FOR WIVES W/O CHILDREN:what do you enjoy most about being a wife?
By merihluanne
@merihluanne (254)
Philippines
May 2, 2007 4:25am CST
I am also a wife but not a mother. If I had children or even a child, I would have answered my own question with "of course, my child(ren". But this is not the case. What I enjoy most about being a wife is me and my husband are in each other's lives. Which means we are part of each other. As the priest said on our wedding day: " you are not two but one". Care to share your thoughts on this?
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@missybal (4490)
• United States
2 May 07
I love being a wife because as you said we are like one person. With no children in our lives we are able to fully know and understand one another. We can feel completely comfortable in our everyday lives and when we are home together we can relax and really enjoy each others company. I hear from so many people that married life is so hard and stressful just to keep everything together. Those people have children. Don't get me wrong I like kids and all but really I think in order to know what it is like to be "married" you need to try it without adding being a parent on top of it all. Also the best part is since getting married I'm so much more comfortable with my body and walking around naked when it's just the two of us. I know that we only have this commitment to eachother and that my husband stays married to me because he wants to. Sometimes I see couples that it seems like if they hadn't had kids right away that their marriage may not have lasted because eachother wouldn't have been enough. Then people who don't really want to be married stay together for the sake of the children. Really that time before children is neccessary to grow and strengthen that bond that everyone ought to have in a marriage.
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@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I love what you said about enjoying each other's company before having kids. This is very true, I visited my doctor just recently and asked her if I can be treated so that we can have a baby, but she said that my husband and I should enjoy each other first before having babies because life will change when we will be having children. Travelling and just going out and having fun won't be that fun for the couple anymore because they won't be enjoying each other's company but they will be there to take care of the kids. You're right, it's very comfortable to just be in a room with your husband and just relax.
@toplen (335)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I agree. My husband and I have been married for 8 years now and we still don't have kids yet coz of my reproductive problem. His brothers and my sisters in law have been asking us if we're ever planning to have kids. We actually just laugh about it, esp when we see them not being able to eat very well coz they have to feed their kids first or tend to the kids when they're crying, or when they have to change diapers in the middle of our lunch out or dinner. My husband and I are having the time of our lives, we travel, we go out on a date every weekends, and share lots of things together, things we wouldn't have enjoyed if we had kids. We're enjoying what we have now. If God wills us to have children then so be it but we won't sulk over not having one. There is a time for everything, and now isn't the time yet :)
@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
4 May 07
LOL! we also feel that way when we go out with friends who already have children of their own. My husband usually comments on the noise of the children and how they are very difficult to care for..hehehe! but looking at them sometimes makes me wish we had a child of our own but because we need to plan and God still has not given us the blessing of a child, we are still enjoying our lives as "ala" boyfriend and girlfriend hahah!LOL!
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I'm a wife too, not yet a mom but just the same a WIFE. what I enjoy most? everything..being with my husband for a year now,just the two of us..It's great..I am so happy and contented though of course we're praying for kids to come soon,but nonetheless we're still happy. I just love the way he cooks breakfast for me everyday, I love seeing him do things that he usually don't do when he was still single..and of course I love doing things for him too. I enjoy our times spent together praying, watching movies or even just lying beside each other.
I am a wife and I love every minute of it!
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@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Hey! Congratulations! You have a very loving husband. My husband is a very busy man but we still find time to be with each other most of the day. I cook for him but unfortunately we don't pray together. But every Sunday, we make sure that we can go to church together with his family. I'm happy that we are still happy with our married lives without any children.. Usually what is expected of a married couple is children, but I think there is still much to develop before the responsibility of children in the lives of couples worldwide..
