whats the matter with me?

Philippines
May 3, 2007 8:43am CST
hmmnn.... im 22 yrs old but up to now i have no boyfriend... there may be 2 reasons for that. its either there is sumthing wrong with me or there is sumthing wrong with guys around me!!! what do u think?
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14 responses
@maevic (819)
• Bahrain
3 May 07
it's difficult to say if you don't put more details about yourself on your post. Anyways, just a guess, maybe you are a choosy girl. Don't look for perfect man, you know you will die and that man will not come because there's no mr. perfect. Tell us more about yourself.
• Philippines
3 May 07
don't despair. im 23 and ive never had a boyfriend in my life. but i don't dwell too much on my non-existent love life. what i do is focus more on what i have like my family, friends, job,etc. so life's not that bad for me although i have to admit that i get jelous from time to time of people who have their special someone. but like what i said, i dont think too much about it. the right guy will come and will sweep me off my feet. until then, i could enjoy my single life to the fullest and be happy.
• Canada
5 May 07
Yeah I know exactly what you mean, I was in that situation myself not too long ago. Im a very shy closed of person and it takes a lot for me to be comfortable with someone. Honestly they have to chase me and chase and deal with all of the issues that I have with myself, but it came around. Patience is all thats needed. Everything turns around eventually. :)
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• Philippines
7 May 07
really? wow!!! im not alone after all. i get jealous too when i see my friends having their bf around. thats y i thought maybe sumthing is wrong with me. how come they have bf and i dont? but now ive realized that i shouldnt despair... the ryt guy will surely come and sweep me off my feet!!! tnx so much!!! =)
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
3 May 07
I think you need to have patients. 22 yrs old is not that old. You still have a lot of life left. Do be in such a rush that you marry the first guy who comes along. Be patient and only date those who appeal to you as marriage material.
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• Kottayam, India
3 May 07
In Philippines this no chance,may be you are selective be careful, select a good one,with a lot prayer, late no problem
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
4 May 07
Don't try to hurry up things.Maybe it's not just your time to have one. Are you ready to have a boyfriend? A commitment or just a fling? Are you looking for one or you are just waiting for the right one? If you want to have a boyfriend, you should make more acquaintances, meet more people, socialize. The more you socialize the more chances of getting to know a person that has the same likes as you and from that it could be a good start. Others find their boyfriend or girlfriend on the internet while chatting. It still depends on you. Goodluck.
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• Philippines
4 May 07
time is the essence of everything. patience means you wait even you don't wnat to. being single is a gift, it gives you the time in the world to hold in your hands. being single means you appreciated your surroundings and know their changes. being single means you can do what you want without being conscious that you might hurt someone. enjoy life as much as possible, cherish your youth, don't rush things and maybe you will end up crying. being in love and be love requires time and patience. try to do things that interest you and soon you will forget that there's nothing in this earth that you want but being single.
• Philippines
7 May 07
wow! you made me feel like it is fun to be single! well i guess ur right... i shouldnt rush things like this. and i should enjoy being single. life is how i make it, would you agree? however, i dont plan to stay single forever... i want to have kids,,, i mean a lot of kids!!! and my soulmate is out there lurking in the dark!!!haha!=) thank you so much for the advice!!!
@gewcew23 (8007)
• United States
4 May 07
Don't worry about it. I was 26 yrs old when I met my husband. He was my first real relationship. I had a few guys that I hung out with but nothing romantic. All the guys either thought of me as one of the guys or their sister. I know it sucks but there is someone out there don't give up.
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@czaroma (136)
• Philippines
5 May 07
I can't really say what is wrong with you. You might be at this age where you start to question why certain things aren't happening to you yet. Maybe it's not yet time. I guess you just have to be more patient and you don't have to rush things out. Remember that you can't ask love when it would come and you can't just find it in an instant. It's better if you'll love yourself more and enjoy the company of other people also. Have fun with your life. Develop more friendship. Soon you won't realize that there's someone who's bound to share a relationship with you.
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@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
5 May 07
Hello cybelle!(",) What are you worrying about? There is nothing wrong about you. Somehow you have chosen to be single as of this time. I will turn 22 by the end of this month and I'm happy being single all my life.(",)Blessed singleness as they say. Don't worry that you don't have a boyfriend now because at the right time God will give it to you. Just wait and prepare yourself by being the kind of woman that the man of your dream will fall in love it. Make yourself the best person that you can be so that when the time comes that the right man comes along you are prepared.(",) As of my story, it is a choice that I'm single because I think that I'm not yet prepared and I said to myself and keep praying to God that my Prince Charming will only come when I'm ready of marriage.(",)I want a lasting relationship that is why I keep on waiting and I'm happy for I believe that at the right time, the right man will come my way!(",) Great day and God bless!(",)
@m_5ugar (1013)
• Malaysia
5 May 07
hmm.. it is not wrong when you don't have any boyfriend. maybe you just to choosy in seeking boyfriend
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• Philippines
5 May 07
I believe there is nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. You dont heve to fret just because you don't have someone special. Don't look for love, let it be the one to find you. Or maybe you are meant to live a single life? Heheh! Just kidding! Come on, don't lose hope, you are still young, and you should be thankful that you have all of your time for yourself. Enjoy every minute of it because when you get married and have your own kids, you will miss your life when you were still single. Take it from the experienced.
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• Philippines
7 May 07
hey sis!!! yeah maybe its not my tiem yet to enter into a relationship!! but please!!! i hope i wont be single for life!!! urgghhh!! i want to have children u know! lots of 'em! =)
@qoo_rie (428)
• Indonesia
4 May 07
well i think that's no matter at all. maybe you're just a type of person who waiting for the rite person, don't get a boyfren cause u think that's your age to have it, but when u think that's a rite boy for you, u will be know in the rite time :)
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@federickp (607)
• India
5 May 07
What do i think! well i think you are really lucky!! You are groen up now and as you havnt had any emotional bondings uptilll now, the one which you will form now (as a mature person you wont mistake choosing the right one) will turn out to be the best one. Everyone has some one specioal waiting for them, just wait. By the way im also 21 and still not emotionally involved,. There is no problem at all! Do not think much about it. Concentrate on your career first!
• Singapore
5 May 07
Don't worry so much. If you think there is something wrong with yourself, you should discuss it with your friends and get their opinions