what kind of mother you are
By rajinder51
@rajinder51 (84)
India
April 30, 2007 12:16pm CST
I just want to start a discussion. Mothers almost all are same. we love our children and live for them.
But the question is what type of mother u are?
I am not very strict mom. I love my sons very much. NOw they are growm up. But when they were small ,they were obedient,loving,caring and v. good at studies. I was never a v. strict mom but still they were scared of me and they never use to do anything without telling me.As thry grew up, they became more confident , self dependent ,responsible. Even now they are concerned about my feeling and they try to make me happy.
People say that a mother should be v. strict and punish the children if they do something wrong.But I have seen that if parents are v. tough with their children, they become more rigid and they rebel.
So what is your opnion? Pl. post yr. valueable reponses. What type or kind of mother you are? how you deal with your children?Do you like to snub or supress them or you want to be friendly wiht them?
1 response
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I'm a mother that cares about my children. I have rules and expectations, if the boundaries are remained within their freedoms are great. If they step over the boundaries, the freedoms are removed. I have enjoyed talking with my boys and doing things with them every since they were littel. We've developed great relationships with their grandparents too. Family has been our focus. Now that the boys are nearing 18yrs., they seem to want less of mom's views and time and more of Dad's views and time. The still try to care about my feeelings, but I can see how they're trying to figure out who they are. I don't like it when people place the label of "Very Strict" on someone...just because a parent cares about their child and wants the best for them...it may sometimes seem strict, but in reality its really loving your child and giving them realistic boundaries to abide by in the Real World. Okay some people may seem to hold extremely tight reigns, but there are usually reasons for that too. Kids that I've witnessed having freedom to do whatever they want, whenever they want with no accountablity are BRATS and don't care about anyone. So I guess each parent, needs to decide what they can deal with when it comes to their kids.
@rajinder51 (84)
• India
30 Apr 07
Thanks. I agree with you. Whatever way a child should know his limits.And As they grow certainly there will be difference but still that love, care,humbleness,obideince, should be there.I have seen parents - they simply snub thier child and insult in front of every one. So sometimes I feel my self lucky that I have got such loving and caring sons.All the best.
