Nelson Mandela: "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us."