Wedding planners are they a luxury or a must have?

we hired a wedding planner for our wedding because our busy schedules at work made it hard for us to plan it ourselves. yes, it was a bit expensive but it was definitely a big help! don't get me wrong... i'm not saying it's a must have. it's a "nice to have". we also had what you can say a big wedding. yes, we spent quite a big amount and most would say that it could have been spent for a new house or a new car. but we don't regret it. it was a once in a lifetime event and we wanted it to be memorable. it was what we wanted and we're very happy with it.

I think any big wedding is a waste of money. Just because you have a big wedding doesn't make your marriage any better. My husband and I spent about $5,000 total for our wedding and honeymoon. We had a close friend marry us at the beach with our other close friends (a married couple) as witnesses. Then we took everyone out to dinner afterwards. The money that we saved went to the purchase of our new home. I think that was a much better way to spend our money. We made a long term investment that will benefit us everyday for the rest of our lives, as opposed to a one night party. So no, I don't think wedding planners are necessary. Basically all they do is make the phone calls and get everything where it's supposed to go. Anyone can do that, the luxury of a wedding planner is just that...a luxury. It's a job that was created to make sure the bride and groom aren't stressing out before their big day arrives.

wedding planners are a luxury which is meant only for those who can afford their services. for the ordinary citizens, this is too much to have. the wedding planners come out with too beautiful plans as to make it desirable for the couple at the high price that they offer. wedding planners are supposed to cater to the rich and the celebrities who do not have the time to make their wedding arrangements. however, there are some among us who wants to show others that they can afford this, too.

I own a wedding shop in Ontario and I don't know any of my customers using the service of wedding planner. I myself am not a wedding planner since I don't have the schooling to do so. Weddings here always involve parents and friends, they help out each other to the extent that wedding planner service is not a necessity. In another forum I heard that wedding planner is high in demand in the US. Your friend could've looked for cheaper service I'm sure wedding planners charge differently on each situation, so that she didn't get ripped off.

I have a Wedding planner for my Wedding, because thats how I WANT things. It's a personal choice for each bride. Since we have so many family members flying out from the East, and from the UK, not to mention friends from Holland and Australia, I want them to have a damn good time! My Wedding is costing $10,000 all in, and that includes the services of the Wedding Planner, I don't think it's that much to ensure a fantastic day. Of course, it's not a necessity, but a Wedding Planner takes care of the little details that we might otherwise forget, and does a good job at getting good prices for different things. It's my personal choice and one I'm glad I made. I wish your friend well on her big day.

Hi camar-lyn!Wedding planners are a waste of time unless you don't have time to do it yourself. I personally don't like them because they charge way too much money for something you can do for alot less money. The fun is doing it yourself. Sure, it can get stressful, but in the end, it will have all been worth it because you can say it you did it all yourself and be proud of your accomplishment. Also, they seem like they don't let you have reign on how the wedding turns out. It seems like they want it their way or no way at all. Anyway, that is my two cents.

Sounds crazy to me to spend that much money on just the planner. But then I like things simple. Unless the couple are totally rich, I'd think that wedding is going to put them in the hole financially. They might be better off using the money for a house downpayment or starting a retirement fund.

hiring wedding planners depends on the needs of the couple. some people hired wedding planners to ensure that their wedding will be a success and to lift the burden of arranging and planning the big day. a lot of couple nowadays depend on the wedding planner to arrange their dream wedding because they are both working and no time on their hands. they will just tell what they want for the wedding and the wedding planner will be the one to contact the necessary people or supplier for the wedding. planning, arranging, outsourcing different supplier for the food, location, place or church and other necessary thing for the wedding are done by the wedding planners. once they already have the people or resources, they just ask the approval of the couple especialy the bride if it suits their needs. planning and arranging for the big day is the most stressing thing that's why some couples hired wedding planner to do this things so the bride can relax and be beautiful on her wedding day.

Personally, I don't want a big wedding so wouldn't need a wedding planner. However, when a couple rents out the venue I work at for a wedding or reception, I LOVE it when they have hired areal wedding planner (not some friend who hasn't done it before, that doesn't count). Having a wedding planner means that there is one person who all the services involved can go to in order to have their quesitons answered; otherwise it is usually "ask my sister, she knows about the cake, but Mom is the one who knows how the centerpieces should look. Cousin Jimmy was supposed to set up the DJ, where is he?..." etc. Having a planner who has done several wedding just makes everything run smoother overall, especailly if you are having a large event.

Dreams doesnt come cheap and if they have the money to spend for it then I see nothing wrong with it if it would make them happy. World problems will always be there, wedding planners or not. It is also part of being generous to oneself becaue one could not think of the world all the time and be guilty when one get something expensive because some orphanage needs renovation. ONe has a duty to oneself and to others and one should not neglect to put oneself first inorder to do more things in the future. We only get to live once and we should make the most out of it. Planning a weeding is so stressful if I'm going to base it from my experience. How I wish I had the money too to employ a wedding planner who could make my dreeam wedding come true and take away all the stress of planning a wedding. In my case, I didn't get to enjoy the wedding because I was so tired.

This is so sad to me. wedding planners and other "professionals" of this kind are totaly using their clients to get rich quick. Like you said thats not only sad but ridiculous when you consider all the hungry people in the world. I don't mean to sound harsh, I know this girl is your friend. I didn't have a weding planner and my marriage is just as valid as the hers will be. I also think that when you plan your own wedding you get a more personal touch. In the end its the memories that you will talk about every anniversary...not the wedding planner.

For me, having one is just a luxury. Why spend on hundreds or even thousands of dollars for this service when you and your husband, with the help of family and friends, can make the all necessary arrangements/ details for your dream wedding? I wanted to be "hands on" with my own wedding so I didn't hire a wedding planner. Besides, we wanted it to be like a family gathering where my family and my husband's family get to know each other through the tasks they were requested or have volunteered to do. And it was actually fun!

Wedding planners are an unnecessary luxury. I had a beach themed wedding. There wasn't a single flower in sight, including on my bouqet (and no I didn't carry grass - I carried a wreath decorated in ribbons and sea shells and hangin behind it were 2 gold necklaces - one for my mom and one for my mom in law, which we gave to them just before we left the church after the service). I planned and executed my own wedding with the help of friends and family. Decor was simple (sea themed). We hired lights for the tables and hired a restaurant for the reception, which took care of food and place. In total my wedding (including my dress, which was custom made, and 2 international tickets to fly my in laws over) cost approximately $3500.00. I don't see the point of starting a marriage in debt. In fact I would rather take the extra money and put it towards buying our first home. Are weddings a dream come true? The realty is, it's one day out of a lifetime u spend together. When my husband and I got married, I chose to look at it that way. He was my dream come true, not the wedding. That was just a party whose cost we had to bear. If I'd had my way, our wedding would have just been immediate family and then going out to eat at a restaurant. Wedding planners use the emotions of a lifetime to let u think ur getting ur dream come true, when in reality ur setting urself up for a real disappointment fi ur priorities aren't straight.

I think if they worked hard to get that money, it deserve to spent every cent for their wedding, it is a lifetime memories! And nowadays $20000 for a wedding, is just what it costs!! Life is pretty expensive...! And it also depends on the individual, how they feel, what makes them happy!!! If that is what will make her happy and not just the guests there, then she is right!!! Now if we take all other factors like she could probably not waste money and use it efficiently for somm more important cause like charity, cancer treatment etc... if the wedding wouldnt make her happy to lavishly spent, then yes its a waste of money. I entire agree with you then! But u've got to think, do u say no to your kids when they ask for chocolate, thinking that you will save the next dollar and give to charity??? How many of us contribute to charity on a regular basis or get a portion of our salary or pay check to charity or a good cause??? What do you think?

I believe that elaborate weddings are a definate waste of money. Money could be spent for other reasons. It could be used for the down payment on a house or car etc. Spending big bucks on a wedding doesn't mean that the marriage will last forever. Often times they end up in shambles over money issues.

It sounds like you have a practical, good, and generous heart. Some people would say the cost of the wedding would have made a good down payment on a home for them as well. Where there are people willing to be parted from their money for a "dream" then there are people (like wedding planners) willing to help them part from their money. Do not get me wrong, lovely weddings are a wonderful way to celebrate a commitment, but I would be too frugal to do what your friend has done.

I guess if you have money and are having a very large wedding that a planner is nice. I only had a small cerimony with ten guest so I don't think I needed a planner. I made less that $30,000.00 a year in combined income and we could not afford a wedding planner let a lone a big wedding. I loved the ceremony and would not have changed it for the world. I was marrying a man not his bank account. The other thing is that you don't need to spend a lot to have a great day.

They are a luxury I believe, I planned my whole wedding myself and loved it!