In marriage would you rather be the worker or the caretaker?

@howhigh (757)
Canada
May 3, 2007 1:42pm CST
I guess many excellent marriages and families have both parents as workers and i think thats great. But if you had to pick would you rather raise your kids or pursue a career? Tradition puts the woman at home but I think I would consider fighting for that job. What do you think? I would rather be the care-taker.
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Smile25
@Smile25 (43)
•
3 May 07
I would say it must be a perfect combination of a worker and a caretaker and there are lotta families who have proved that and are still proving...... Its all about striking a right balance.....
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howhigh
@howhigh (757)
• Canada
4 May 07
Yes but balance is hard to attain because suppose one partner does not want to be ingrained in a role.. for the first 30 years of your life you can be anything and then the next 30 you have to be one thing.. it can be stressful
hannahjomommy
@hannahjomommy (373)
• United States
3 May 07
This to me is easy. I would much rather be home with my kids and taking care of them cooking cleaning and going to their school functions. I used to want more like a career as an attorney or something more. But, now that I had my babies I just want to be home and take care of them and be their mommy. Its the only thing that makes me happy. My husband has a good job and loves it and wants a career and the whole nine.. thats what he awnts not what I want.. now I know everyone is different.. :) But, kids are only little one times.
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howhigh
@howhigh (757)
• Canada
3 May 07
I agree i would want to spend all the time i can with them as they grow up because it is such a special time. Its good that you have a partner that is in balance to your interests in life. Hopefully you guys can continue to work side by side.. your a team!
lucky_witch
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
4 May 07
nOt because woman stays at home and take care of the house and the kids...she has less responsibility than the husband, are in charge of the kids... have to be sure that they are doing fine everyday... take charge of the house... have to be sure that the whole family would have foods to eat and clean clothes to wear... We have to work 24/7 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week) with the youngest screamoing at night to be fed... to the tough laundry in the morning... without pay and promotion...only kiss and thank you... sometimes insult from a cook not cooked well...:p I guess pursuing career depends... IF the man you have married CANNOT do his responsibility on his own... meaning doesnt have enough resources to support the family...
AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
3 May 07
thats hard because as much as I would want to stay home and take care of home.. make it nice for my husband and children...I also want to be in the work force making money dealing with challenges.. and being able to spend the money I earned...So i would have to say both
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