A Strange Coincidence..
@ScarletAlston (2693)
United States
May 4, 2007 5:43am CST
Right now, I know three people who are in the same sort of relationship...My cousin, my best friend's aunt, and I all have the same issue..we all have significant others who insist on saying things to us to make us think that they have some sort of complex..my cousin has a girlfriend (they are lesbians) and her "girlfriend" orders her around like a child..my boyfriend is her girlfriend's brother and he has a way of getting me to do what he wants to do..he takes the more sweeter approach..but still has times when he forgets who he is talking to...but my friend's aunt is my boyfriend's mentor and taught him everything he knows about his "way of life"...it's like they all seem to have adopted the same way of living from each other and I have to figure out how to put a stop to this...my cousin gets hit, my friend's aunt is being verbally and mentally abused, and I just find myself argueing with my boyfriend about how he talks to me...I need some opinions...
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@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
4 May 07
I think you all should sit down and talk about what is going on. I used to live that way getting hit,arguing for no reason and I finally had to leave yes it hurts but why stay in a situation where you are unhappy,upset, and always having someone tell you what to do.
No one has the right to control anyone and if you allow it they will continue to treat you anyway they want. I say get out now before its to late, been there done that.I will put in a prayer for you, god bless.
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@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
5 May 07
I sat down with my cousin and told her how she is way older than this wannabe man and she needs to go on about her business..the thing is, the chick that is hitting her doesn't seem to have anywhere else to go and does whatever she can to keep my cousin's house tied up with her presence..I can't even say anything about my aunt's man..she doesn't hear anything for cutting me off and telling a story about something they have done..as far as mine is concerned, he said some stuff to me when we talked about it and I gave him a warning..my family is watching and waiting for him to try anything crazy..the thing about him is, he is crazy but not stupid..he knows what not to do..he can talk all day, just don't go reaching and putting his hands on me..
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
4 May 07
I think your cousin needs to leave her girlfriend because nobody deserves to be hit on.She should not be putting her hands on her point blank.Your aunt doesn't need to be verbally abused she needs to get out of her relationship to.I think you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a long talk with each other.You really need to sit down and tell him how you feel.He should not be talking to you any ol' kind of way.Its respect.Arguing all the time is alot of stress which is not good for your health.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
4 May 07
I think you got this one coverd disvachic, I agree 100% .
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
4 May 07
thanks for the insight..it just really made me think...its like everytime I see my cousin, she has a different injury..and I just found out last night that my boyfriend was there when my cousin got hurt and didn't even try to stop his sister..this girl isn't even old enough to be with my cousin but loves to put her hands on her..and my aunt pretty much spends up to 300.00 a week talking to this guy of hers day and night on the phone...the fool is in jail for almost knocking her eye out..when he is on the phone, he is calling her all types of w****s and s***s telling her that she is out doing things with other guys..first time I spoke to him on the phone, I wouldn't allow him to talk to me anyway he wanted and he started calling me all types of b****es..all my boyfriend could say was "if it were me and I was on the phone with her, I would've done the same thing..thats just how we are"...I pretty much told him that I am not his child or his baby's mama, so he will not talk to me like he wants..I just feel bad for my relatives..
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
5 May 07
WOrd? That is what you call off da chain.YOu know some women like to get hit on and disrespected.NOT I,NOT da Kid.Your peeps have to wanta do it for themselves.YOu probably have tried and did all the talking you could do with them,now its up to them to want to make the final decision.YOur boyfriend needs to chill saying something like that.See yall need to talk for sure because you dont want him to start putting his hands on you.It really seems like he is controlling.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
4 May 07
To get away from this one has to develop a strong personality that way from childhood I was one child my parent had who will analyse first what they are saying and then only follow if it is worth following it. Start using your brain then others will not order you.
