i need help in here!
By angelofdeath
@angelofdeath (345)
Philippines
May 2, 2007 4:23pm CST
i don't quite understand why some people, even though you try to please them and give them everything, doesn't appreciate you and still looks at the negative aspects of your act. just last night, i almost burned the house down because my friend has just said nonsense things about me doing all the pleasing things for her. i don't know what to say. i was trying to win her back and yet, she doesn't appreciate it. what should i do?
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3 responses
@gneiche08 (25)
• Philippines
3 May 07
People show appreciation in different ways. Thus, the way you appreciate someone is different from the way I appreciate other people too.
There are cases wherein we feel that we have not appreciated because we subconsciously realized that we want other people to appreciate us the way we wanted to. Sometimes, we don't also realize that we have set standards on how people could appreciate us.
Try to give yourself sometime to think. Try to look deep at the person. Maybe you just don't see that their eyes are looking at the very core of your soul too. That you have been appreciated deeply by other people.
@angelofdeath (345)
• Philippines
3 May 07
that was good to hear. i'll try what you told me someday. thanks and you really deserved the best response.
@gneiche08 (25)
• Philippines
3 May 07
It takes time to be able to do so. Just like me, even until now, it's really hard to notice how people could appreciate me. BUt at least, I'm now learning how to recognize those appreciations.
Just always feel good about yourself k? And you must be the first person not to pull yourself down no matter how other people do that to you. :)
Thanks for the best response rate!
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
3 May 07
some people are constantly negative no matter what you do for them.all you can do is walk away from them after a certain point.
@thai11 (239)
• United States
3 May 07
Move on...she sounds like poison...I am a very positive person myself and I hate to be around people who are negative or only look at the negative side of things. She sounds like she is very unhappy with herself, she might have some soul searching to do within her before she can be with you. There is no sense in getting upset over her, you can't control her so don't try. Work on you..you sound like a caring person if you were doing nice things for her..find someone who will appreciate you and what you have to offer!! There are too many people in the world for you to get hung up on someone who is not apperciating you!!! Keep it movin..she doesn't sound good enough so don't settle and try to convince yourself that she is:)
