Would you rather just not respond to a discussion that you don't agree with

@piropos (312)
Philippines
May 4, 2007 3:30am CST
and skip answering, or would you press the respond button and express your own opinion even if you have to express a contrary one? There are posts and discussions that express an opinion and inviting others to express their own. I find that with some I can agree with, but with some, I just couldn't. Sometimes the topic is of such importance to me that even if I disagree, I have to respond. But sometimes too, I just let it go and just say to myself that well, to each his own and skip answering the discussion. Would you not respond to a discussion because you don't agree with it and would you not be afraid to get a negative rating for that, or just answer anyway?
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@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
4 May 07
I'd just respond, I wouldn't really care if anybody wants to rate me negative because I have a different opinion than them. It'd just show there's a lack of maturity on their side incapable of handling alternative opinions. In general you can pretty much say that with whatever statement you make, at least half in the world will disagree.
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@piropos (312)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Isn't it that we can disagree but be agreeable about it? And yes, we can be sure that for whatever opinion we have, at least half the world will disagree. lol
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• Philippines
4 May 07
it is true that no matter what we do, there will always be ones whom we can never please. it is best thus that, we still give our negative opinions. the poster's maturity in treating discussions will then come to the fore.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
4 May 07
Hello.piropos, I chose the discussions that could pique my interests,when i came across with a discussion that i do nto agree with,i would still reply to it as long as i got something to say,mylot was a forum,everyone could express their own opinions,it did not matter if you get something different with the members who start the discussion. If someone gave me a negative rating just because of it, i got nothing to say then. Good luck.
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Hi easy888. This is the wonderful thing about mylot. It is a wide open way to put our thoughts into writing and we have the world as our audience. Although there are limits that we must observe, this is only due to demands of courtesy and propriety. And if what we read and write here go beyond those limits, then we just have to leave. Some could just not accept other people's dissenting opinion and write personal attacks against those who oppose them. Thanks for responding and good luck too.
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
4 May 07
Oh yes sometimes I have done that with some of the discussions that I have read before going to do the discussion sometimes I have answered but you never know what the respondent will do with your discussion they may even give you a negative rating which I would not like and make you lose your star rating.
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@piropos (312)
• Philippines
4 May 07
I will admit that I have given just one negative rating to one who answered my discussion and that is because the answer was questioning my personal motives and actions in the past, and I didn't like that. We should not judge anyone, least of all here where we can't see each other personally and sometimes it's hard to find the right words to express yourself in defense of what you wrote as an opinion. And if somebody answers and judges you for what you have written, I think it is foul.
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@badpenny (741)
• Lancaster, Texas
4 May 07
I thrive on the controversial, and after all myLot was designed for the exchange of ideas and opinions. If my opinion differs from yours, I have a right AND a responsibility to tell you. I can still be tactful, abut I would respond just to put my two cents worth in. Wouldn't you?
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• United States
4 May 07
BADPENNY.... My kind of person....controversy is my middle name, too.
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
4 May 07
That's the key to disagreeing: be tactful.And I think everybody can live harmoniously even as they disagree by being tactful about it.
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@APMorison (424)
• United States
5 May 07
Without opposing opinions there is not a discussion - just a 'fan club' for the topic. Well presented opposing opinions are part of debate, if you disagree with a topic and have an Informed Desenting Position (everyone is entitled to an Informed Opinion, individually 'created facts' completely unrelated to reality - not so much) then presentation of that informed opinion is good for furthering understanding.
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4 May 07
If I disagree with a discussion I will sometimes just forget about it if I can't be bothered getting low ratings or being annoyed by the writer, which sometimes happens but other times I just write and don't care about what everyone else thinks if it's a topic I feel strongly about. It really depends on the topic!
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@friendship (2084)
• Canada
5 May 07
Sometimes, I took a response although I didn't agree with. I would like to know if we can find better ways to solve the problems. In my point of view, I could often find a "light" from different opinions. If you always use the same way from time to time, you won't finally find other ways that may be better than the one that you always use it.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
5 May 07
It would depend very much on the subject of the discussion. There are some things I prefer not to discuss at all even if I agree with them. Others I feel like responding even if I am not in agreement with it. As a rule I avoid many discussions on politics, religion and ethics as well as things that are too personal for me - but what's too personal for me might not be the same thing as for others. This doesn't mean I never respond to those questions, just that I usually avoid most of them:)
• Portugal
4 May 07
It is difficult sometimes to respond to a discussion with a different opinion because you never know how people react. And because the system here at myLot depends on your star rating (people tend to respond to people with good star rate) then sometimes I skip giving my opinion.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 May 07
I'm like you on this. Sometimes I just can't help but respond especially if I disagree on something, but I always make sure I respond in a respectful manner when I disagree. I don't think it is right for me to be ugly to someone just because I don't agree with their opinion. But sometimes, even if I disagree, there are some discussions that are just to much for me and I just skip to another one that I feel more comfortable responding to.:)
• Malaysia
5 May 07
usuallt i will respond even if i don't agree with the discussion.. well.. rating is nothing to me.. most important is i get to express my opinion.. and i'm not the type of person that love to provoke an argument.. if they say i'm wrong.. then i'll listen to their opinion.. but i still have my right to choose whether to listen to them or not right? haha.. i will only not respond on discussion that i don't have any idea about it.. for example.. movies.. or something not related to males.. very difficult to give opinion because i don't have any experience on it =)
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@eipril (401)
• Philippines
5 May 07
hmm i'd rather to response to discussion that i didn't agree with ,,i'd like to express my comment or opinion to that discussion even if i'm not agree with that ..
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
5 May 07
Hi piropos, i would prefer to respond to topics even if it is a contrary statement to be passed. MAY BE IT COULD HELP THE OTHERS
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@melissa29 (130)
• United States
4 May 07
I would respond anyway. Especially if the person posting (or responding) doesn't have their facts right. If they are trying to make a point on something and they don't have their facts right, that will make me irritated enough to respond. If they have the facts right, I will usually comment, if I have an opinion on the subject.
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@melanie652 (2524)
• United States
4 May 07
It depends on what the discussion is about. Sometimes I go on, other times I do respond. I try to be careful in my response. I don't want to flame anyone or have them feel like I'm attacking them or anything like that. I have a right to my opinion, but don't want to get a negative rating because of it. I've given positive ratings to people and discussions even though I didn't agree with them because it was well worded and thought out. They started a good discussion or had a good response to one of mine. Just because I may not agree with it, doesn't mean it deserves a negative rating.
• Philippines
4 May 07
upon reading the discussion at hand, immediately you have an idea whether it is worth responding to or not. since we are having discussions here, it doesn't really matter whether we will be giving out a confirming or dissenting response. what counts is we are responding to a discussion which we consider to be worth giving an opinion to. whenever i give a dissenting opinion to a discussion, i know that i am laying on line a possibility of getting a negative rating. nonetheless, i still believe that it is more important that i have shed some light on the subject matter.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
4 May 07
it depends on if i would not agree and that discussion makes me mad i will definately not respond because i might say something bad.If i don't agree and i;m not mad at it i can just respond to it in a normal way without saying stupid things or being hateful to that person.
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@abhish70 (54)
4 May 07
Well I would like to respond to discussions where I don't agree but I have read some discussions where they say that most of them got negative ratings for being disagree with the opinion of the member who started the discussion.So I leave such discussions as I think it is better not to respond then to get -ve rating for replying.
@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
4 May 07
If I am passionate about the subject, I will try to answer. If not, I skip on to the next one!
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• United States
4 May 07
If it's annoying or confusing, I usually ignore it. I'd rather ignore opinions I disagree with not because I don't think they have any valid right to express their opinion (not that anything is valid just BECAUSE it's an opinion), but because English classes have made everything so complicated and made me feel so ignorant and stupid that I won't bother responding, since no matter what I'll always always always be wrong somehow. I'm not very good at writing or arguing, and frankly if someone has an opinion you can't really convince them otherwise, which is irritating because most people around me like obnoxious things that insult them and hate the things I like. I really don't know what to say that will get people off my back and stop harrassing me for the things I like, which is pretty much what's torturing all of human society, so I suually just end up ignoring those people, particularly the ones who tend to do it obsessively.