How do you make your kids follow rules even when you are not around?
@michele_villasenor (624)
Philippines
May 2, 2007 10:49am CST
I want to raise a responsible child. Sounds easy but I know that I will have to work hard on this. I want my daughter to know the rules and understand the reasons behind them. I think that way she will have a better appreciation of the rules that are being set around her. I want her to do things not just out of fear of being scolded but out of having the understanding that it is the right thing to do and that doing something that she was told not to do will have its negative effects in some way and that she will have to face the consequences for it. At the same time I want her to be able to freely express her opinion on the rules. I want her to feel that her opinion matters so I will try my best to consider whatever point she will try to make.
How about the experienced parents out there, how do you do it?
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@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
Well at home we do have proper distribution of labor and my kids know their responsibility and they do that even with us.
@kjc1981 (45)
• United States
2 Jun 07
i tell my son that all mommys have eyes every where and they can see everything bad you do it seems to work he always tells his friends no my mom wont like that or my mommy's always watching!
@pumpkinjam (8786)
• United Kingdom
6 May 07
The only answer I can give is basically, you just do. You teach your kids by example. Of course they will nede scolding occassionally when they are learning but as long as you stick to your rules and boundaries, your child will know them and abide by them (at least most of the time!) If you need to leave your child with someone else, you need to tell them your rules and be sure they stick to them too so that your child will understand. There are some times when there may be slightly different rules between you and, say, grandparents but as long as the child has things constant enough to understand how to behave where, everything should be ok.
I have 2 kids and they are both really good. Both of them have rules, slightly different in some cases due to their ages, but I do the same things with my 2 year old as with my 7 year old so they will abide by my rules. As long as you set the rules in the beginning, you shouldn't need to worry about your child being with other people.
@sanderson_7 (143)
• United States
9 May 07
My kids are better when Im not around then when I am!!! I have taught them to be polite and to respect others. I am pround of the way they act when they are with someone else!
