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When I was small ,my mom used to test my knowledge after my preparation ,but she never stressed herself or atleast that's what I thought.As I grew up my parents let me handle my exam preparations.I did have tutors towards the end of schooling ,but for the most part my dad was good enough to help me with my science and maths and mom with the arts. I think the academic excellence is only important as it used to be but the competitiveness has perhaps gone up a notch and parents find themselves getting too involved.I'd prefer that the kids be supported than being spoon-fed.

Only when I was in primary school did my parents help me. Not as much as when I was in the kindergarten though. You see, I was naturally smart without needing any help (lol). Subsequently, I was on my own.

Dear, your parents appear very lucky that they did not need to be at home to guide you for studies. It appears that you were independtly doing all the studies. We need to be at home, when our kids are having their examins...just to guide them and to see whether they are studying or not.

I started teaching my girls the basic of ABC's and numbers when they turned two years old. I only allotted one hour to teach them and the rest of the day, they can play and fight and do whatever they like. I believe in initiating my girls about education this early so they are more prepared when they entered school. I used to do a lot of reviewers for both English and Chinese lessons for them and it was pretty hard for me because they have so many subjects. Last year, I stopped doing the reviewers and left my girls to study on their own. I don't like to pressure them with their studies and homeworks. Quite frankly, my girls amazed me when they finished their school with honors last march. I tell you, bighead, I was so proudddd of my girls.

hi whyaskq. Im not a parent but I do take care of my nephew's studies. Everyday is stress day more so on exam days. He is not a brilliant student nor is he slow. He is just plain lazy and only thinks of games, games, games. That is why, I believe, children are so hard to be left alone, boys especially. When I was a school girl I did everything on my own. But then in those days there were little if no distractions like anime shows or computers. Of course, I can always leave him alone. I do sometimes and just came back to check if he is doind things right. Most times though I would like to be there with him and expalin things and give him real life situations where he can apply what he has learned for the day. ;) Thanks and good day!

I worked part time before as a teacher and a tutor. And during exams period, my students and I, had to work double, especially for my tutorials. And I think the reason why some parents are so frantic during those times. It's because of the reward they would have after. One, the feeling of having a so clever child. Because, maybe, some parents were not that clever and maybe were not that assisted by their parents during their childhood. And parents competitions for ranking, especially when it involves the whole level ranking. It makes them so proud, especially if your child is top 1. Second, from my experience, in some schools, if your child have a perfect score in the preliminary exams, maybe he would be exempted for the final exams. So less work for the parents and students on the next exam period. And this is not only for the academic excellence, medals, awards...but also for scholarship. So at a young age, to set good academic discipline, will result in a rewarding high school or college scholarship. And a scholarship is not easy to obtain and maintain if you don't have the proper discipline and high grades. And it will help a lot especially if a family has a quite large number of children. And one of my student's parent said, she prefer to have a tutor. Because she can't relie on her child to study on his own. I understand because he was still in preparatory school. But, it was really tough and funny to tutor such a young child. And I had to do overtime during exams period. But you feel happy when your students have high scores. The downfall of this, is her children, had a difficult time to study, when I left. Because they were so used to have tutors and for the parents, they had no patience to tutor their child. They even went to my house to ask me to tutor, while they searched for the replacement. Have a great day Whyaskq!(^^,)

I would only help my Kids if they needed my Help as they have been taught at School what they needed and both my Kids did well Because if the Parent gets stressed out so will the Child and it will cause Confusion, then it will all go wrong so it is best to leave the Child to it who knows how to work it out eventually

I too had to study on my own, Why, and I passed my 11+ exam with flying colours. My children too were trusted to study themselves, otherwise, what is the point? They don't learn anything by the parents helping them. Much of the knowledge should already be in their heads, and anything they're not sure of they go over and refresh on, in swatting up for their exam. So, I say, leave and trust your kids to learn and swat in the best way they can. It will improve them a lot and instill the teaching into their minds. If you want to learn and take exams... go back to school, or college for adult education. Thank you for this discussion Why... this is a good observation of the way things have changed over the years. Brightest Blessings for a great day, my friend.

My son is too young so sometimes he need my help.I let him study alone,he is free to ask anything if he want before he start and if he isn't so sure he shows me after he finish I check it. Some parents maybe they want be at home when them children have exam not for they stress them but for they be there if they need something,don't mean they don't trust them.

When my girls were in elementary school (up to grade 6), I would check their homework each night and also quiz them on certain subjects if they had an exam the next day. We would review together to be sure they were adequately prepared. Once they entered high school (one is in Gr. 7 and the other is graduating this year), I told them that I trusted that they would continue with their good study habits because they had the personal desire to succeed. I still inquire about what homework they have each night, when do they have tests, and offer to help them study during their final exam period in June. I wouldn't take time off work or change my schedule around because of their exams though... I know that they are responsible enough to study and to succeed. I do have to let them stand on their own two feet ;)

I homeschool my kids and right now they are too young to be left alone to study. But if I do my job right, I will have given them a love of learning that will allow them to study on their own for their own reasons. Right now we follow what the kids are interested in and I incorporate subjects into it. This way they are learning what they need to know and having fun with it at the same time. Kids need to be able to learn on their own or they won't be able to handle situations as adults where they need to learn something for work or whatever.

My parents were so lucky that I was totally responsible for my own studies and rarely would they ever be asked for any sort of help. My kids are made to sit down as soon as they are home and get on with it. My youngest is borderline dyslexic so he needs a lot of extra work and help and that falls to me to make sure we get the material. For instance, he can't do his history homework if he can't read the instructions, let alone his reading or spellings etc. He is nearly caught up, and I don't think he will need to much assistance once he is. I have another son who gets assigned some fairly hefty projects and I always get roped into them, if for nothing else then he needs a desk top publishing program, or new printer cartridges, or what sort of search query should he use for whatever. I wuold love him to get more independent, because he is much worse than the younger children.

hm i am a child but according to me ma mom and dad never hav stayed with me during at home.. it depends on u if u trust ur child leav it on him let him study he will feel much more better to study alone rather than u ruling him during da studies....

I have to say something to this situation.First,I agree on the third method,that is I will give complete freedom to children and trust them fully to study by themselves.There are some reasons for this as follows. I am an independent boy,from as a pupil to graduate student.I always study by myself.Some people may say this is caused by genetic reason.There maybe really have in some point.My father is a teacher giving me some study ways and wise mind.So I just made my effort to doing my work and gained good remarks all the time.Sure, tutors and parents' advice sometimes do good to children study idea,but I don't think it most important.