Should I just leave???

sorry i miss something i mean God never created a useless person

Thanks, I just don't feel well tonight and I am worried about a lot of things and I feel helpless to fix any of the problems here. And everything I have tried to do to make things better has not helped and my husband just stays mad all the time. It may just be because of the stress of soon to have no job, and having just been diagnosed with a health problem, so he is taking it out on me. Somethings are getting to me a little tonight, I am trying to not let things bother me, but some things are.

Okay, I have thought about things, and I think that it is mostly me because I am so tired so the way things are. I am trying to make money so maybe I will be able to do that and that will help.

Thanks I think that things will work out eventually. I think last night was just not a good time for me, as I had defended him to my mother several times over, as she keeps telling me how things could and should be better, and so on. And sometimes I let thngs get to me I don't need to be doing that. I doubt I would ever really leave although at times I am tempted to because I see people who are not even trying to be good wives or anything and they are living better and have nicer things. People such as my sister who is married but does not like her husband so she ran him off, and has someone else's husband with her now. And she has nicer everything. And I don't do things like steal others husbands or a lot of other things she does, and her life seems easier in so many ways, she has nicer clothes, a better home, furniture, she is able to gove her kids things I have never been able to gove mine, etc etc, and I see so many people who make less money than we do and they are able to afford to buy their own homes. I guess sometimes I don't appreciated things like I should. My husband at least does call me almost everyday from work, he does not really say anything just tells me he loves me and thats about it. Anyway, I think I need to just stop letting things get to me.

Very good advice, I need to get my health so can I am working on it. I am going to try to get a job though and I am working on getting things better. So maybe things wll be better one of these days.

I am trying to make some changes but it is going to take some time, maybe things will be better one of these day. At least I hope so.

Maybe things will change, I think maybe its just stress.

Sorry to listen to that news. Anyway there are some other way to relieve your stress. Listen to music. It purifies mind. Good luck.

I think that taking a break and listening to musc is a good idea

I agree sometimes people do just need a break from everything especially stress, and we have had a high stress marriage, for us things have never been easy. I would like to go on a tour but that is not possible without I earn lots of money, and at the rate I am going it will take a long time. LOL

I think I complain too much really. My husband does have a lot on his mind lately.

Hopefully things will get better, and I wiill be trying to get a job soon. I don't have one right now. I will have to find a way to buy clothes that are decent to go look for a job. Most everything I have is worn out. Maybe things will get better that is what I keep telling myself anyway.

Yes believe that everything will get better.Believe in yourself.Stay brave and take all of this as a challege.Think positive..Never give up.We will pray for you!.:) Hugs, Ydnac22

I think I was having a bad day all around yesterday and just taking things out on my husband because he was handy or something. Anyway alls better today and hopefully things will get better one day.

I do seem to be having a pity party tonight, I need to stop that, Anyway, we have been married a long time about twenty years is all. And I did not really know him at all when we got married just a few days.... anyway I would like to get out of the house some maybe I can tommorrow,,,

That is how I feel, and I am trying hard to be the first person in my family that does not get divorced, Every member of my family that I know has been divorced several times over,

Some days are just bad I suppose everyone has bad days sometimes.

It's probably a communication problem (my husband won't talk to me) and it is probably some depression too, because right now life is depressing to me. In a lot of ways. I need to just be content, maybe it is just me.

I have never really thought of it that way, I think that sounds like a good idea. I will try following your advice.

Thanks. And I have been doing some of that I have even given hm foot massages because his feet hurt a lot. I do need to work on being cheerful that is something I have a hard time doing. I am glad things are not worse. Hopefully things will be better soon.

yeah. be cheerful. try to hear the chirping of the birds everytime you wake up in the morning. we have this belief here in the Philippines - we may be poor, me may be getting on hard times, but as long as our family is together and we are happy, then no one can break us. keeping your family together is the most important thing that you should do. leaving your problems isn't always the good idea. we call husbands in our families "haligi ng tahanan (pillars of our home" because they are the providers. moms in our families are called "ilaw ng tahanan (the light of the household)", because they are the guides for the kids to follow, and the inspiration for the whole household. now, imagine your household without you? it will be a dark home indeed! so be happy always - there'll be always someone to support you. let me be the first one to volunteer. ;)

I think I am just negative tonight because I don't feel well and there are many problems here, and maybe my husband is just tired tooo. I don't know. I have never lived on my own really. I have been married since I was a teenager and now I am almost forty, maybe I am just getting old and depressed. maybe its the weather. I don't know/

I would like to have some fun things to do, but right now I don't everythng cost to do. And I don't know anyone close that I could go visit even. I feel isolated a lot and I think that is part of the problem. Before I was married I had lots of friends now I feel like I don't have any. And that is depressing. maybe if I can just get healthy and get a good job that will help.

I am safe, just things are hard a lot because of poor money management. Maybe it is just that I see others doing so much better that I sometimes just feel bad or something. Anyway today is better than yesterday, so maybe tomorrow will be better again.

I don't go to any couselling that is not something we can afford. Anyway, I think that I am mostly upset because my husband does not talk to me about anything important, my relatives call me and say mean hurtful things, and just don't get out of the house at all. I think if I could get outside more that would help some. I don't like being cooped up.

I don't know and I really mean that. I think he is upset because I have not been healthy most of our marriage. And I just do not have any energy. I really do not know though.

I have been married for a long time like twenty years. And he works seven days a week usually so he stays tired all the time. And he does not want me to drive so I can not go anywhere until he gets home, and then he does not feel like going anywhere, and there is really only so many ways to clean a small place, and I get so tired of the only thing I ever really get to do is clean or cook, or cook or clean, and never see anyone outside of the kids. I feel like the world is just leaving me behind in so many ways. And like I am agng so fast I don't even know the person in the mirror. I would like for my husband to have more time but he does not, and now he is starting school on top of going to work seven days a week. I feel like we are strangers. And I hate not having anyone to talk to or even a way to get out of the house. and walking anywhere is just too far and there are no sidewalks. Maybe its just me,,,