How do you know when to let "friends" go?

I think the time to let go is when you know longer compliment one another. A real friend will stay true. "Friends in your life are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up and sometimes they lean on you". A true friend will treat you as he or she would do their paintings, by placing them in the best light. If you have to ask the question then you already know the answer:-)

hey... i think someone near and dear to you has hurt you.. but frankly speaking i belive friends are forever.. even if they betray you or do something bad,, they can be forgived.. no friend will do something very bad that you can never forgive them for it...

when I see that you are a "for self" kind if person and you take more than you give in our "friendship", I pretty much end it then and there..it seems like those are the kinds of people I attract..the kind of people you only see on payday..when they get paid, days later, you hear about the good time they had and what they did..I cut off all ties to the people who proved to be crappy friends..I would have to say about 95% of the people I made friends of mine are now where they started..friendless with issues

People come into your lives for reasons and seasons. not all the people you call friends will be friends forever. we meet people because they are suppose to bring something to our lives, teach us something about ourselves or life. onces those lessons are learned, then they are no longer needed. you let them go when their jobs are done. not that they are objects, but life is all about lessons, it is our job to make sure we find them.

I too had many friends in my college years, however there are times when you realize the truth and you would know who is your REAL friends, TRUE Friends. It is indeed sad to see friends go but i believe that they did have a purpose why they came into our lives at those times. To let go of a friend means she/he has done something to break your trust or was unfaithful to you. It happens, and it HURTS too. But that is just how it is, that is why i am careful to pour my heart out when i have new friends because im scared that maybe one day you would also be the same as all the others. Though it is bad not to give the person the benefit of the doubt but if you have experience the pain then you would have the precautions so that you wont be in the same situation again.

I had a best friend for years. We were born 3 days apart and were inseparatable. It felt like she was apart of me. Then suddenly when we turned 33, she changed. She became very bitter and angry, and suddenly just quit talking to me. When I questioned her about it, she laid into me like a sailor about things she had obviously fantasized had happened over the years. I didn't know how to respond because the things she was angry about just never happened. Walking away from her was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I feel like a part of me is missing. That was 15 years ago, and I just haven't had the heart to trust anyone else to be my best friend.

I think it is time to let go of the friends who do not keep in touch anymore or very seldom as they may be too busy with their personal or work lives to keep in touch. It was sad for me to let go of some friends as well as I do miss them but they are busy with their families and work and other responsibilities. I agree that letting go of the ones that are ignorant or not being there for you when you need them is a good idea or if they let you down in any way. It is tough losing friends but you can always make new ones and possibly better ones.

a lot of my friends disappointed me, so i let them go, then in the other hand a lot of friends just changed, mainly their interest and how they do things so we come apart, but we stay in contact but not very often, theres only 1 person i stay in contact with and shes my best friend, has been for years. a few things have made us have our differences but we have gotten over them and she helps me through problems and i help her through problems

Well I've dropped friends that were downright foolish, that lied and got other people to believe stuff that obviously wasn't true, that sort of thing. If you're going to stay with me, you're not going to do stuff like that. I will not put up with slander, especially when I know I haven't done anything wrong. I absolutely hate people that do the bad stuff and turn around and tell others they haven't done a thing. I also hate people that just can't be honest. I don't keep in touch with those that have irked me. I've let them go. I've talked to a few of them occasionaly but it's not like it was and it never will be. I don't give people second chances.

most of us consider as our bestfriends the ones who had been close to us before we got married. after marriage, it is next to impossible that we will able to find one anymore, unless we can identify one from out of our good neighbors around. our time is now confined and get devoted to the home that we had endeavoured to build. we will now find that slowly, the number of friends we used to have, dwindle. with each one of us having commitments that need our time and attention, we can no longer be with our friends as we used to. we have to let go of them. although we may get in touch through phone calls, we will find out that the fire of friendship is no longer at the levels that it used to be. be happy that there is still one true friend that is left for you to cherish on. know though, that when you need them, all those of your used to be good friends, will all come running to you when they will know that you need them badly. it is only the commitments to each one's family which has brought them apart from you for the moment. consider this feed and you will be happy once again for having had them for once in your life.

I was once like you. You know when I was in highschool and even when I went to college, I used to be very closed to my friends. I don't loss touch with my highschool friends and even getting more and more closer as well with my college friends. We've been into struggles that pertains to our relatioship to one another. Our frienships went into topsy-turvy. But fortuantley we were able to cope up with those afflications or challenges as we may call it. It was indeed, very sad and lonely when we realized that no matter what we'll do we really have to change ways and go on with our individual carreers and priorities. We are all working right now, in fact from north to south and from east to west. But despite of the distance, we still manage to keep in touch and exchanging updates of our individual lives. I realize that when you become more mature, you will have a different perspective of things. The childish ways have gone. There were times that we got so busy and unfortunately can not manage to keep ties anymore. BUt I don't resent on those things. I believe evrything will surely change if you already have different priorities in life. I love and cherish my friends. They maybe far away but I know for sure we will gather once again one day and will be sahring our so cold "success aand war stories". Keep your friends.

I was once like you. You know when I was in highschool and even when I went to college, I used to be very closed to my friends. I don't loss touch with my highschool friends and even getting more and more closer as well with my college friends. We've been into struggles that pertains to our relatioship to one another. Our frienships went into topsy-turvy. But fortuantley we were able to cope up with those afflications or challenges as we may call it. It was indeed, very sad and lonely when we realized that no matter what we'll do we really have to change ways and go on with our individual carreers and priorities. We are all working right now, in fact from north to south and from east to west. But despite of the distance, we still manage to keep in touch and exchanging updates of our individual lives. I realize that when you become more mature, you will have a different perspective of things. The childish ways have gone. There were times that we got so busy and unfortunately can not manage to keep ties anymore. BUt I don't resent on those things. I believe evrything will surely change if you already have different priorities in life. I love and cherish my friends. They maybe far away but I know for sure we will gather once again one day and will be sahring our so cold "success aand war stories". Keep your friends.

This sounds familiar to me. In the past year I've only kept contact with two friends I've known for a long time and more or less don't associate with the others. I guess it's just time, different interests and I just didn't want to be around them anymore, most of them disappointed me. So now I have my two friends who are still pretty supportive and understand that if they leave a message for me and I don't reply straight away that I'm not avoiding them, they're just respectful and understanding of what I'm going through and what/ who I want to be around.

In my opinion, I think we must first note that it is often the case that friendships last only for a season. Sometimes that season lasts a month, other times 50 years, but that is the very nature of relationships. Some are temporary, some are cyclical and very few are permanent. That said, I believe that if we enjoy our friendships / relationships in the moment and really challenge ourselves to be present and vulnerable, then everyone will receive the gifts that were intended for the relationship. As human beings, we are one another's teacher so when we look at it that way, it helps to take some of the pain out of the parting of ways of friends and instead allows us to perceive the true nature of our relationships so that we are always appreciative of the ones that we have and always open to the ones that are headed our way.

Well, I think you have to end your friendship by the term if once you examine it that there is no real friendship that started. When you try to reflect that that person never really became your true friend. He or she just once happen to be a fake friend so I think you have to stop it.

It's so easy for me to dump friends...I may not be the best at this or maybe I'm too good. But if the friend is continually not respecting your ideas or accepting you for what you are DUMP DUMP DUMP DUMP..... I have one friend from 30 years ago. I call here once a year on her birthday. We talk for about an hour, exchange phone numbers in case of emergency. We laugh, remember then we go back to our lives her's on the EASTCOAST mine on the WEST.

Friends come and go all through our lives. I have acquired so many friends but I can only count a handful of them to be called my true friends. I have casual friends, high school friends, University friends, and so on. A lot of my friends have migrated to different parts of the world. Some of them are still in contact with me. Others are just a memory that I can keep. It can be hard to have friends who are not supporting you. I've known friends like that. They will only remember you when they are in troubles. Otherwise, they can easily discard you with seconds. Isn't it better to have only one true friend who understand and support you rather than ten friends who did nothing but to hurt you.

A true friend is rare indeed. I have discovered over the years that it is hard for women to be real friends. As much as I hate to say it, there is quite a bit of cattiness and petty jealousy among women. Most want to be in competition for men, clothes, cars, homes, etc. Through the years I have had a few really close friends, but they can fail you miserably. The friends that I made in school and grew up with have proved to be the most steadfast and reliable. Though we are seperated by many miles we always manage to keep in touch and share each other's triumphs and heartaches.

I think you can't really avoid it on friendship its normal in your friendship but i think it depends on how you cope with it. I do have friends that have disappointed me in some cases and now i no longer have communication with them but still i consider them as my friends and do misses them a lot. But sometimes you just have to accept the truth that there is no permanent in this world that everybody has to grow up and move on.

It's not hard make a choice after all true friends are very hard to find and trust me they are not many. In the past I had many many friends ,but over the years you'll find yourself in trouble and need help and then you'll see which one to keep and which one to say goodbye. I think the time will solve your problem at least for my it worked . Many people have hidden thoughts and they only pretend to e friends some of them insist to be your "best friend" only to get something from you. Many people are selfish and think only at their own problems when they are in trouble they come ask for your help but when you are in trouble they always find reasons and excuses not to help you. Over the years I found myself in many delicate situations and I can say I have 2 people that I trust and which are my truly best friends . One of them is my girlfriend the other is one childhood old friend. I'm not malicious I still keep in touch with those who only pretended to be friends ..and to make them understand that we are not the same ... I still help them when they are in need.