Dutch or does the man pay?

I'm too lazy for the dutch thing. It requires actually splitting the bill and both getting out money, and discussing how's going to leave how much tip... just too much work all the way around. The way I've always liked to do it is just to take turns paying. "I'll pay for this one, you get the next one" or whatever. Or course if my partner made a lot more or a lot less than me, they might wind up picking up the bill more or less often, but in general I would like it to be fairly even. I just don't understand the whole rule about guys always paying. It encourages women to only date men who have lots of money, and often leaves guys feeling inadequate when they can't date just because they're not rich enough. Not only that, but it makes women feel like they're being bought, or at least it makes me feel that way. I'd far rather do it my way. =p

i dont know it depends guys usually pay for me but then i dont mind paying and going halfs if we go out i wouldnt like to feel i had to pay with my boyfriend all the time though or that he felt he was just paying for my whole life id like some independence still if my man was taking me out for a date itd be nice if he paid ive been in the situation and the guy im with has suddenly announced he doesnt have any money but like he planned it and expected me to pay i think its just what anyone wants to do

In every relationship I've been in, one person pays one time, the other one does the next. In a society where women have equal opportunity to earn an income, it doesn't seem right to me that the man should do all (or anything more than half) of the paying. If there is a large income disparity between the parnters, then it might be OK for one to pay more often, but it should depend on who has the bigger salary, not on gender. I've noticed lately when my husband and I go out, that the server will ask which of us would like the bill, instead of automatically handing it to the man. I prefer living in a society like this, where there is more equality.

If it is a date then I see no reason why the man should pay. I guess i would be comfortable by going dutch - I really dont like a man paying for me =) Now when me and my bf lives together, we more or less have a joines bankaccount and we share all expenses. I am happy with that !

if I am going out with the girls sure we usually go dutch, but if a man askes me to dinner I feel if he is asking me out tha he is paying. Unless it is dinner with a male friend just as friends than I would offer to go dutch.