will you give your husband/partner/bf/gf password of your emails/messengers??

Indonesia
May 3, 2007 6:28am CST
my friend visited me this morning to do an online chat with a man in US,she said her connection was down at that moment and she already promised the man to came online.i know her husband coz he's one of our family's friends and she begged me not to tell her husband about this.i said yes,how can i say NO ??it turns out this is her dirty little secret.me and my husband never keep secret about our internet life.he gives me all the passwords to his access in internet and so do i but i have some friends who keep those things as their privacy.which one is yours?keep it as a secret or give openly to ur partner?thank u so much !!
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
4 May 07
Yes, my bf knows all of my passpords from my QQ, email to my bank accounts. I dont think I have to concel my passwords from him. And he doesnt concel anything from me. But I dont mean you must do it like us. A friend of mine did it like us, but her wife took all his money to her account, then she divorced her husband. My friend was very sad, and now he married a woman, but he no longer tells his passwords to wife. His wife feel very uncomfortalbe, and she dont want to live with him. I can understand my friend's feeling ,but I think he will divorce again if he cant trust his present wife. Some men dont like to tell their passwords to their wives/gfs, because that will affect their relationships with wives/gfs. Most of men like to say such words 'I love you', 'I miss you' in a chatting room or on their OICQ. So it is not good to tell passwords to their wives/gfs.
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• Philippines
4 May 07
it is best that we keep some secrets to ourselves. there are important things to consider whenever we think of divulging some secret codes to somebody.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
i guess ur friend had a bad luck by married with those kind of woman, but if i'm in his place i also will have a doubt with giving again my password to my partner specially with bank account. thanks for ur comment !
• United States
3 May 07
My boyfriend doesn't know all of my online passwords, but if he asked me for them, or if I needed him to log into one of my accounts for me, I would tell him the password without any problem. I have no secrets from him, and I wouldn't have any information on any of my accounts that I would be unhappy for him to see. It seems to me that the people who are most likely to want to keep their passwords completely secret from their significant others are the ones who do have something to hide. Not a good situation for a relationship!
• Indonesia
3 May 07
i've been in that situation before married,kept my passwords completely secret and i did that becoz i had something to hide :)).i felt so ugly.. thanks for your comment !! :)
@maddog108 (3435)
• Australia
4 May 07
no i beleve trust is the biggest thing in a relationship and if theres no trust and they feel they need to check up on you then theres something wrong
@maddog108 (3435)
• Australia
5 May 07
thats all right ive been maddog for so many years now its sort of like my second name but i must warn you at times im cheeky and im baddog lol
• Indonesia
4 May 07
thanks for ur comment maddy..i have no heart to call u dog :))
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
8 May 07
My boyfriend has all my passwords to just about everything I do on the internet. I have no secrets from him. He has also given me all his passwords too.
• Indonesia
8 May 07
same in here :)) thanks Brenda!!
@maucute (979)
• Philippines
9 May 07
we both know each other's password because both of us got nothing to hide.. That's a fact for now and I do hope it stays that way, until then.. I guess there won't be any problem sharing your password to him or her because you trust each other as partners and that you've got nothing to hide anyway unless you also have your own dirty little secret right? One key to a relationship is for us to be honest nd truthful to each other..
• Indonesia
9 May 07
agree :)) thanks for ur comment!
• Philippines
9 May 07
hi there me i openly give it to my partner coz for me i have nothing to hide and he knows all the thing that i do even atm pin,for me its a security if ever i forget it heheheh ^_^
• Indonesia
9 May 07
yes same with me,sometimes if i wanted to check my email meanwhile i was far from my pc then i'll asked my hubby to check it.thanks for your comment!
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
4 May 07
There is nothing wrong it one want to share their passwords with another. I would not judge anyone who chose to keep that info to thenselves. I dated a man who, when he saw me writing in my journal, want to know if I was going to let him read it afterward. My journal is where I write my thoughts on things that bother me or that I am trying to deal with. When I am done I usually destroy the journal. Some thoughts are just fleeting moments that never come again, others are more serious. To ask of me to share what was really private really bothered me. There are some things that each person needs to keep to themselves. I have had darker moments of thought that I share with no one, unless it is a specialist or a higher power. By the way, I was happy when that man was out of my life because his wanting to know was part of many controlling actions that he displayed. It really scared me!
• Indonesia
5 May 07
i know sometimes it's very hard if we have someone who want to know everything we do..thanks for ur comment :)
@subha12 (18441)
• India
4 May 07
look, it depends from person to person. if the situation is like that, there is enough trust between partners, then it is not all that necessary i think.There must be privacy in some matters of every individual i think. its my opinion.
• Indonesia
5 May 07
thanks for giving me ur opinion :))
• Philippines
4 May 07
if the husband and wife are going well together, i am sure that they will divulge everything of importance to each other. when the couple has something wrong with their relationship, this will never happen. most men i know, do not keep their wives fully aware of everything that they do, though.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
i agree with u. some men have their own dirty little secret in internet.thanks for ur comment :))
• Portugal
5 May 07
My girlfriend gave me her password. But I always forget it, so she doesn't need to be worried about me going on her messages. She doesn't know mines but I would tell her my password if she wants to.
• Indonesia
5 May 07
thanks for ur comment :)
• India
4 May 07
If your husband/partner/bf/gf is a good person and u can depend on it /u have faith on him/her then its not and problem in giving the pass.I too have given my pass to my best of friends.I havent got any problem till then.
• Indonesia
5 May 07
i don't dare to give my passwords to my friends even the best one :)) only give to my hubby. thanks for your comment !
• United States
4 May 07
I agree with you. I believe that if you truly and sincerely love some one , it will have to be responded.. This friend of yours will lose her peace of mind eventually, and as for you you will find satisfaction as you and your husband are like friends, nothing to hide between you. Try to see if you can talk some sense into your friend. Tell her the outcome of all this. She should have her problems , but this is not the way, to cheat someone.
• Indonesia
5 May 07
thank you for your comments, really appreciate it :)
• India
4 May 07
in relationships its necessary to be frank to your partner,if u love someone so truly madly and deeply,then it doesnt matter if she finds out about your secrets.we can give the password to our email id if we are sure about the security you feel in him or her....
• Indonesia
5 May 07
thanks for your comment :) that's exactly how i feel about my husband,trust.
@singlepixel (2743)
8 May 07
never give it to others including him. consider your e-mail add. never exist in his mind - end the story. change your p/word immediately if you ever let other person know and had finished "borrowing" your e-mail add.
• Indonesia
8 May 07
u seems very careful on giving someone your passwords,but i see no harm about it :) thanks for your comment!
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
4 May 07
I think my husband knows my passwords to my emails and messengers .As far as i know I know all of his unless he is hiding something very well from me.Him and i have alot of friends in common on the internet and in the same yahoo pool league.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
thanks for sharing it :)
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
4 May 07
No I won't , this is security issue , I don't give any personal information especially passwords, If I have to give it, I give it to person I trust, then I change it after usage. I can't stand to lose my account or password because I dumped the security information.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
ooh..is it mean u also don't trust ur partner? thanks a lot for sharing it :)
@nfhs79 (861)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
I will give to my husband. Incase there is anything important that I can't reach my friends or anyone. If we did not trust anyone just keep it too yourself. I prefer to be honest and anything happen just blame the only person you have gave ur husband or trusted ones. :)
• Indonesia
4 May 07
like what i do all the time...blame my husband,lol. (Joke) thanks for sharing :))
@kclaret59 (587)
• Philippines
4 May 07
me and my husband used to share our passwords but you know what? he just changed his passwords a few days ago. i was really pissed. i thought of something bad like him meeting or sending emails to some girls.. and then i confronted him, saying why he changed those damned passwords. and then he told me he did it coz he doesn't want me to post the ugly pics i have of him.. eheh.. and then he gave me the password and make me promise not to post those pics in his profile.. eheh
• Indonesia
4 May 07
lol...u suppose to collect some handsome pics of ur husband :)) thanks for sharing
• Philippines
4 May 07
Mine is different.... i have my own passwords that he don't know but he knows everything that is going on..."AS IN EVERYTHING" whether it's good or bad. It's what i call transparency. And y am i such? simply because i don't want to have a guilty feeling and because i don't want the feeling either of being lied to so "trust" is very important, it's an issue couples must never ever ruin coz once one just took it for granted then expect that everything will fall apart.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
i was sooo like you before i get married, but then i've changed my attitude coz i don't want my hubby to hide something from me too :) thanks for ur comment !
@maybey (365)
• Philippines
4 May 07
The better thing is no secret between you and your partner. My husband knows all my password and account he is free to open my account especially my bank account. he have a right to do what he wants I trust him.
• Indonesia
4 May 07
i agree with that bank account :)) thanks for sharing!