If you could change one thing about the person you are with

Usual i don't want to change anything and while we are in "peace",i would love even his faults....but when we are fighting like now i wish i could have him with a short tongue(oooops...maybe not)...because he can have a lot "venom"... ...I wish to be more sensitive but i guess i want perfection and is imposible.... augusta

Well I believe when your in a relationship there are going to be things that you are not going to like in the person but I don't feel you should try to change them. If it is something that is minor and you care about that person you adjust if it is something life endangering or life threatening I'd say leave. But the only person you can change is yourself another person would have to want to change inorder for things to change. In all I think it would be best to tell the person your concerns and come to a compromise, but you also have to look on the flip side, there could be something about you that they don't like either are you really willing to start that conversation. Any event if it is something that you are willing to end the relationship over then it wasn't a relationship to start with, there are certain things you talk about up front before entering into a relationship. If someone is on the verge they are just looking for a way out anyway, a relationship is like a business there will be profits and losses you don't close the business because you encounter one loss.

I will change about my brother and make him more positive.

No, I can't say there is anything I would change. When I got involved in this relationship I said to myself I will take the good with the bad. I must have stepped in dog poo because it's been nothing but good. Thank the Lord:-) I love ya baby girl!

I've learned over the years momma, that you can't change anyone. If there is a problem with something someone does, they have to recognize it and want to change it themselves. People are just who they are. If you go about trying to change them to suit you, you are the one who is going to be disappointed. If there's something someone is doing that annoys you or that you don't like, you have to realize, there are things about everybody you aren't going to like or want to change. That only sets one's life up for heartache. It simply says, I will accept you if you change this one thing. Then that becomes something else and suddenly you find yourself trying to control that person. You have to learn to accept people just the way they are. You can of course tell that person what they are doing annoys you or you don't like it, but if they want to change 'for you' that's up to them. Learning to accept someone's faults is the best evidence of unconditional love.

It will depend upon one's attitude toward life or i should say postive change. if the othere person is criticiser i think it would be hard to change him untill i can make him realise that this change is for his betterment for his bright future . if he /she is a real friend of mine think he should respect my ideas and suggestions i will try my best. if fails to do and his that habits doesn't suffer me a lot i can ignore it