Second Chances - Yes or No?
By fellowlife
@fellowlife (988)
Nigeria
April 30, 2007 2:58pm CST
Should you give them another chance when they cheat? The experts answer that question by saying that in general, if you do, they will cheat again, and the relationship won't last or you'll just be left in a relationship where you endure continual cheating. So the answer to "Should you give them another chance?" is, in most cases, a resounding no.
While many cheaters don't get caught, most slip up one time and that one time is all it takes for their partner to find out. Most of the time these partners are suspicious but waiting for the 'proof'. The ramifications of being caught are usually pretty earthshaking, because most spouses, especially men, answer no to the question of "Should you give them another chance?" Cheating destroys trust, say the experts, and in relationships trust is one of the most, if not the most, important ingredient to a lasting loving life together.
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6 responses
@aliyaa (580)
• India
19 May 07
In my opinion i will go for yes....
I think everyone should be given a second chance for them to change their mind ...If we are not giving no chance to cahnge there is a chance that he may continue it in fullswing than before...Its true that after first cheating all will be viewing their partner with suspicion but this can be changed if there is healthy conversation going on between the partners....
@geen0305 (19)
• Australia
16 May 07
I am a true evidence of how a cheater can get away with the wrong doing that they have done. I was cheated twice, the second one when I was pregnant and 19 days before I delivered, I found out through his handphoned. I was shock and distressed but remain calm. I asked for separation and he begged to give him third chance, I was so stressed out that I asked for the Divine intervention , and now guided by Our Good Lord, I'm still with him, feeling happy and Free. I would say yes.. because I am such a forgiving person for a start.
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
30 Apr 07
It really depends on the person, if you can see that they are trying to make up for their mistake than I say yes they should get a second chance to prove that they can be in a trusting relationship with you again.
If they enjoyed doing it and don't care about it, than no I wouldn't give them a second chance. Cause it is all to obvious that they'll do it again.
@alpha_release (119)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I wouldn't give my boyfriend a second chance if I caught him. When you do, they just think they can get away with it and it will keep happening. That, and I have trust issues as it is, so my trust would be absolutely gone.
@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
30 Apr 07
This really depends on the couple. From the relationships that I have had I would normally say no, because like they say once a cheat always a cheat. But if you are truely in a commited relationship, and one of you messes up, I think that there is definatly a way to get past it. It does take time. A lot of time to get over something like that. in fact you probably never get over it, you just move past it. If you really do love the person, and you are sure that the love you just as much, then you should be able to get past a one time mess up. If this person though has cheated on you more than once then it is time to boot him out the door.
@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
3 May 07
"The experts answer that question by saying that in general, if you do, they will cheat again"...SO TRUE!!
So,no chance in hell to give another chance after he cheat me...
I guess i am very sweet and good if he left my home alive(lol)but with me it is very clear...i am not cheating and it seems to be the most bad thing in a relationship...
my answer :NO!
augusta
