I can't believe what I'm reading

As for me it is not proper to divulge such because I'll categorized it as private properties, but since it's what other mylotters wanted as a topic then they are entitled on it. It's up to the respondents how they will tackle or handle it. More so, we are not forced to respond every topic if we don't feel like responding it. It's a shame on me discussing my partner online, for the whole world.

I think if you are in a relationship with someone you should ALWAYS watch what you say about that person, be it to a friend, stranger or online, because what you say has a bad habit of coming back to bite you in the butt. I love my husband and we have talked about what I am about to say.... He thought he was safe talking about me to HIS friends at work, what he didn't know at the time was that I would find out later what he said. I knew better than to bring it up while we were alone because once caught the first thing we all do is deny, deny, deny. So I brought it up in front of the friend he told. He said he didn't mean it like it sounded but he got the point, don't talk about me because I will find out one way or another.

You feel bad by seeing this kind of discussions because you are truthful to your husband and vise versa. All people are not same. By submitting such discussion they might have some other bad intentions. so dont concentrate on what others are doing. Be happy

They are probably saying things about their husbands knowing their husbands aren't going to read these. I don't ever complain about mine. He's too good to me and has changed my life for the better. If a wife has a problem with their husband they need to talk to him. It is communication that will build a relationship stronger. My husband tells me all the time if he has a problem or doesn't like something. I do the same to him. It's funny how open we are and to read about someone else's problems. We both agree for these women to just communicate. I can tell them how to start out the conversation if they are scared. It's simple to do if you are with the right one.

Some stuff is okay to post in my opinion, like just vents about my husband doesnt help as much and stuff like that because it's normal stuff most couples deal with. But saying my husband is fat and i'm not attracted to him anymore or my husband has bad breath, that's just wrong! Even if they discussed it already I still think it's wrong because really its just a step (if that) above coming on here and making fun of your spouse. That's just plain mean. I know I would be mad if I saw something like that and my husband posted it. It would make me feel lousy and like he couldn't talk to me about it. Communication is everything people!

I have seen these posts too and can only imagine the hot water people would be in if their spouse read it. Anything I write, I would not mind it being read by anyone I know in my day to day life. Anyone could be reading this stuff, so there is no point in offending people.

I usually ignore this type of discussion, I find them embarassing and unpleasant. I wonder how the posters would feel if someone posted like that about them.

When I see that kind of posting I just ignore it. I don't like to read discussions that are putting their spouses down. That is not a very nice thing to do and if the shoe was put on the other foot they would not like it done to them. But this is a place you can post pretty much what you wish. But I chose not to read that kind of nonsense about a persons spouse. I read more quality discussions than that since I don't look at that as a quality discussion. I simply ignore it.

In general, I find it somewhat unpleasant... although (as you say) when people are exploring (suspected) abusive situations, I highly recommend sharing, as a means to gaining better insight into a difficult situation. I also don't have a problem with people who talk about what they learned from relationships with exes... as long as they stick to the basic facts, rather than getting on a nasty vendetta... I was married to an emotionally abusive person, and speak quite freely about it... not because of anything I may/may not feel about my ex, but because I recognize the situation as traumatic, and if even ONE person contemplates their own situation after reading about mine, then maybe I have helped that person make a better life for themselves. The sad truth is that "trash sells." The National Enquirer outsells the New Yorker by a factor of 10-to-1. We don't have to LIKE it, but it seems to be "part of the human experience." As for what anyone writes about me, I have reached a point in life where I could care less, since it really says more about the person MAKING the statement, than it does about me. Actions speak louder than words....

I for one think this is right up there with bashing your spouse or loved one to your co-workers when they are not around and then hoping that it will not get back to them. Inexcusable! Are they still in high school or what? I honestly think that they posted those discussions to see how many people they could get to respond to them. I for one will not be one of them. If I have a problem with my hubby, I tell him. I don't go tattling to a bunch of people on the internet that I don't really even know. To me that is embarrassing and very rude to my hubby. Don't these people think on their actions before doing these things? JMO

I think if there that ashamed of them,why are they with them? Thats just too sad that people do that .

I have not seen this on myLot.....I do see folks asking for several different types of realtionship advice; husband/wife, mother/child, work related and many more. I would imagine that not a single person would admit that they would like to be discussed in a negative manner....and in life there are times when a person who is dealing with a sense of unhappiness or dissatifaction with their lives may speak negatively.....I have seen it, hell, I have probably done it.....we all have days when just everything gets to us and one of the nice things about myLot is that it gives you a place to vent.....seek advice or such a shoulder to cry on......we all need to have someone to talk to; it helps us open our minds, and see where our feelings truly are....this can easily be done by distinquishing between viewpoints that are similar and different to your own.......Basically, I think that myLot is sometimes, a sounding board for overwhelming emotions! Having said that, I, personally would not care if my husband read every post on myLot.... I found this to be an intersting topic, my friend.

I've seen some of those posts too and am surprised by it. Even if my wife didn't post on here I still would never put anything like that up. It's disrespectful to the other person and if that other person truly is your partner then you should be able to bring things up like that. Mind you, you have to go about it in a nice way as to not hurt the other person, be tactful. Oh and if their husbands saw what they wrote the husband would be angry.

I was always taught, if ya can't say something nice...........don't say anything at all. And I agree, what is the point, besides maybe they want there spouse/boyfriend to read it! I post to ones that are about our other halves, such as funny things, and generalized discussions, bout family, friends, etc. But, if I was in an abusive relationship....I'd be calling the cops not posting it on mylot. And if there was something really offensive about my guy (hmmm, can't think of anything, lol) I would opt to discuss it with him not others on the internet.

I don't think it's right at all to spill your dirty sheets to the public. I also find it very sad that they could even talk this way about their spouse. I couldn't do it and I wouldn't want someone talking like that about me to complete strangers. So I agree with you. It's not right.

I think that it reflects a deep need of the person doing the writing. They obviously are quite insecure and get some need for importance satisfied by putting down someone else. Sadly, the person who should mean the most to them and from whom they could likely derive some self-worth as a spouse if they tried! These are private matters that should be addressed privately if they are truly interfering with the relationship. Oh well, to each his/her own.

My DH doesn't read my online stuff, but I still don't talk about any of our personal issues online. I don't really talk about them with friends or family either. I've always heard that other people will judge your spouse based on what you say rather than the hole story. So if you vent about something and then you guys work it out and it's done, the person you vented to can still just remember your vent, and will think differently of your spouse. We work things out together. It's not necessary for the rest of the world to know.

I dont really see anything wrong with it. Nobody knows anybody on this board. and remeber that some of those topics might be a makeup discussion, or antoher person's expeirence. l respond to them, l dont see any problem with it. Sometimes it easy to share your feelings online to strangers than telling known people who will later gossip about it. This is just my personal view. Cheers.

Hmm... maybe it bothers them that much that they just have to let it out. Still, I do believe that they are entitled to their right to post, just as we are priveleged not to read such posts if we don't want to. My suggestion, just ignore. But yeah, you're right. I think they shouldn't divulge things about their partners, particularly embarassing and insulting things. MyLot is a public forum after all.