NAUGHTY KID!...help!
By nurhoney
@nurhoney (1123)
Philippines
May 2, 2007 11:52am CST
I left my son when he was 10 months old coz I had to work abroad...I visit him once a year for a whole month, so he basically was with his dad and his grandparents on his father's side. He is a sweet, clever, friendly and talkative kid...but he can be very naughty also. Now, Iam staying here for good...I just notice some attitude he has, when he doesnt like a certain person, he tends to hit and punch that person when they get near him. Those people he hates have shouted at him, pinched him, hit him, and did something bad to him...so probably that triggered him to also do the same to them...does it make sense? He never fails to say "IM SORRY" if he thinks that the person he hit was hurt. I have tried to discipline him in my own way but I guess it isn't enough...Iam also concern that he still cant understand things much since he is still 3 years old...am I right? i really dont know what is the best thing to do about this bad attitude of his, hope you guys could share your thoughts about this.
3 responses
@freakate (20)
• United States
3 May 07
My baby girl is just 1 year old. And somehow she has learned to slap . Like when I hold her she tries to slap my face , I have learned to each time she does that I tell her "No" and put her down on the floor inmediatly. The thing here is that you cant give a lot of attention to this issue because if you do then your kid will probably keep doing it and learn it as a way to attract your attention. Besides that give him all the affection you can and explain to him in simple words why it is bad to hurt people. I know it is a stage. And if you direct the attention to something positive ,sooner than later he'll start seeing no sense on being violent.Good luck and welcome back to motherhood!
@shak143 (1280)
• India
2 May 07
Hi noor,It's nice to hear about your 3 year kid.At this age most of do the same thing.As per me my 4 years nephew also do he same.She cicks me and ask me why you stay away from me(As i have to justlike you only).This age is not ment for understanding but we have to try to explain him it's not good habit as it hearts other.And we should not heart other.
@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
2 May 07
good for you that you are back with your child and is going to take care of him. Now that you are back for him, first thing you can do is to tell the people around your kid not to show any physical violence around him. don't let other people discipline your kid except you and your husband. that way he knows whose authority to follow. If other kids try to hit him or pinch him, tell them not to do it. If also adults are doing to him, try not to let him do it. He is still a baby so he is just copying the actions that people are doing to him. And try not to let him watch tv shows that has violence on it. like local channels now has a lot of that. try to let him stay away from those type of shows. Let him watch Barney cd's or even Sesame Street. And give him constant attention from you. You need to do a lot of bonding together. And show him a lot of love.
If he is still naughty, there are a lot of punishment that doesn't involve hitting. You can make him stand up on a wall for a couple of minutes just to make him think of what he did.
Good luck and I hope everything works out!
@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
2 May 07
he is not into watching TV, which is a good thing. yes, he does follow what he sees and hear...sometimes the people pinch/hit/shout at him when iam not there like the nanny or our slaesladies in the store...now that i have told them not to do that to him, my son already had that in his mind so its kinda hard to tell him not to do that anymore. i know he still has hard time understanding things. i have tried to take away his toys or do other discipling to him...its helping a little in some way...thanks for sharing your thoughs, its a great help.
