Have You Ever Felt Like You Were Asking To Much Of Someone?

actually i'm in a situation where i am asking too much of a person. and i know i shouldnt but cant help myself. and the relationship is such that i cant get out of it. so i dont know what to do.

Hi Rozie Im glad you realized that. Im the same way but when Ive had enough I will speak up too. Im a very easy going person and you probably are too. and people just take advantage and its not right. I seldom get mad but when I do look out honey! Make yourself happy you deserve it.

Some days ago i posted a similar discussion of the too demanding parner. You have another point of view. I am not a person with so much expectations. Many people expect their partner to give him everything, to satisfy them completely. But nobody is perfect. And we all have this moment when we feel the emptyness in our relations. This is a sign to revalue the situation. Are we with this partner because we love him or just this is the routine we dont want to leave because of our security? Can we risk again? Or it`s better to keep the statue quo.

Yes it's true that it hurts if we feel like we're being taking for granted by our special someone but I dont breaking him right away is not the solution to your problem.Have you tried to talk to him seriously and tell him what you feel?that you're being hurt of what he's doing? If you do and still he did not change then that's the time to think for your self.

just like you i am also a great giver. i don't care if its too much as long as i can see that the person is happy and contented. and same as your situation, there will really come a time that you have too give up because you are giving too much and the other person is only taking you for granted. it hurts at first but you'll later realize that its better to give up a person than let yourself suffer because of him being insensitive.

I'm so happy for you! Seriously, this guy obviously isn't worth your time, and I'm pretty sure being humans we have all been through this stage! Keep your head up and let love find you. It works. I did and now I have the man of my dreams and he always puts in that extra effort. You'll find someone that's worth your time and HEART!

I appreciate your feelings. You really deserve more than what you have got from that person. Since, you have the intention to give a lot without asking too much, so, I guess, you will eventually get good friendship and relationship with someone who cares for you.

yes dear, when we love someone dearly , its natural to except something, but when those expectations are broken , we are shattered, its nice that you have kept your self respect, hope you do well and good in life, take care.

I agree with you. Why be in a relationship just for the sake of being with someone when you're not happy with the person?

From the sound of your post, it doesn't REALLY sound like you were asking too much-- it sounds more like you were either being used, or found yourself in a relationship that lacked reciprocity. Being with someone and feeling like it is all "one way traffic" is not a healthy thing-- goodness knows, I have been there a few times in my life. As Pilbara said, life has "givers" and "takers." UNfortunately, they tend to find each other and often end up in these inequitable situations. In my own case, I have often had to accept the fact that some of it was my own doing, because a part of my own "self-identity" lies in being a giving person... as such, I have often found myself drawn to people who wanted "to be given to," even though those folks are typically NOT a good match for me. Breaking up a relationship can be painful, but it is typically less painful to just end it, than to hang around and slowly get angrier and angrier because it feels like you're not important. You can't "change" other people unless those people WANT to change... and whereas you can certainly "get used to" being in a place where you feel unheard and unappreciated (just like you can "get used to" hitting yourself three times in the head with a hammer, every morning), you ultimately have to ask the question "Where is the VALUE?" We deserve to have the relationships we WANT, and that make use feel GOOD about ourselves.

i cant say you or explain why this thing happen but i am quite sure you will be able to know everything in brief if you just visit in my discussions take care an by.

We are different when it comes to that, yes sometimes i do feel that i am asking too much from my friends but they said that what i think is wrong and that i am the one who always helped them so much that it tends not to think about myself. I am that kind of person i like helping others especially if i can. But eventhough i am like that still my self-esteem is low to the point that i feel i am not being appreciated at all.

Rozie, sorry to hear of the end of your relationship I know it was not an easy decision. I know you are strong and will find someone else who will fit your needs. Growing up I was told I was not wanted so several times in my marriage when I was feeling a bit insecure I would ask my husband if he truly wanted me in the relationship. I told him I would not stay where I was not wanted. He always has said he wanted me here. I know someday yours will come along.

I'm sorry to hear that, Rozie37. But it's okay, life must go on, right. Back to topic now, yes, i once felt that I'm asking to much to someone. I felt bad though, but that's because I care about them. I want them to take care of themselves and at least consider me for being a good friend. But sometimes, I felt I'm just wasting my time.

It's normal to ask something from someone, especially if you love him/her and especially if you think that you've given enough or are giving enough or even more. Don't give up right away. There really are people who take time before they can offer themselves to another person.

Maybe that should read have you ever been made to feel like you were asking too much of someone, as the first means that you are but the second means that they believe you are. Unfortunately in life there are givers and there are takers. It sounds like you are a giver and the person you were with took that for granted and then couldn't be bothered giving in return. It can be hard to do but saying goodbye is the only way of dealing with this situation as if you persist with it they usually resent it, won't change anyway and you just end up more miserable.

i know compromise is one of the hardest things to maintain in a relationship but i didn't know "balance" also qualifies. don't worry, we all go through that and every moment is a leaning experience. that's where we step up to the higher level of maturity. you live, you learn. good luck to you. =)

i think i'm in a relationship similar to yours. i'm still thinking that he does still like to be there for me, it's just that he can't. because of other priorities. i still don't want to demand that much from him because, it's not like we're married. he still has his own family and his set of friends. although, i'm not sure how do i come in the list of his priorities.. sad.

last time.. yes.. i am the type that ask too much of someone.. but then.. now that i realize human is not perfect.. i think we should satisfied with what we have.. do you agree? . my self esteem is low too.. that's why i think i shouldn't ask so much.. last time i am a little bit confident.. but now i'm not.. haha... why asking so much of someone when you know you should have accepted one weaknesses and strength? don't you think you should be sincere in a relationship? friendship.. and so on.. do you ask more from your friends and your partner? i think we should just accept their strength and weaknesses.. :)

hi Rozie. Dont feel disheartened. Life is a game and has a lot of ups and downs. Just becausse of the problem u faced do not underestimate urself ever. offcourse u were right. Well I dont thing u asked of too much from ur love, but indeed in love its always good to be a s frank as possible. Accordingly both should feel free to communicate the pain in their heart. Its not just breaking away that solves the issue. Probably he was not the right man, or else the relation wouldnt have broken off ever.