Does Age matter to you in long term relationship???

You might want to ask your friend what was it he is attracted to the lady in the first place? Was it physical attractions or was it her personality? I guess your friend must have attracted to her beauty and when he discovered her true age, he was dissapointed. Love is blind. So, if age is a problem to your friend, get him to really analyse his feelings towards her. Beside, he is to young to have a serious commitment.

What he is to do solely depends on how he feels. It's better we make some decisions ourselves, especially those pertaining to our mind because our mind is so complex that we sometimes don't understand it, talk less of other people... so I would advise your friend to sit and come to terms with himself and his feelings and based on this, make his decision.

It would not bother me in the least bit. Then again, to make sure that it woudln't bother them either, they shuld have been honest with eachother from the beginning. If he loves the lady that much, it won't matter to him either, but if it does matter to him, then he must not love her as much as he says he does.

Of course I think the commitment and the responsibility are the most important things. However, for me, age would matters to a certain degree (although I have nothing against people who beg to differ). I don't think 31 and 23 is that big of a difference in the long run. I, personally, would never have a serious relationship with someone who is old enough to be my father, however. Twelve years difference maximum is about as big of a gap as I'd be willing to go. But these are just for personal reasons. For everyone else, it's really up to you to decide. Choosing to love a person never harmed anyone.

I don't think age matters, especially if everything is going well. I think he might just be freaking out coz she's 8 years older, but if they get along well, their relationship is strong & things are good then i think he needs to work out if age is really important to him or not. You say it's a long term relationship but you didn't say how long. It couldn't have been too long for him not to know - she must have had a birthday along the way somewhere!!! I think ifhe's happy with her & her with him then there's no need to ruin something good they have going on just cause he's conscious of her age. If he loves her truly, age wont mean a thing :)

I think it depends upon ur mental strength if one is mentaly strong enough to accept the relations without worring about relatives,friends and society there is no harm but your friend is in confussion as he is not metly prepare so ithink it would not be better for him to continue the relation on the other side he claims that he loves her too much so he needs to think with open mind

i am dating a girl that is my age mate, she says she loves me, but wont wait for 6 years for me to be stabel in life and get ready for marriage. she even advise me to start dating younger girls.

Well for me age doesn't matter as long as you really each other and you enjoy each other...actually, in one relationship there must be love, understanding, respect and honesty...from the very beginning they should be honest and if your friend really love that woman, he will accept her whatever she is...actually nowadays, people are mature enough to understand your situation they should not be ashamed... :)

Hi. For me, age matters in a long term relationship. Preferably, i desire that the male be older than the female because traditionally he's the head. The age-gap between this two is much wide. Except the lady did not follow the pattern of growthotherwise, i would say that she's much matured in every sense of the word more than the guy and as such their ideas and preferences will be different. Satisfying each other may become difficult as they get into serious commitment like marriage. So the guy should bring it up and they should both discuss it and if they can't go on together, then agree to break without backing out. cheers!

I don't think age matters in a relationship as long as the couple can communicate and have the same goals in life. The problem age difference brings would be they would want different things in life in different age zone. Like maybe the lady would want to have a family and the guy is too young to settle down, that's where all the differences begin. I think that depends on your friend, if he still loves the lady, it shouldn't bother him that much. If he finds it difficult to bear that she is older than him, then I see a break up coming. Anyhow, he should feel if the actual (not the age) difference is so uncomfortable.

erm.. if you ask me .. i think age does matter to me in long term relationship.. i can't accept a girl much older than me.. but i can always accept a girl much younger than me.. haha.. i don't know why .. it seems like i dislike to have a partner much older than me.. maybe its' because i'm a guy? or i am a type of person that like only something young and fresh? well.. i don't know... i think if the guy really love the girl.. it is awlays possible to have a long term relationship.. you can't care too much how others see your relationship.. but most importantly.. how you see your own relationship..

Age doesnt matter. I have listened thru cases like girl is something like 11 years older than a guy, so it doesnt matter as far as true love is concerned! But again he should think of all the consequences about the culture and society, will the society in which he is living allow this? After all it depends upon our own line of thinking, and once you decide, nothing else matters..!

I was with a guy 7 years younger than me, we even had a kid together. After the baby I watched as everything fell apart. It isn't so much the age, its more like the committment. I was ready to throw in my gloves and settle down, after all I have enjoyed my life almost to the fullest, but sadly he didn't feel that same way. He was just begining to enjoy his! So I think it would be wise for you friend to look inside of himself and determine what it is he would like to gain from the relationship! Older woman tend to be more serious about life, and if he isn't then I think he should let go now!

I don't think it matters. I mean, they did get along very well before he knew about her age. If it's true that he really loves her, then what is he being confused about? It's not like he's a minor and she's committing some sort of crime by dating him. They're both adults. And if they really go that well together, then he shouldn't let age be a hindrance for them. It's just a number. I mean, look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Demi is like, 15 years older than Ashton but they're happy together. If the girl your friend is dating doesn't look 31, then I don't know what he is complaining about. Is he worried that maybe someday they'd get married and she won't be able to get pregnant? They can like, get married when your friend is 30 and she's 38. She'd still be able to have children, though not as easily if she were younger, but she still could.

My bf is 4 uears younger than me. We both knew our ages before we got into the relationship but the age difference does make it difficult. Whole point of views are different, the music we listen to, the things we do. So what a 7 year diff I can imagine those differences just escalating in the future. I think both of them need to sit down and talk about this with each other.

No, not all.Obviously it didnt matter to hum at the time. As long as they are happy. Why does it make any difference now that he knows her age ?

he should tell her that he knows but age should not matter Iam 11 years older then my boyfriend and he is the best thing that has ever walked into my life next to my kids. love come in all age,shape, size and color. if they are happy then be glad for them.

Age doesn't always have correlation with maturity. Older people may not always be more mature than younger people. If your friend really loves her, why should he bother about the age difference? I just can't understand your friend! If he is doubtful about sharing life with older women, he should walk away by now. It means that he doesn't really love her for whoever she is. Perhaps, his love is not really love, anyway. It is better to break out now than later when both of them marry.

To me age dont matter! It is compatibility that should be the first and formost in any relationship. If he is more bothered of her age than the lady he is seeing, then does he really love her as a girlfriend. I think he needs to take time to do some soul searching to what he really wants. Lynn-Marie

if someone really loves the other , why should they care about the age, in my personal opinion i just think age if not the barrier between two lovers!