I just want to cry!! I need to vent.

Put the dog in the bathroom! Or somewhere else that he will be confined. He needs to be punished for his behavior too! Bring your daughter in the house. If she goes out bring her back in. Tell her you are at the end of your rope and that if she can not listen, you will have to punish her. You do not have to give a punishment that you know you will not follow through with. Just tell her that she will be punished. Then if she does not listen still, fork out some punishment that you know you have control over. Perhaps no TV or no allowance, something you CAN stop with out her getting it anyway. When they come inside, just tell them NO! Back outside. Then keep on them until they go out. I am sure they do not want to cause trouble and if they see you mean business, they will listen to you not her. Also tell her if she takes her snacks out side to all her friends, she will not have them for school. Make sure she understand that means she will not get a snack. Then if she does take them out to share, let her go a day or two without her snack. Chances are, she will learn this lesson after one or two days of no snack because little susie, or Johnny ate them for those days. Or you could hide them all in your room or somewhere that she can not get into them. Are you taking something for pain? An ibuprofin goes a long way to stop pain and swelling. The pain is surely making the stress even worse, as is your BF being gone and not there to help. Can you call him later to just hear his voice and tell him you love him? Not to vent mind you, do that here, by all means, but just a little love time will help you feel better. You must stop her now. You have got to be firm!! Remember this: Most kids prefer boundraries. They might protest, and defy them, but really deep down it says that you care enough to care! If you do not get ahold of her now, What will you do when she is 16 and staying out all night running around with older boys?! Please get a hold of this for your sake as well as hers. I know first hand as I use to let mine have the upper hand and hated punishing her. When I got with my now BF I saw what no disapline does to kids. His son steals from his family and friends. And because he gets away with it, he continues. And because he gets away with it, his little sister also steals, and because she gets away with little or no punishment, she continues. She is 15, and her mother found a letter about what she has been doing with the boys OMG! you would be imbarrassed at this stuff! She is also calling my 23 year old son to get him to come over after her dad leaves. I told her father, but he will not do anything! I would have went home, took her phone and whopped her tail!! She would also be grounded for at least a month, probably longer depending on how she acted when I got there! I hope you feel a little better after getting it down on ...umm screen? LOL I am here if you need to talk to some one, just let me know. I am studying on-line and just checking in here for pm's and such while the pages load. I had reason to go to your profile, and saw this . (((((((((((((((You & your daughter))))))))))))))) That has got to be the biggest hug I have ever sent to someone, I hope it helps a little. BTW I lost my firefox and do not have spell check. I am an awful typist so please forgive any typos!

Hi amydawn11, you need to get tough, tell her straight there are going to be a lot of changes around the house, then tell her the new rules, and make sure you punish her if she disobeys them, if she is like this at 8 then she will get a lot worse as she gets older, just think if something bad happens to her because you let her run out of the house, you would never forgive yourself! get tough and be firm, you must remind her that you are the adult and she is the child!! same with the dog really, you have got to show that you are the boss.

Hi amydawn Im a good listener. Sometimes its good to get that all out. And I dont blame you one bit. You need some help right now. Do you have any family members that could stop by and give you a hand? Or maybe some friends? I feel bad for you. Maybe you should sit your daughter down and just have a talk with her you dont have to yell just talk. I really hope you get some help and I hope your feeling better. Take care

My heart aches for you, hon. I hope you feel a little better after venting. We all need a place we can go for that. Reading over your comments to others, I think you know that the problem is you..... you have to be more firm, say what you mean and mean what you say. Then and only then will your daughter know that she has to listen to you and do what you say. You are lucky that she is only 8. If you don't get a handle on this before she is a teenager who knows what might happen. You are lucky to have the behavioural management place at you access. Use everything they offer and don't worry about being a friend to your daughter right now. You will have a better friendship with her when she is an adult if you spend the time now to bring her up right. Bless you and her as well. You will get through this.

I know how you feel. I have a disabled two year old that functions on the level of a 2/3 month old, he's total care. He eats every 3 hours by bottle still, is round the clock medicated and I have to complete certain therapies at certain times. I have a 5 yr. old daughter who thinks she's the boss and doesn't listen to anything I say. On top of that I have normal daily responsibilities, housework, laundry, etc. and on top of all of this, I'm going to school. My husband and I split up because he was lacking in the areas of faithfulness, responsibility and respect. So needless to say I'm doing this on my own. You kinda feel like how much worse could it be, but never think that because I can promise you it can be much worse. So go ahead and have that much needed nervous breakdown that you deserve so much. It'll be okay. You can cry on my shoulder anytime. I hope things get better for you. Have a blessed day:)

Sometimes people feel better when they tell the problems to somebody . Mylot is a good way to do so if u dont have anyone to say your things. Dont worry everything will be fine. God bless u.

ya it happens with me also that my week goes bad and if someone is not at al close to us than its mess so its better to vent i cry a lot then i feel much better

Hang on. Hang in. Take the time you need to center yourself, and then go be a Mom. This kid is 8, and because you are trying to negotiate her love and affection, she is not taking you seriously. I know it breaks your heart, but your job is not to be her friend. She might hate you for a while (probably a week, two max,) but when you come through the tunnel you just might have made changes that will change the course of both of your lives. God bless you both. Have faith in Him and yourself. Take a moment. Go into your closet and talk to Him. Then, let God and let go.

I'm so sorry. Sometimes I feel like this and I vent also. It is good to write down how you feel and get it off of your chest. I hope things get brighter for you.

Hello,amydawn,soory to hear that.Every people may have their hard times throughout their lives, I hope you can work hard and get over them,no worry, you will be fine later.

wow.. i don't know what you're going through.. but i can say good days will come after bad days.. today you have bad days.. do believe someday.. the days will turn to be good.... i'm having bad days too.. but i'm losing more money instead of earning money.. and i'm really sad.. because i've already lose almost 300 - 500 bucks on internet investment.. and that's not even a small amount in my country.. i think i'm so useless.. i'm not reducing my debt.. i', increasing it.. shame of myself.. i decided to bear the whole debt on my own.. haha :) .. hopefully i can settle it..