What's the matter with guys?

First of all there is a difference in 'loving someone' and being 'in love' with someone. You can have a sense of good feeling, protectiveness, compassion and good intention with loving someone, but being 'in love' is working through the good, bad, ugly, sweet and persevering still saying I love you at the end of it all. I really can't stand someone who says I love you and then does something to hurt you in the same minute, hour or day. I am a strong believer in "actions speak louder than words", and if you hit me, or cut me with nasty words you ssure as hell don't love me and there better be more than just those words to fix it ! It is not just the guys, us ladies are just as wishy-washy and over-protective of our feelings channeling them into angry explosions or irrational breaking up moments. All in all, communication, compatability and respecting individuality beyond couplehood is the keys to a successful relationship in my humble opinion . . .

i am only 18 so this is not an advise...it from my own experience.getting true love is sometime very tough but breaking up is an easy procedure.so you just rethink about all aspects.may be he lied because of some small sometime minor reasons...so why you have to care about that.if he loves you then live a happy life together...breakup is not a solution!

It seems to me that he's angry that you found him out in a lie. Even though he lied to you, he doesn't accept that he broke your trust. He probably thinks you're making too much of it, and hence, says he doesn't feel ready to mean so much to anybody. In other words, he feels trapped, and doesn't know what to say to you about lying. I think, given time, he will get over this, but do you really want him to? If he lied this time, he will lie again, and it could be a more serious lie next time. I would give this a lot of consideration before I tried to patch things up. Good luck and Brightest Blessings.

Sometimes men are afraid to tell someone directly that he doesnt love her anymore. The option they use is for them to say to the woman that they love her but they need time to be alone. read that sign, its says im over you.

you know what i have the same problem!i have problem trusting my guy, because he lied to me so many times before, but it's not a lie that can break a realtionship, it's like a lie for a purpose,like to prevent misunderstanding. For example he told me that he's just watching tv at home, but i found out that he's with his friend's house and drinking because of a birthday. And many other things which is not really a big deal but still it's the trust that matters, if he can lie of simple things why can't he lie in big things? specially that were far from each other right now!

id lyk to ask a question... will you give ur life to the one u truly love? if yes, i'll twist the question a little, will you giv up your own happiness 4 the one you truly love? if yes again, ill twist more, will you let go of him if you think it is the only way 4 him to be happy? if yes, this is the last twist, if he does'nt trust u, and you see that he is suffering because of the doubt, wat will you do? .... im not jumping to conclusions here, maybe, just maybe, he ask himself these questions that i ask you... IT'S JUST A MAYBE, OK? PLZ DONT BE MAD AT ME...

I'm sorry. I know what he said must be hard to hear. It really is better to just let it go and move on though. Better things await you :) Best wishes.

I don't understand men either. I've learned that I'll never understand them and I don't even care to anymore. What happened to you has also happened to me before. I later realized that if a man REALLY loves you, nothing can keep him away. However, if a man doesn't really love you, nothing will make him stay.

sorry to hear that :( i've been there too.. i've had ex's like that.they're full in love,til you catch them doing something.sometimes they even try to blow it back,like it was your fault (gotta love that).

What did he lie about can you tell me? Sometimes it's a white lie so that you don't get hurt. Why he lies about can change prespectives. Take the girl who was saying his boyfriend lied about going to a birthday party. He could have lied so that he's not put into a spot whereby she demands that she goes along because she's his boyfriend. The person may have just invited him and it won't be a nice thing to do to be bringing uninvited guests. In that case he lied to keep the peace.

haha.. i think .. guys don't have problems.. but your boyfriend does have his own problem.. i've met some guys like that too.. and they're my friends.. so i can tell you what type of person are they.. want to know? i think he's the type of guy which only loves to talk.. but little action.. don't you think so? i believe it's not the first time he say how much he actually love you... this and that.. and usually..it will be followed with promises.. this and that.. is that true?...such guys are not reliable in my point of view... but it's still up to you to judge him.. i'm just giving my advise =)

I've been in that same situation with my ex-boyfriend. He lied, I found out about it, I confronted him, HE got mad and he broke up with me. The nerve! But now I know why he did that. Now I think he did that on purpose just so things will end up between us. He knows my number one factor in a relationship aside from the love is the trust that we have in each other. So maybe your boyfriend just wants to break up with you and that is his only way or something. One thing I can say though is that if there's no more trust in the relationship (if you don't trust him anymore and vice versa) just get out of the relationship. There's no point in working out a relationship where you just lie about anything, even about small things.

If you don't trust your partner then there is no love involved in here. Trust is always be an important thing in a relationship because it might ended in a bad/wrong way. Please re-evaluate if you really love this guy.

I think he was just too chicken to break up with you himself so he waited for something to happen that he can blow out of proportion. Or maybe he's just too guilty or too weak to face the consequences of his lie. Guys are so weird sometimes. I can't believe he'd say he loves you and then break up with you just like that. He doesn't feel ready to mean so much to anybody? What does that mean? If he's not ready in the first place, why did he pursue you anyway? You deserve a lot better than that.