During heated discussions do you..............

I tend to control my emotion when i am angry coz i know that when you are angry you tend said hurtful words just to get back to the other person. i am not physically abusive also coz it is not a good thing, coz once the heated argument cools down you cannot take back the words you have said or done. i agree with you, it is not advisable for parents to engage in heated arguments in front of their children coz as they grow up they will think that saying hurtful words to other person is just normal. remember as a parents, we are the first role model to our children.

I am exactly the type of person you have mentioned , I tried many a times to change myself but in vain.Most of the times my discussions turn into heated exchanges and I just feel like hitting the other person and just start shouting in an ugly manner. When in a fit of anger I will just forget the place the people I am in front of.

I try not to be sucked into other peoples drama. not that i never have, but lately i am not giving my power away to anyone. i am not going to suck it up, but i am not going to get all loud and crazy. i am not going to hold my tongue only because when you do that in my opinion you are letting either hurt or angry feelings settle in you. you can say what you have to say to that person without acting other then yourself

I try to keep my cool but sometimes people push my buttons and I explode and say things I shouldn't and later regret. It takes a lot for me to blow but when I do, stand back. I usually do it in dramatic style and the stories get passed around. The last time I blew it was at a boss and fortunate that I am in an union! I know it is bad and I try to stay calm and make sense but sometimes...

I guess you can say that I am a think before I speak kind of person and sometimes that doesn't play in my favor because of that I usually don't say what I am feeling. I use to have a really bad temper and it didn't take much for me to fire off at you... and I was very good at hurting your with my words.. but over a period of time I grew in my relationship with God and my attitude has humbled alot.. now I guess I get my point across by being humble and if that doesn't work I just don't deal with the person period

Unfortunately, I've done it all. I'm probably the worst at saying hurtful things. I think it's better to not say anything at all if you can't control your anger or if you will end up saying something that you can't take back. Nowadays, I don't say anything until I'm no longer angry and can talk it out calmly.

It takes me a lot to get that mad...but when I do look out. I usually yell and I do try and hurt with my words sometimes. I don't like to fight...and I will retreat...and then not say anything....but that doesn't always work. I understand what you are saying...I don't like fighting in front of my son either...although he is a teenager now..but still. I am glad you don't let things bother you...I wish I could do that...lol.

for me it depends on the person, the arguement and my mood that day really....sometimes I'll just walk away cause its not worth my time and sometimes I go off like wildfire.....I rarely hold my tongue forever though, whether its me going off at that moment OR calling them on it later on in a "I didnt like..." sort of way ya know...Yes I have exploded in front of my kids on numerous occasions but I've always apologized to them for it and explained that its not the right way to be so they know not to do it themselves....Holding things in fully isnt something I've ever been able to do and its not soemthing I want my kids to do either....If they have something to say I want them to say it, its their right IMO....HOW they say it/go about it is a different story though..

No, when my anger gets the best of me, it's best to let me cool down & not argue. Result: I will be in a better mood & willing to listen. If not, I might just have to choke ya out! ....(LMAO)

This is something that I really can't understand myself. If I'm upset, I'm too quiet and will sulk around a little, grabbed all my cleaning stuff and began polishing my house. I knew that I'm yelling at times but my voice is too soft spoken. Like if I'm shouting, it sounded like I'm still talking normally. I never show fits of anger in front of my little ones. I promised myself that I like to show them that I'm a cool hands-on mommy to them. They are still young and didn't know about a lot of things yet. So I tried to extend my patience to them.

I use to get so angry that I would argue and argue and argue with the person until I was blue in the facewith someone I was in a disagreement with. Now I have gotten a little better I will get angry and yell one or two remarks then I bite my tongue. Things said and done in the heat of the moment can hurt for a long long time so I tend to shy away from adding fuel to the fire now.

In the heat of the moment people will often say things they don't really mean. I know I've been guilty of that myself, especially when I'm mad. Now, I just have learned to evaluate the situation before confronting it. I try to leave the anger out of it and talk things out logically which is hard to do because feelings have no logic.

I yell way too much. I catch myself more now but it is still hard not to. I don't just raise my voice when I am angry but when I am excited or happy, I don't even realize I am doing it half the time. My bf gets so mad and is always saying stop yelling at me, I try to tell him that I am not yelling at him but just get excited when I am telling him the story or whatever it is I am talking to him about. But he still gets angry and says I am yelling. So I really need to try to stop that. And I see my daughter doing it to me now so it's just not a good habit.

Always cool down, count backward from 10 to 1.

When i get involved in heated discussions, i keep my mouth shut if it's my fault i just keep nodding my head but when it is not my fault then i go wild and start yelling on top of my voice cause i don't wanna hear enything for what i have not done that really freaks me out.

Initially when I was angry I used to argue and used to say words which were hurting and later I used to feel sorry for such words. Now I have composed myself, usually I leave the place where I get angry and if I am very angry I start crying instead of speaking.

i know that i am a very patient person. but, when the guy i am having a heated discussion with, gets too annoying and he consumes my temper, i can blow my top, too. so far, i can recall only two instances when this happened in my entire life.

During heated arguments i always make a point that i am calm and try listening to what the other party are trying to say, i only speak for clarification purposes but if he still continues then i dont know what will happen next..

haha.. nope.. even if i'm angry people accusing me for spamming last time.. i didn't end up quarelling with them.. i just talk nicely to them.. and tell them what really happened.. some even drop my rating as they don't believe me.. well.. it's okay for me.. whatver you say :) .. i do show angers at times.. which i tried controlling it so i won't harm others.. i think i can't show to others that i'm agressive.. i'm not the type that love to hit others.. i think humans must care for one another.. not hit one another.. haha... i think your way is the best.. stay in positive vibration =)

Wow, that's good that you can really control yourself. There are really other people who doesn't care about what they are saying during heated discussions. I myself at times, just speak out what i am thinking and later i realized that i should have not tell it. Coz i know, i have hurt that person. So now, i am trying to be just calm or stay away when i know i will just going to argue.