When to walk away

I think you have answered you own question. You said yourself that its been 2 years, promises were made and not kept, and you also mentioned lying. and now hes in jail? forgive my bluntness, but i think you should have let go a while ago. Sometimes i think women hang on to men who aren't good for them because they think they cant find better. Think about why you stay. Other than that you feel strongly for him. Does he make you happier more than he saddens you? Do you honestly believe, deep down, that hes going to change himself and his life for you? Try and think on it logically and think on the facts. not that you find him so attractive, or that you've invested so much into this relationship that you cant possibly accept that you may have wasted all that time. Think of the things you mentioned above realistically. he's married, and now in jail. Its been 2 years. Has anything changed in the last 2 years? My guess is everything is the same as it was on day one. Him, his life, his empty promises. I'm sorry if this doesn't sound as sympathetic as you might have been hoping for in a response to something so personal, but this seems to have an obvious solution, so i cant feel sad because i cant understand why YOU are sad. He's obviously not the best choice for someone looking for something honest, long term and, well, real. I wish you luck.

I recently had a roomate in the EXACT same situation you are in. I mean EXACTLY. I watch her pine for him, and call him while he was in jail, and write him letters and she just got sick over it... she thought she loved him so much. Come to find out he was stringing along a few girls the same way he was fooling her. He says he loves you... right? And he wants to make things work... he wants a house with a white picket fence... right? He wants to raise a family with you. Am I right? Am I hitting pretty close to the mark? I PROMISE you this. Read very carefully: He... is... telling... the... same... thing... to... other... girls. You are not the only peron he is talking to while he's in jail. I swear to god its true. I would bet my life on this. GET A GRIP. Im sorry, but I watched this situation almost destroy my friend. Go get yourself a real man. Dont be one of the girls this guy is stringing along. Your better than that. Good luck.

You have to do what makes you happy. If keeps on saying he will change and he never does that is a hard one. He keeps on breaking your trust. Take time for yourself and see what happens with him. Tell him he needs to prove himself to you or you are walking away.

If it has been two years and he hasn't gotten a divorce yet, I highly doubt if he's going to. If he's still living with his wife (when she's not in jail, that is), then it is highly doubtful that she even knows anything is going on or that anything is wrong with their marriage at all. He's probably doing this to other girls, as well. Guys like this rarely ever have just one girl on the side. He's already got his wife and you. Plus, wit hyou giving him money, that's an easy way for him to lavish attention on other girls without coming under suspicion from his wife. ::hugs:: I'm sorry you are having to go through this. But you really need to think about all of this. This is not good for you or for your child. If nothing else, think of what kind of message his behavior is sending to your child.

It sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Is that your baby in the picture? If it is, THAT is what you need to think about. Is this guy going to be a good person to have in your life? Will he care for you and put you and your child first? It certainly doesn't sound like that's what he has in mind. Good luck.

Ouch, a tough case. Sorry to hear about how life is going for you. I don't think there's any accurate answer available to your question though. It would pretty much differ from person to person and the only way to actually finding out would be by making the step. It is hard enough already not being able to be together with the one you love on itself, but having these kind of things added to it definitely must make that pain a lot worse. I guess though that since you look back negatively at the past 2 years already from what I get the impression that there might be a chance you might have some sort of feeling of being freed when walking away, of course that would totally depend on how you would handle it.