Do you have the life you wanted?

I'm on my way to having the life I have always wanted. I'm only 24, so it's definitely not all put together yet. But I do have the wonderful husband and beautiful baby boy. Eventually I want 3 more kids to complete the dream I had as a child. Our financial situation isn't the best, but it's not bad either. We both have credit scores well above the national average, and when you factor in our ages (24 and 22) that makes it pretty good. We don't have a lot of credit card debt. We do have two student loans and a car payment, but that's really it, besides the month to month expenses like insurance, phone, cable, etc. We live rent free in base housing. I just quit my job completely last week. I was already down to just two days a month, but there were things going on there that stressed me out more than I needed. Our savings are going to take a temporary hit (we were saving almost $300 from my checks every month, but spending the other $100), but it will all be straightened out once we finally adjust to not eating out so much and spending less on clothes and toys for the baby. But now that I'm completely a stay at home mom, that's another one of my dreams realized. There is no job in the world I would rather have. Sometimes when I was working I would feel kind of empty, too. I'm definitely not telling YOU to quit your job, but when I cut back, it definitey helped a lot. I hated it that someone else was seeing some of my son's firsts instead of me.

I wonder how old your children are. I had those same feelings when the kids got older and our relationship changed. After a brief adjustment period for me, things got back to normal. My changing role in their lives seemed to leave me with an empty feeling.

oh.. i am very satisfied with my life.. and i thank god very often.. I ahve a healthy 7 month old son.. and great hubby.. financialy secure ..... though i crib at times.. about small things.. but i am very happy with my life

If you want to be really happy, you need to go to church, pray, and try to be a good Christian. I have seen so many people try to put money first in their lives or their possessions. This really does not work. You can only drive one car at a time and one house will keep the rain off of you as well as another house. Posessions are not happiness. Have a wonderful day Albert

I maybe broke at this very moment but I would proudly say that I am very happy with whats going on in my family right now. To have a baby within five years of marriage is more than what a parents like me can ask. and it doesnt only make our life complete but make it happier as well.

I am halfway there....I have my beautiful kids that I didnt think id have after 4 years of infertilty. My husband does love me uncondtionally also, but at times me and him dont see eye to eye at all. My husband now ha sa good job so our financial strife should be lifted. There are many days that I also feel empty.

I think it's easy for you to say cause you have got everything what you want you got money you got a house got cars, you got everything but do you have someone who loves you dearly like mad, do you have someone who cars for you. Money is not everything ma girl there's lot of things in this world that are not easy to get so don't be proud of what you got.

Consider yourself lucky then for what a wonderful family youve got! i do sometimes feel that way too but have to keep myself busy as not to think or feel empty...find some activities that can make you self gratifying, i mean start doing what you like most, are you working? or at home? there are so many activities you will engaged in to occupy yourself.. and are you a believer? its only God who can make you full in spirit..try reading the bible sot hat you will know why are feeling like that..

I usually start on a new project. Paint or go through cleaning out everything in the house. You'll be so tired of working on things you'll sleep soundly and rest.

ya i do thnk that i hav a life i always wanted to though that doesnt means that theirs no up n downs bt then they are integral part of life n these make life more worthwhile........ as it is rightly saod one cant get everythng n to get some u need to loose some!!!

Soccermom, it's easy for your doctor to blow off your feelings as stess related. I think we all go through our down periods. I wouldn't take what he said to heart. Based on your other discussions, it does seem that you do a lot for everyone else and overextend yourslf at times. You should take some time for yourself. Unwind, get a massage, whatever. And without getting too religious on you, maybe you are lacking spirituality in your life? Without a spiritual life it is hard to feel complete. Hope this helps! ((hugs))

I couldn't say it because I'm still young and there's so many things that I've plan needed to be done.. But I can say that I'm quite happy with my life now, it's not perfect though because I'm still waiting to start my job and needs to earn money so that I can take board exams and go abroad.. The list just keeps on going, after I've fulfilled those then I can say that I'm living the life I've wanted for a very long time..

This is a great discussion topic. I love discussions where immediately after I read them, I am all ready with a flip answer, but between the time I press "respond" and the time I begin typing, I start to really think about what was being asked and actually have to do a little soul-searching. So the flip answer is, "No, I don't want it. What'll you give me for it?" lol A more thoughtful answer though... To be honest, I DO have the life I wanted. As a kid, I always wanted to get married, have a couple of kids, and have a job that I enjoyed. The probem is....well, what the heck does a kid know about what he wants? lol Sometimes when you get what you always wanted, you find out that it isn't as great as you'd always imagined it to be. Don't get me wrong...Mrs. Neb is (all in all) a great person. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything in the world. And my career is finally starting to become anything that I ever wanted. Yet I still find myself dissatisfied in general. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that humans are not static creatures - we're very dynamic, constantly changing and evolving. Chances are, in ten years the things that I want right now might be completely meaningless... There are basically two ways that you could view this. One would be to bemoan the human condition and resign ourselves to a life of general dissatisfaction and misery. The view I prefer to take is a little more optimistic. Complacency didn't put a man on the moon. A sense of satisfaction with the status quo wasn't the reason why Columbus sailed off towards "the end of the world" in three tiny ships. Satisfaction with the current state of affairs didn't change the modern computer from a very limited device that took up an entire building and cost millions of dollars into something far more powerful that could fit in the palm of your hand and cost no more than a few weeks pay. If the human condition wasn't one of general dissatisfaction, we'd have no reason to strive for excellence or really, to even exist. For that reason, I don't generally concern myself too much over my present feelings of malcontent, but rather try to focus upon what I'm doing to allieviate that feeling. That having been said, if anyone is able to convince Halle Berry to show up at my house with a couple of suitcases full of cash, begging me to run away with her...I'm more than willing to consider it. ;)

actually yes I have a good family I have great mom, and patient father I have 2 nice older sister our financial is good and I can graduate my school with very good

think I told ya in another post that your Doc is crazy lol it just happens that way sometimes and it will all work out in the end

hi.. yeah..sometimes i feel the same an empty box..i hve actually achieved what i have dreamt of..a good career, a loving family and a nice house..but sometime i feel bored that i think i wanted to run and hide..i just dont know what is the reason..

Soccermom, Life is stressful and even if we do not "feel" the stress...it can often affect our health in many ways without our realizing what is happening..... I frequently get pain across the tops of my shoulders...sometimes it will work it's way up and around my skull causing horrible migraines....many doctors have told me that these are stress related headaches...I tend to carry "my stress" in my shoulders. I know that you have been experiencing some issues at home and at work...while none of these things independently cause you to feel stressed...collectively, they add up! Yes, I do have the life I wanted....like you, I have 4 beautiful children, a nice home, a reasonable income...I am able to go and do a few things that I really enjoy...so yes, life is good.....there are things that I would, of course, like to minorly improve upon...but these are the goals that I set for myself and work on.

good for you! unfortunately for me, i do have four beautiful kids but well..........to sum it up, i am not so happy with my hubby.it is sad and very unethical to say but i find him so irresponsible, lazy and maybe thinks of the kids' future but never works on it. we had been married for 16 years and yet up to this moment we haven't got any house and we are down into debt. i had been suporting him all the way but i guess all my efforts are gone into nothing. at the moment, i am feeling very down and do pity the kids that i can't give them all the needs that they want, sending them to public schols instead of private ones.............but the fighter mom that i am, i will still try my very best to recover from this with God's help!

everything will be fine!Just run its course.:)

sorry to hear that ....maybe i think the problem lies in stress ...i have a tough time .because psychological problem. in my mind i always think myself have a defect .and alse confess myself why i came to this world .as a little kid i always be laught at other children. so that's really hard time for me ..till now i still a little scare for it ... but at lastly . i find it out that just the psychology problem , too much stress impose on my mind .could relieve my self...