Are you always the last to know?
By moomincat
@moomincat (321)
5 responses
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 May 07
Well, this happened to me when I was a lot younger and yes - I was the last to know. I would have expected my closest friends to have said something to me, but no-one said anything; I just finally put two and two together. However, I am a lot wiser now (and older), and I would know if something was going on!
@moomincat (321)
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2 May 07
I had that unhappy experience a long time ago as well. Friends pointed it out and I didnt want to beleive it. But I did learn from my mistake.
@m1zundaztud (72)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Yes and no. Yes I would expect my friends to say something, but in the end I'll always stick to my man becuase as they say love is blind. No because they know they'll break my heart... in short they'll let me figure it out and cry on their shoulder...
@moomincat (321)
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2 May 07
Thats the other problem 'shooting the messenger' . Could you be angry with them because they let you know. Its right tho that they should be supportive of any decision you make in your own relationship.
@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
2 May 07
well i would expect my friends to tell me if i was been cheated in and they had known all along.i would see it as a betrayal and an insult if they didnt tell me and i later got to know that they knew.
@moomincat (321)
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2 May 07
Your feelings are like mine. I would feel very betrayed if they had good cause to think that I had been let down and they stood by and didnt have the courage to tell me.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 May 07
Personally I would want to be told, I think the fact of being decived and everyone knowing about it is worsr than the act itself, I believe everyone can handle anything so long as you know what there is to handle, I guess I look at it is being made a fool of when everyone knows but you. but I also know there is different circumstances and every one is different...
@moomincat (321)
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2 May 07
I cant see the point of being in a fools paradise and not facing the facts. But on the other hand I know of individuals who are prepared to turn a blind eye and live with it. As you rightly say everyone is so different.
@moomincat (321)
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2 May 07
I realize it would be very dangerous information. You would have to be very certain of your facts before you told somebody. But would you want to be told if you were in the situation. Would you consider it loyalty for a friend to tell you.
