Have you ever felt there was a Competition between you and your brother/ sister?
@prettiemammie (835)
United States
May 3, 2007 10:10am CST
Have you ever felt that there was or is a competition between you and your siblings for your parents love and attention?
I have an older brother and when we were growing up, we both learned that we were silently competing for our parents attention or love. It was always like who achieves more recognition in school and excels in class. And not know how it would affect us, with a big relationship gap as brother and sister. But now of course we have grown old and all we have is each other.
How about you, have you ever felt this way?
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4 responses
@day_lunz (75)
• Philippines
4 May 07
I am the youngest of 3 siblings, and the only girl. i see the competition, blatantly from my mother. she always say that i am not as sweet or as caring as her two boys. i kinda recent that...even if she also cares for me a lot, she just makes me feel like there is just a rivalry...ive never been sweet hehe just to spite her, but all the hopes she had for a fave son, i worked my butt off for it. but still the 'your not like your brothers' syndrome is there..
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@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
3 May 07
Before i felt like that, feeling that they don't care for me and i am not important they just see me when they knew i had done wrong while my younger sisters all got praised by my parents. That i will never ever make them proud of me. But now that we are old enough and i became more matured now i understand their actions that they give us equal love and attention. Its just so happen that they are acting like that because my younger sisters still needs more attention and guidance because they were still young back then.
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
3 May 07
I havent brothers and sisters, but i have seen this sometimes. And sometimes this is competition for your parents` approval. This can be a competition -provocated by the parents / and i disagree that this is just to stimulate both children/. As a result this competition can lead to jelousy and even to destroy the normal contact and friendship between the children.
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@Grillmama (294)
• United States
4 May 07
My sister actually competes with us for moms attention but she is such an opposite persanality of my mom that mom has trouble beign close to her. My mom loves all of us kids pretty equal but my sister and my brother are kind of wimpy about things and my mother is a very strong woman. I am about halfway in between my mom and my siblings so I have an easier time getting along with her.
